Women operate in 2 primary modes

[tksniper]

Women mainly operate in two primary modes: Needing attention and needing psychological air.

Most guys who are bad with game don't know when to give attention and when to give psychological air.

A guy at the gym hawking down a woman whilst she's working out is giving her zero psychological air. She feels like she has no room to breath.

Similarly, a guy who completely ignores a woman's unique personality and her own unique contribution to the interaction isn't giving her enough attention.

Every woman wants to feel special. She wants you to appreciate her for what she brings to the table that no other woman does. And I'm not even talking about relationships. It could be a temporary fling. She has to be in the emotional state of "this guy makes me feel like uniquely me" before she can ever trust you with anything, let alone her vagina.

Yes, women want to feel human.

There is a very simple equation to this madness. The more status you have, the more the woman will want your attention and validation. The less value you have, the more she will want psychological air.


Every pickup technique youve ever learned from the pickup community is how to give women more psychological air, from being unreactive, creating jealousy plotlines, acting indifferent, and being stoic, etc. It's because these guys who invented these techniques came from low status and had the need to elevate their status. So the more low status you are, the more psychological air you have to create..The problem with old school pickup dogma is that most of these so called "gurus" never calibrated to being a man of status.

What gets a lot of high value guys in trouble is when they have reached a point of high status and they are still playing the psychological air game. At this point, the high status guy is completely miscalibrated. He might even think there is something wrong with his value and try to elevate his status even further. This is a common mistake amongst high value men who used to be low value.

When you leave the house tomorrow, you will know immediately which category you belong to. If you haven't been working on your fitness, success, self love, inner game, etc, you will cause most women to need psychological air from you. And you will probably need to employ alot of game techniques

But if you've been working on yourself and reached a point of ascension and high status, women want a connection with you, and your common "game" techniques based on the psychological air paradigm will make women feel a lack of appreciation in your presence.

 

[Solomon]

This is advanced stuff, kudos to you because few will understand the nuance of your thread

This is what I like to call a "Calibration Issue" or "Calibration principle"

Low-status guys think space = game → they become cold and robotic (she feels ignored, not intrigued).
High-status guys think mystery = distance → they end up feeling emotionally unavailable (she feels unappreciated and bounces).

There is a reason why women complain that modern men lack emotional intelligence. Most men are outcome dependent, so their actions are based on "What can I get?(sex)" Instead of "What can I create this moment? (fun, intrigue, adventure etc). The interactions feel performative, lack authenticity and for most women are just plain boring.

Most men fail because they do not even want to get to know the woman genuinely and sincerely Let me break this down so people can understand in lamen terms.

A low-status guy is like a cheesy MLM salesman who barges into your job wearing a cheap suit. He’s got all the buzzwords ready, knows the talking points by heart, and keeps dropping lines he learned from some “Redpill Podcast" or "PUA" video But something feels off robotic, scripted, forced. Why? Because he’s not really interested in you. He doesn’t care about your unique personality, your needs, or what makes you tick. To him, this is purely transactional. You’re just another name on his “prospect list.” His energy screams, “I need this sale for validation” instead of “I genuinely want to know if this is right for you.”

Now contrast that with a high-status guy. He’s also a salesman, but a different breed. When he talks to you, it feels natural, like a real conversation. He asks questions, shares personal stories, maybe even admits a weakness or two. He’s actually curious about you. He wants to understand your lifestyle, your challenges, your goals and then show how his product could make your life better or more enjoyable. There’s no pressure, no manipulative tactics, no sense of desperation. If you’re not ready, he’s cool about it:
That confidence and lack of pushiness make you trust him more, even if you don’t buy today.

Women don’t want to feel like a quota. They want to feel like a choice. High-status men(who are self-aware) understand that, which is why they don’t play the same robotic game. They sell without selling by being authentic, curious, and outcome-independent.

 

[Bigpapa]

This is advanced stuff, kudos to you because few will understand the nuance of your thread

This is what I like to call a "Calibration Issue" or "Calibration principle"

Low-status guys think space = game → they become cold and robotic (she feels ignored, not intrigued).
High-status guys think mystery = distance → they end up feeling emotionally unavailable (she feels unappreciated and bounces).

There is a reason why women complain that modern men lack emotional intelligence. Most men are outcome dependent, so their actions are based on "What can I get?(sex)" Instead of "What can I create this moment? (fun, intrigue, adventure etc). The interactions feel performative, lack authenticity and for most women are just plain boring.

Most men fail because they do not even want to get to know the woman genuinely and sincerely Let me break this down so people can understand in lamen terms.

