Women having sex to get attention. Why?

[GtarPlayr73]

I could work this out myself (maybe!) but i'd rather spark a discussion. My question is this:

How is it possible for a woman to have sex just for the sole purpose of getting attention? Why doesn't that woman want to have sex for the sake of having sex??? Or is all sex for pleasure, but some sex serves a second purpose of getting or maintaining a man's attention.

 

[blueguy]

Sex is infinitely more pleasurable in the human brain when there are fantasies attached to it. A woman having sex with a man of power (power can take many forms - social, financial, etc.) can effectively use some of that power for her own purpose. It's not really a conscious thought in her head while she's having sex with you in most cases, but she does "want a piece" of you. Of course, they enjoy the pleasure in sex as well, but that gets BORING once a woman has control of a man or she finds the man not as attractive or powerful as she once thought (thus the decline of sex in long term relationships, marriages).

 

[joekerr31]

a woman would rather hear 'your beautiful' than have an orgasm any day of the week.

you have to get it through your head that women's self esteem is none existent. their entire sense of worth comes from external validation.

this is the thing men just do not get is how much women NEED approval.

check my post to the youtube video that shows women without make up. THAT is who they KNOW they are. from a very young age they are conditioned to 'pretty' themselves up.

as males we can't appreciate the psychological state that creates. its not like putting on a suit or shaving your face. it is inherently implied to these women that their natural state is NOT of much value and that they must dress themselves up to be 'attractive'.

if men really knew just how little self esteem even beautiful women have they would not be intimidated by women.

even the so called hb9s don't have inherent self esteem. they have a false sense of self esteem - over the years enough guys have drooled over them that they figure, all in all, they must be hot. but deep down they know - put on 15 pounds, get a bad haircut, stop wearing makeup - and that value can disappear in the blink of an eye.

as men we concern ourselves with looks of course. but not to the same degree. for us being successful in our careers, being self sufficient and independent and finding our 'way' in life all drive an internal sense of self esteem where we say 'f*ck what hte world thinks. I rock!"

so for women attention is 10x as powerful as sex. plus, many women have had bad sex experience - some guy pounding away on them for 5 minutes and then falling asleep.

anyway, at the core of it all women spend their lives trying to attract men, and the associated value of being wanted and admired by others. men on the other hand spend their lives attacking life trying to get what they want. one requires an obsessive concern with what others think, the other requires that you don't give a sh*t what others think!

ill say it a million times, being a woman ain't no blessed fate. heck look at anna nichole smith - even the hot ones get totally f*cked in the head because they can't reconcile mass adoration with their own internal sense of low self esteem (and end up feeling like a fraud or a piece of meat who has no value beyond men's desire to f*ck them).

women will do just about anything for attention.

want to increase your ability to catch women, heres a simple tip that will work better than 90% of the advice you'll see on this board. Compliment what she is wearing. you don't have to do it in a sleezy way. just say "hey, that's a nice blouse you're wearing."

they will look stunned for a second as the only time they get compliments is when some guy is trying to f*ck them. and as long as you do it casually, they will sense that you are just paying them a compliment and then they will beam with happiness. next thing you know they can't be around you enough.

 

[STR8UP]

ill say it a million times, being a woman ain't no blessed fate.

It's too bad it usually takes guys 30+ years to figure this out!

 

[joekerr31]

32 years in my case

and yes, it is too bad.

 

[st_99]

took me 31 years... solid posts on your part joekerr

 

[blueguy]

It's too bad it usually takes guys 30+ years to figure this out!

Yeah, it sucks. I wish I would have figured it out sooner! That way I wouldn't have wasted away my childhood wanting to be a woman!

 

[joekerr31]

personally i blame my dad

f*cking guy taught me nothing! (im sure many here could say the same thing)

 

[STR8UP]

personally i blame my dad

f*cking guy taught me nothing! (im sure many here could say the same thing)

About 10 years ago my dad DID tell me that the 30's are the best time in a man's life, but he didn't elaborate. Now I know exactly what he meant

 

[Last Man Standing]

You are not talking about women - you are referring to hors!! Hors do what hors do - they hor!!!

 

[tmpgstx]

It's funny how you figure that out lol. I'm over 30 and you put almost word for word what i've come recently to know based on experience.

I've even figured out to do the compliment thing right in the same way.

Here's another tip to add to that .. let her catch you doing 'elevator eyes' - i.e. up and down her body. Couple this with a geniune compliment every now and then, sends them through the roof with sexual tension.

 

[azanon]

You are not talking about women - you are referring to hors!! Hors do what hors do - they hor!!!

You really need to find a new way to make your point. A "Woman" is nothing more than a female human; its not a reference to any status or moral honor. Some women are hors, all hors are women. In short, you're correcting these men when you're the one that's in error.

If you misuse the English language, even given your slang, then how can you reasonably expect anyone to take your advice? It might stand to reason that maybe your advice is also in error.

 

[LovelyLady]

a woman would rather hear 'your beautiful' than have an orgasm any day of the week. .

You can't be serious?! This is just absurd.

 

[wayword]

Sex is different for women because:

1) They physically want it less. They have 20X less testosterone and thus far lower sex drives.
2) It is often less satisfying for them. It is generally harder for them to cvm through intercourse. Even when getting drilled by massive kawks for 20 minutes in p0rn...when p0rnstars want to actually get off they still have to reach down and frig their cl!ts. Watch carefully and you'll see that nearly every time. So, if 8" studs pounding away for 30 minutes don't get most pro girls off - how do you think the average man is going to fare with average girls?

