Women I've dated don't care about looks

[ThisNThat]

I think every woman I've ever dated, told me personally that they don't care about looks, and thus...the reason they dated me.

I wanted to ask if that's actually good...or bad? It's like, if they don't put stock in looks...does that mean passion or sexuality does not exist in them or are they turned on by other means?

One woman that actually took an interest in me, I asked her out because she was hinting around at it and I thought she was pretty cute.herself. (Have at thing for women with bob cuts.)

Mid-40s, but looks young for her age.

Anyways, we get to talking about dating and she outright told me that she doesn't care about looks. Of course, the first thing you think is that she's into personality....thus the reason they were attracted to me, I guess?

One woman I was hot and heavy with, said the same thing, so the passion was there in that case.

The only downfall is that my dates are few and far between in frequency, so it's not like I'm swimming in "plates"...but, not that I'm complaining as I don't need to have 3 dates per week either.


So you could say they are quite the unicorns in this case, but I wanted to ask if there's something to be said about women who don't care about looks? Like I had asked, do they lack passion mostly? Cold fish?

Just theorizing here.

 

[AlphaNate]

I think every woman I've ever dated, told me personally that they don't care about looks

Got all I needed to know here. Ignore what she says and look at what she does.

 

[ThisNThat]

Look at their exes to see if its true or not.

Typically, their ex's or whomever they dated...the looks varied in each person. So there is consistency in what they said.

From fat, to skinny, to even totally handsome. I dated a woman that was averse to men that were TOO attractive (To her) because she had a preconceived notion that they were players that cheated/slept around.

 

[Serenity]

A man looking good doesn't really make a woman happy just by looking good. It's great for attracting shallow women, they are initially happy about a man looking good. That works a little while before their craziness shines through.

What turns a woman on is action, what you do and how you do it. If you're fucking a woman, but you just lay there passively while she rides your cock she'll be bored. If you touch her all over the place and really physically engage while showing exactly how much you enjoy it, she will probably become a lot more attracted. None of this is looks, it's behavior.

I mean, if a really hot woman was just laying there like a starfish in my bed I would be turned off. At that point her looks who supposedly meant a lot sexually now means absolutely nothing. Same is true the other way, if the woman isn't as hot visually but fucks me like she'll never see a dick again. Her looks still means very little to my sexual satisfaction, but the way she fucks really makes me feel good.

Your sexy face and body won't satisfy them sexually. How you use your body, your hands and your dick will satisfy them, so looks is less important.

 

[cityboy989]

Look at their exes to see if its true or not.

Yup. I know of a particular girl who would either get pumped and dumped, or be in relationships with aloof guys (who knew she was a mess, just basically using her for sex.) She also lathers herself in drama. She subconsciously loves drama. It's probably all she knows. She's currently in a relationship with a TOTAL doofus Captain-Save-A-Ho beta. I know the guy, he used to cry about how most of his exes were crazy, yadyadayada. The funny thing is, hes now with the aforementioned girl who is emotionally unstable. Something attractd him to these types of chicks. Also, she's hot-- he wouldn't have gotten with her under normal circumstances. I'm suspecting their relationship is a ticking time bomb before she self-destructs the relationship and goes back to sleeping around (which is secretly what she enjoys) or she actually tries to find a true alpha to be in a relationship with.. but no alpha will want anything to do with her, other than FWB.

But yeah, look at her exes to see if she doesn't care about looks. I always thought that was such a ridiculous statement. You're okay with being together with somebody who you're not physically attracted to? Suuuuureeee....