A low-status guy is like a cheesy MLM salesman who barges into your job wearing a cheap suit. He’s got all the buzzwords ready, knows the talking points by heart, and keeps dropping lines he learned from some “Redpill Podcast" or "PUA" video But something feels off robotic, scripted, forced. Why? Because he’s not really interested in you. He doesn’t care about your unique personality, your needs, or what makes you tick. To him, this is purely transactional. You’re just another name on his “prospect list.” His energy screams, “I need this sale for validation” instead of “I genuinely want to know if this is right for you.”

Now contrast that with a high-status guy. He’s also a salesman, but a different breed. When he talks to you, it feels natural, like a real conversation. He asks questions, shares personal stories, maybe even admits a weakness or two. He’s actually curious about you. He wants to understand your lifestyle, your challenges, your goals and then show how his product could make your life better or more enjoyable. There’s no pressure, no manipulative tactics, no sense of desperation. If you’re not ready, he’s cool about it:
That confidence and lack of pushiness make you trust him more, even if you don’t buy today.

Women don’t want to feel like a quota. They want to feel like a choice. High-status men(who are self-aware) understand that, which is why they don’t play the same robotic game. They sell without selling by being authentic, curious, and outcome-independent.

pua should be much more than what you are saying, like for example using escalation techniques and compliance creation

that is maybe one of the most important stuff that a guy needs in his arsenal

 

[tksniper]

This is advanced stuff, kudos to you because few will understand the nuance of your thread

This is what I like to call a "Calibration Issue" or "Calibration principle"

Low-status guys think space = game → they become cold and robotic (she feels ignored, not intrigued).
High-status guys think mystery = distance → they end up feeling emotionally unavailable (she feels unappreciated and bounces).

There is a reason why women complain that modern men lack emotional intelligence. Most men are outcome dependent, so their actions are based on "What can I get?(sex)" Instead of "What can I create this moment? (fun, intrigue, adventure etc). The interactions feel performative, lack authenticity and for most women are just plain boring.

Most men fail because they do not even want to get to know the woman genuinely and sincerely Let me break this down so people can understand in lamen terms.

A low-status guy is like a cheesy MLM salesman who barges into your job wearing a cheap suit. He’s got all the buzzwords ready, knows the talking points by heart, and keeps dropping lines he learned from some “Redpill Podcast" or "PUA" video But something feels off robotic, scripted, forced. Why? Because he’s not really interested in you. He doesn’t care about your unique personality, your needs, or what makes you tick. To him, this is purely transactional. You’re just another name on his “prospect list.” His energy screams, “I need this sale for validation” instead of “I genuinely want to know if this is right for you.”

Now contrast that with a high-status guy. He’s also a salesman, but a different breed. When he talks to you, it feels natural, like a real conversation. He asks questions, shares personal stories, maybe even admits a weakness or two. He’s actually curious about you. He wants to understand your lifestyle, your challenges, your goals and then show how his product could make your life better or more enjoyable. There’s no pressure, no manipulative tactics, no sense of desperation. If you’re not ready, he’s cool about it:
That confidence and lack of pushiness make you trust him more, even if you don’t buy today.

Women don’t want to feel like a quota. They want to feel like a choice. High-status men(who are self-aware) understand that, which is why they don’t play the same robotic game. They sell without selling by being authentic, curious, and outcome-independent.

You hit on something that’s very important that I think most men don’t realize. There is something called “speed of trust.” The speed of trust is faster than any game technique you can possibly come up with. It’s what gets a woman into the bedroom from talking to you for 5 minutes, or 5 seconds.

When a woman trusts you, the speed is like a wormhole. You can skip all the conversational nice-ties and go straight to being alone at your place or hers.

Most guys think of game as a linear process. And they think there is a law of speed they need to follow. But imagine you are an alien who doesn’t need to obey the speed of light. Imagine you can enter a wormhole and go from the bar to her bed room without all the “steps” of seduction.

That’s what trust is. Without trust, seduction becomes a linear process that has to follow the rules of time and space.

But here is the point you made so poignantly @Solomon

“The confidence and lack of pushiness makes her trust you more.”

Why is this quote so important? Because when guys think of earning trust, they desperately try to forge a connection with the woman and “earn her trust.”

But TRUST has nothing to do with your attempt to connect with her. If anything, it could make her suspicious. If you were so high value and had options, then why are you so desperate to get her to trust you?

So who do women trust? High value guys. Guys with the attitude of “We can both win together or part ways. I like you but I don’t need you.”

Trust is earned by being high value. Think about it. If you were a business owner, would you trust a great salesman or a poor salesman who happens to be your cousin?

Trust has nothing to do with emotional connection, but everything to do with COMPETENCE.

When women don’t trust you, they simply don’t trust that you are HIGH VALUE, not because they’ll think you’ll cheat. How many times have you seen hot women forgive a high value guy for cheating over and over again?

The best attitude for a high value Don Juan is Win-Win or no deal. When you are both together, you’ll win, and she’ll win. And if this isn’t the case, then it’s no deal. You are not afraid to walk if she expects you to jump through hoops.