Compare this to men who can basically get off at will EVERYTIME we have sex. And have ~20X higher sex drives!

However, this doesn't mean women might not enjoy sex for different reasons:

1) It is an incredibly powerful way for them to manipulate and control men. They can get anything from a drink to half a man's net worth by screwing us! Puzzy tames the savage beast! And turns him into a drooling lapdog!
2) They measure and validate this power by how much attention they can get from us. In other words, the more badly men want them - the more powerful they feel. And doesn't it feel goooodddd to be powerful!
3) They enjoy the emotional attention itself. Why do you think women ALWAYS must have an emotional companion - like boyfriend, girlfriends, pet or baby? They have a constant need to emotionally bond.

In short, for women, SEX = POWER + CONTROL + ATTENTION + VALIDATION...which is what they are often into it for moreso than the physical pleasure itself. It's basically a big ego trip and power tool for them.

 

[GtarPlayr73]

Interesting, wayword. That explains a personal experience of mine where the girl was all about having sex with me and then didn't want any for indefinite periods of time. I could never figure that out. She clearlly enjoyed it, having initiated it herself, and she knows she can get more of it whenever she wants, but she never does! I mean, she DID orgasm from oral sex every time we had sex. And this same girl that complained that sex took too long. She's not into foreplay! That makes her the only one on the planet, right?! Other women i have been with were much more sexual. So different behavior for different women. Each relationship is different.

I just find it pretty disturbing to consider women having sex for reasons other than sexual, physical pleasure. Seems pretty cold, calculating, manipulative...not very feminine traits (ie - caring, nurturing, desire to be close, etc). I f*cking thought women dream about being close and emotional and caring with a man and having mind-blowing experiences! And the ****oris is all about pleasure, so they certainly can experience pleasure. Hell, the whole female body is geared to experience physical pleasure. I guess women who sex for reasons other than sex for sex's sake are dysfunctional and immature.

 

[joekerr31]

You can't be serious?! This is just absurd.

says the woman with the nick 'lovelylady' :crackup:

 

[Hitman10000]

WHy do you find it disturbing? That's how it is. See it from a woman's POV. She is physically weaker and she is going to have foreign objects sticking up her vagina. Can she trust this foreign object? Is her life complementary with this foreign object?

Men give love/fun for sex. Women give sex/fun for love. That's how it is. What's so cold/calculating that makes a female not feminine? Remember, it's their bodies and it's not for the taking, if you want some honey you better have the money and balls to put up with it. If you start seeing woman as companions then you might change your view of women.

And yes, even women will date guys they are not 80%+ totally interested in because he either has 1. money 2. he's the best she can pull 3. he is a status object to her and her friends to show off. 4. and the lowest of all..because she is lonely and he is like a girlfriend to her.

Interesting, wayword. That explains a personal experience of mine where the girl was all about having sex with me and then didn't want any for indefinite periods of time. I could never figure that out. She clearlly enjoyed it, having initiated it herself, and she knows she can get more of it whenever she wants, but she never does! I mean, she DID orgasm from oral sex every time we had sex. And this same girl that complained that sex took too long. She's not into foreplay! That makes her the only one on the planet, right?! Other women i have been with were much more sexual. So different behavior for different women. Each relationship is different.

I just find it pretty disturbing to consider women having sex for reasons other than sexual, physical pleasure. Seems pretty cold, calculating, manipulative...not very feminine traits (ie - caring, nurturing, desire to be close, etc). I f*cking thought women dream about being close and emotional and caring with a man and having mind-blowing experiences! And the ****oris is all about pleasure, so they certainly can experience pleasure. Hell, the whole female body is geared to experience physical pleasure. I guess women who sex for reasons other than sex for sex's sake are dysfunctional and immature.

 

[Hitman10000]

And read your post again gtrplayer, I counted sex more than a dozen times..which is your FOCUS of the relationship and perhaps how you view women. I thought you wanted "close and emotional and caring with a man" Hey.. I didn't say it, You said it..more than a dozen times.

 

[joekerr31]

I just find it pretty disturbing to consider women having sex for reasons other than sexual, physical pleasure. Seems pretty cold, calculating, manipulative...not very feminine traits (ie - caring, nurturing, desire to be close, etc). I f*cking thought women dream about being close and emotional and caring with a man and having mind-blowing experiences!

ya, we call that the matrix around here.

women appear harmless because its in their interest to appear that way.

the weaker of any two organisms will always adapt and use the weaknesses of the stronger organism against it. its the old sumo (push pull) strategy - if you aren't strong enough to move it, then use its own weight against it to toss it down.

women are masters at this, which is why a woman can only hurt you to the extent that you allow her to use your weaknesses against you. and she will quietly catalogue those weaknesses and attack them when needed.

men always say they can't understand women, and the reason is that women behave in irrational manners as a sumo strategy - and it works!

its mind boggling how the more dominant of the species has been brought to its knees by the weaker of the species - all through leveraging mental weaknesses in the male psyche.

 

[GtarPlayr73]

What i meant by cold and calculating was her reasons for having sex. No doubt, she has the right to be concerned about what goes in her body, but i'm focusing on her reasons for having sex. What other healthy reason could she have other than pleasure in wanting to have sex? Procreation, maybe. To have sex for attention and NOT for the inherant pleasure of sex is what doesn't make sense to me. She can get attention plenty of other ways besides sex and those many other ways don't involve penetration...