"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women: made in womenland

Pumax

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Hi fellow guys
I feel like every woman I met, every woman I talk too, every one of them, its actually the same woman.
They all react to the same things.
It feels like I don't weigh the difference in women anymore.

When I talk to a 6, its the same if I talk to a 9.
If i talk to a 30y.o single mom, its the same as I talk to a 18.yo. or 55.
Its as I see the same individual.

They're all attracted and interested by the same things.
They only have one mind, one thinking.
They are all equal.

I could try a playful game with an 18 year old and know that I would get the same reaction with the 50 year old too.
Their mind is programmed.
They all want the same things.

If you've ever had experiences with borderline women, or women who are thirsty, or savage, and you've had the luck to have learned from them, then you see something that others can't see, and you can touch the triggers in women.
Its like knowing things they enjoy, touching those triggers, and insist when you see them trying to hide that thing you did actually turned her on.

Before, you were scared or you didnt have the knowledge to do so.
But now, its like being a jet pilot, and knowing the place and function of each different button on the dashboard.

When you understand this as a man, you start to ask yourself sensible questions like, how do men trust women and engage in LTR with them when they understand that a simple gust of wind can change their minds, like it could change the direction of a flag?

Or better, how could a man make a significant relationship when everything is programmed for those multiple infatuations, crushes in a given lifetime?

For this reason, I dont either see having oneitis an issue, both from female and male POV.
That is our nature making us strong bonded to someone for a given time, until the next venue.

I just see it a problem if a man doesnt have the knowledge to turn on women.

Ps:
We might want to have a detailed topic who describe women triggers as a jet pilot dashboard, as simple as that
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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BaronOfHair

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@Pumax "I feel like every woman I met, every woman I talk too, every one of them, its actually the same woman"

Straight/straightish women are part of the human race, thus they don't differ DRAMATICALLY from one another???!!! Next, we'll learn that most full blooded heterosexual men in our species

-Gravitate towards fiction like Mad Men, The 007 flicks, anything directed by Mike Mann, Sons Of Anarchy, and Conan The Barbarian(1982)

-Aren't thrilled by Big Brother, clerics, or/and activists dictating every nuance of our lives

-Prefer to devote more time towards our careers than we do being at home with toddlers
 

Gamisch

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You're absolutely right.

Thats why I say first off all a man HAS to experience whats it like to have a woman 100000% in to him. Because as you say , ALL WOMEN will actually the same with a guy they really really want. They'll be psychopathic, jealous, weird ,silly ,horny, nasty, risky sexual behaviour, wanting to talk for hours ect.

Soon as a woman does NOT act like this it means she is NOT into you like that...

Now , life ofcourse never is completely black and white thus the way a woman responds can be different. She might wanna be a mother ao badly that she will let a dude impregnate her while she know the dude won't stay for various reasons. She might feel social pressure and be a in relationship with a man she doesn't really like. She might go on dates or actually date a guy because of logistics and money.

But it always comes down to the same ol' game. And thats something that 99% of men can or won't accept. For example;

Many men I know (most) tried EVERYTHING in their power to obtain a relationship with any woman...some went 3rd world shopping, others bought houses with women that constantly disrespect them. Basically believing that "this one will ne different ". Meanwhile she's feeling so so about him and he is a constan denial.

If she doesn't give you 100% , she is NOT into you ,period. You can have four kids with a woman who actually doesn't like you...
 
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