Woujo
Don Juan
- Joined
- May 13, 2017
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Men often cannot understand why womens’ sexual attraction is linked to a desire for emotional experiences. Why does a woman need a man to have fun? Why can a woman not make fun emotional experiences on her own? And what do emotional experiences have to do with women getting horny? Obviously, men also like women who are fun, interesting, and adventurous, but most men would still be sexually attracted to a beautiful woman if she was boring, anxious, and dumb as a bag of rocks. Women are different. A woman can have no desire to have sex with a man, but then spend an afternoon walking around a museum watching him confidently make fun of the paintings and then want to **** his brains out afterwards. Why?
I was personally perplexed by womens’ need for fun emotional experiences because I did not understand why I always needed to make things “fun” for women. I noticed my approaches were much more effective when I was fun, high-energy, and positive, but the moment an interaction started to get boring or stale, I could feel the woman emotionally checking out and her attention slowly drifting away. I was confused. If a woman “liked” me, why did I need to create emotional fireworks? When I was around my guy friends, I could just drink a bunch of beers and watch the game saying nothing at all. Why couldn’t I do that with women? Why did I need “game” or to “hold frame” or any of the bull**** this place is about? Also, why could I not tell her about my problems and fears like guys in the movies do? These questions perplexed me because, like most men, I expected womens’ sexual attraction to be like mens’ sexual attraction, which it is not.
I soon learned that emotional experiences drive womens’ sexual attraction because women are much, much, much, more neurotic than men and evolved to rely on the alpha male for positive emotion. In fact, whether a man can alleviate a woman’s neuroticism is the primary way she evolved to recognize the alpha male. If a woman feels bored, unsafe, or other negative emotions around a man, or worse – if she senses that the man himself feels negative emotion – evolution is telling her to get away from him and find the real alpha male. Women can obviously feel positive emotion without men, but the alpha male provides women feelings of power, confidence, fun, status, and freedom from anxiety that women cannot generate on their own. In fact, I would say that the core of the masculine-feminine polarity is the attraction between the negative, insecure, cautious woman and the confident, positive alpha male.
The word “neurotic” simply means “sensitive to negative emotion.” According to the psychologist Edmund Thompson, “individuals with high scores for neuroticism are more likely than average to be moody and to experience such feelings as anxiety, worry, fear, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, guilt, depressed mood, and loneliness.” Studies show that women consistently score higher than men on neuroticism tests and suffer from anxiety and depression at more than twice the rate of men. Feminists and other social constructionists often claim that women score higher on neuroticism tests because life in the modern world is worse for women, and they may be correct to some degree, but it seems clear that at least part of womens’ neuroticism is inherent in their biology.
Aside from science, you can tell women are neurotic by just observing them. Women freak out about small things and remote threats, they are terrified of transgressing boundaries and making people upset, they cry at work, they are disproportionately affected about innocuous comments and minor insults, and they often obsessively focus on the worst possible thing that can happen in every situation. Not all women are neurotic in the same way or degree, but overall, the average woman is much more neurotic than the average man.
Women are neurotic because the two strongest positive emotions to human beings are 1) the feeling of venturing into the unknown, defeating challenges, and getting the things you want (adventure), and 2) the feeling of being accepted by the tribe (acceptance). Women are unable to generate these emotions on their own, which is why they are dependent on the alpha male for these core elements of their happiness. Women are physically weaker than men and responsible for taking care of babies, so they evolved to be afraid of the unknown, averse to any kind of confrontation (especially physical combat), hyper-sensitive to threats, and terrified of being rejected by the tribe. Of course, if there is no alpha male around and women were absolutely forced to take the lead and fight the bad guys, they can do so, they will just feel a lot more negative emotion doing it.