This attitude creates the “speed of trust”. A wormhole of seduction that can get you from point A to point Z, rather then point A to point B.

 

[Solomon]

pua should be much more than what you are saying, like for example using escalation techniques and compliance creation

that is maybe one of the most important stuff that a guy needs in his arsenal

Once your mindset is authentic of a man who carries himself with confidence, standards, and self-awareness, it transcends any technique I'm at the stage where I don't have to think about what to say or do to a woman anymore because I've been there so many times that subconsciously and consciously, I already know how to act accordingly. If I have to think of a technique or something to win her over it usually means I'm emotionally over-invested and thus trying to hard. Indifference is also something that has helped me tremendously but indifference to the outcome of wanting to bang a chick. In the past on some dates, I literally tried to end dates early just for women to be like "Where you going? I'm coming with you to your place or Do you wanna come to my place?"

 

[tksniper]

Once your mindset is authentic of a man who carries himself with confidence, standards, and self-awareness, it transcends any technique I'm at the stage where I don't have to think about what to say or do to a woman anymore because I've been there so many times that subconsciously and consciously, I already know how to act accordingly. If I have to think of a technique or something to win her over it usually means I'm emotionally over-invested and thus trying to hard. Indifference is also something that has helped me tremendously but indifference to the outcome of wanting to bang a chick. In the past on some dates, I literally tried to end dates early just for women to be like "Where you going? I'm coming with you to your place or Do you wanna come to my place?"

I had a debate with a friend about indifference. I told him I came out of the military oozing with testosterone and somehow ended up working at a victoria secret store where I was sleeping with all the women. My claim was you can only achieve total indifference with real life abundance. He claimed he had to learn inner game and achieved inner abundance first and then it manifested in real life.

@Solomon what is your experience? Do you think a guy needs outward abundance or can one achieve it through inner game work? As much as I want to say I learned my calibration through hard work it's a lie. It's mostly from being born handsome and spending years working out due to my military occupation.

 

[Solomon]

I had a debate with a friend about indifference. I told him I came out of the military oozing with testosterone and somehow ended up working at a victoria secret store where I was sleeping with all the women. My claim was you can only achieve total indifference with real life abundance. He claimed he had to learn inner game and achieved inner abundance first and then it manifested in real life.

@Solomon what is your experience? Do you think a guy needs outward abundance or can one achieve it through inner game work? As much as I want to say I learned my calibration through hard work it's a lie. It's mostly from being born handsome and spending years working out due to my military occupation.

Both can work, I think that when you have abundance, indifference is easier to apply because you're not thirsty; most men will never experience that. I know that when my game was/is at its best it's usually because I have tons of options and thus neediness and thirstyness are automatically quelled. It be a lie if I say I have abundance all the time with different women hitting me up. That's not the case for me 99% of the time I gotta go out there and make stuff happen. How many men can Say that they have had 10 romantic interests at once? or 3? Most men are lucky to deal with 1 girl at a time. Last year I went on 10 dates in one month. I didn't give a shyt if a girl flaked or not, or if a girl ghosted when you have that many options, you kind of glad that they do obviously. I wasn't able to keep them all.

However Inner game also works because it's a process of learning and applying those lessons in your actions, for me the opposite happened to you, once I got to 35/36(less testosterone compared to being 18/21) indifference became more natural because I wasn't thirsty to smash everything in sight. This wasn't an act, and women picked up on it. It's funny because the more indifferent you are the more a woman will push when you pull. The toughest thing as a man is to have the same standards and energy that you would have if you have 0 options as you would if you had 10 not easy to do. However the older I get the easier it is. I cut women of left and right whether I have 10 options or only 1. I love to hunt, you gotta be self-aware because as soon as you stop being indifferent, that's when you're thristy once you're thirsty you make dumb rookie mistakes.

 

[MatureDJ]

A low-status guy is like a cheesy MLM salesman who barges into your job wearing a cheap suit. He’s got all the buzzwords ready, knows the talking points by heart, and keeps dropping lines he learned from some “Redpill Podcast" or "PUA" video But something feels off robotic, scripted, forced. Why? Because he’s not really interested in you. He doesn’t care about your unique personality, your needs, or what makes you tick. To him, this is purely transactional. You’re just another name on his “prospect list.” His energy screams, “I need this sale for validation” instead of “I genuinely want to know if this is right for you.”

It's OVER for MultiLevelMarketingPUACels.

 

[MatureDJ]

The toughest thing as a man is to have the same standards and energy that you would have if you have 0 options as you would if you had 10 not easy to do.

I have found that SexWorkerMaxxing has made it much easier for me to have standards while having 0 options. When it's been a while, you start diddling with women that you really shouldn't be (e.g., single mommies, fatties, etc.). My fellow PassportBros going to Eastern Europe in the '90s would call it "taking the edge off".