"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women know a rake when they meet one

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Been Single for the last 8 months or so just flinging around with girls having a bit of fun. But women at work seem to be able to tell that I won't stick around with a girl for too long, its gone to the point where they are telling the hot girls at work to "steer clear of him".

Meanwhile they tell me to settle down and have kids because as two old ladies put it "Once that bus leaves it won't ever come back". I replied back with "Theres always another bus coming after 15 mins", to which I got "the look" from both of them. This little convo has got me thinking that the claws have come out against me at work as for the last 2 weeks now the hot girls at work have kept their distance but are still giving me high levals of IOI's.

How should I play this out ?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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You're completely screwed at work. Same thing happened to me at my job, despite my thinking that I was working well outside of my social circle. If you are memorable in any way (for being excellent or bad), your name will circulate. It'll build up quickly and if any woman is aware of 3 different women you've hooked up with in your company then you can consider yourself toast.

Get outside of your workplace. I made this mistake early on and am paying for it dearly. I was not selective enough (i.e. the hot ones weren't the ones that got me a reputation). Now the best of the bunch consider me a man-slut and won't think of dating me.
 

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Deadly_Ripped said:
You're completely screwed at work. Same thing happened to me at my job, despite my thinking that I was working well outside of my social circle. If you are memorable in any way (for being excellent or bad), your name will circulate. It'll build up quickly and if any woman is aware of 3 different women you've hooked up with in your company then you can consider yourself toast.

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....or she might find you a challenge. Was it Rollo or Roissy: "Women want to fvck men that other women want to/have fvcked".
 

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Well, I'm not the type to tell someone don't hook up at work. Because if I get vibes from a hot girl at work, I'll f**k the hell out of her. But if you're macking multiple girls in the same office, to the point when these old ladies know about it, you may need to keep that stuff more private.

I kind of disagree with Deadly Ripped though. The guy with the reputation for getting girls is just going to end up getting more girls. "Stay away from him. He's bad." warnings are the gift that keeps on giving. Girls can't resist their urge to tame a "wild man". Not that I'm saying you're wild. But girls tend to have active imaginations.
 

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That's true ONLY if the women you have a rep for sleeping with are of equal or better quality than the woman considering you as a potential lay.

If she thinks the girl you hooked up with is "below her", then she's not going to want to tame anything. If the hot ones aren't the ones you're laying, then you're setting yourself up for a bad rep that doesn't help at all, except with lower quality women than those you hooked up with.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Well I work at the airport in my city and am floor supervisor in a duty free store, so most of the girls are promo chicks or the chicks that sell beauty products. Some are super hot others are average. It's the old fugly's causing a stir.
 

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You've forgotten one of the laws of power. Something like" Keep your thoughts to yourself"[haven't read them for a while]. ACT like one of the sheeple....even if you aren't. I don't run around telling EVERY woman "I'll never get married because I'm saving more money now than when I was married.
When an old lady tells you "you need to settle down", you just tell her " I haven't found the right one yet" Let her think you've bought the whole societal ideal. Don't start unnecessary fights with people[who knows she may have a niece you could bag]
 

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Iceberg said:
Well, I'm not the type to tell someone don't hook up at work. Because if I get vibes from a hot girl at work, I'll f**k the hell out of her. But if you're macking multiple girls in the same office, to the point when these old ladies know about it, you may need to keep that stuff more private.

I kind of disagree with Deadly Ripped though. The guy with the reputation for getting girls is just going to end up getting more girls. "Stay away from him. He's bad." warnings are the gift that keeps on giving. Girls can't resist their urge to tame a "wild man". Not that I'm saying you're wild. But girls tend to have active imaginations.
yep...see Rhett Butler.
 
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