From an evolutionary standpoint, womens’ neuroticism is a feature, not a bug. The last thing evolution wants is for women to wander the jungle alone or directly confront bad guys, so it instilled a powerful compulsion in them to stay in the territory of the tribe and venture into the unknown only under the protection of the alpha male. Women can contribute to the tribe in many ways so long as they do not take the lead because leading requires the emotional fortitude to confront challenges head-on. Leadership also requires one to take responsibility for the tribe’s success or failure, and women do not want that responsibility because they cannot take the risk that the tribe will turn on them and reject them for failing.
I was personally perplexed by womens’ need for fun emotional experiences because I did not understand why I always needed to make things “fun” for women. I noticed my approaches were much more effective when I was fun, high-energy, and positive, but the moment an interaction started to get boring or stale, I could feel the woman emotionally checking out and her attention slowly drifting away. I was confused. If a woman “liked” me, why did I need to create emotional fireworks? When I was around my guy friends, I could just drink a bunch of beers and watch the game saying nothing at all. Why couldn’t I do that with women? Why did I need “game” or to “hold frame” or any of the bull**** this place is about? Also, why could I not tell her about my problems and fears like guys in the movies do? These questions perplexed me because, like most men, I expected womens’ sexual attraction to be like mens’ sexual attraction, which it is not.
I soon learned that emotional experiences drive womens’ sexual attraction because women are much, much, much, more neurotic than men and evolved to rely on the alpha male for positive emotion. In fact, whether a man can alleviate a woman’s neuroticism is the primary way she evolved to recognize the alpha male. If a woman feels bored, unsafe, or other negative emotions around a man, or worse – if she senses that the man himself feels negative emotion – evolution is telling her to get away from him and find the real alpha male. Women can obviously feel positive emotion without men, but the alpha male provides women feelings of power, confidence, fun, status, and freedom from anxiety that women cannot generate on their own. In fact, I would say that the core of the masculine-feminine polarity is the attraction between the negative, insecure, cautious woman and the confident, positive alpha male.
The word “neurotic” simply means “sensitive to negative emotion.” According to the psychologist Edmund Thompson, “individuals with high scores for neuroticism are more likely than average to be moody and to experience such feelings as anxiety, worry, fear, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy, guilt, depressed mood, and loneliness.” Studies show that women consistently score higher than men on neuroticism tests and suffer from anxiety and depression at more than twice the rate of men. Feminists and other social constructionists often claim that women score higher on neuroticism tests because life in the modern world is worse for women, and they may be correct to some degree, but it seems clear that at least part of womens’ neuroticism is inherent in their biology.
Aside from science, you can tell women are neurotic by just observing them. Women freak out about small things and remote threats, they are terrified of transgressing boundaries and making people upset, they cry at work, they are disproportionately affected about innocuous comments and minor insults, and they often obsessively focus on the worst possible thing that can happen in every situation. Not all women are neurotic in the same way or degree, but overall, the average woman is much more neurotic than the average man.
Women are neurotic because the two strongest positive emotions to human beings are 1) the feeling of venturing into the unknown, defeating challenges, and getting the things you want (adventure), and 2) the feeling of being accepted by the tribe (acceptance). Women are unable to generate these emotions on their own, which is why they are dependent on the alpha male for these core elements of their happiness. Women are physically weaker than men and responsible for taking care of babies, so they evolved to be afraid of the unknown, averse to any kind of confrontation (especially physical combat), hyper-sensitive to threats, and terrified of being rejected by the tribe. Of course, if there is no alpha male around and women were absolutely forced to take the lead and fight the bad guys, they can do so, they will just feel a lot more negative emotion doing it.
From an evolutionary standpoint, womens’ neuroticism is a feature, not a bug. The last thing evolution wants is for women to wander the jungle alone or directly confront bad guys, so it instilled a powerful compulsion in them to stay in the territory of the tribe and venture into the unknown only under the protection of the alpha male. Women can contribute to the tribe in many ways so long as they do not take the lead because leading requires the emotional fortitude to confront challenges head-on. Leadership also requires one to take responsibility for the tribe’s success or failure, and women do not want that responsibility because they cannot take the risk that the tribe will turn on them and reject them for failing.