Women Don't Understand Women

[bigneil]

I recently had a perplexing case that was documented in a text conversation. Since the first 2/3 was very seductive language, I had 6 women who I know read about 20 exchanges and to tell me how they interpreted it. Most of them got excited reading it, but then I would ask them to explain their gut instinct on what happened at the end.

I got 6 COMPLETELY different answers, no two were alike. In computer terms this means it fails parity, meaning their advice is highly likely to be false.

How can they be so wrong? Are they like the guard who always tells a lie? Do we need to do the opposite of what they say the other one would do? Do they intentionally not tell the truth? Do they say anything but the truth? Note: none of these girls was trying to spare my feelings. Quite the opposite in many cases.

This underscores the age-old wisdom: Never trust advice from a woman about another woman.

 

[bigneil]

She thinks she is Helen of Troy and you bringing up other women is like treason against her ego. You become an enemy of the state. And she will try to diminish you. Women aren't retarded. They are just catty and manipulative. Not all women. But most.

Great point! That's why I always append "besides you".

"She was the most beautiful woman I ever saw, besides you".

"She was the greatest lover I ever had, besides you".

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

I do genuinely think most women don't understand even themselves, never mind other women.

They often don't know what they want. They THINK they want A but really want B.

Women are often quite sympathetic but they lack empathy. For those who don't know the difference between sympathy and empathy; they often are understanding towards other people's emotions to the point that when you are angry about something, they will understand your anger and feel angry too (sympathy), but they lack the capability to put themselves in your shoes and see things from your perspective (empathy).

A woman will understand you're angry and even feel angry with you, but they don't fully understand WHY you are angry.

Women will often project their own experiences and emotions on your situation when you discuss your situation/feelings with them, they don't or perhaps can't actually see it from your perspective.

When you ask a woman for advice, they won't give you advice based on logic or consideration for your point of view, they will give you advice based on emotions and how THEY feel about the situation. Because all women are different, you will get different advice from each and every one of them.

 

[bigneil]

When you ask a woman advice she will either project her dream guy or a total creep into the picture and give advice based on that.

• If dream guy her advice will be: "Just send her flowers and tell her how much you care about her innermost feelings".
• If total creep her advice will be: "Just move on and never call her again, ever, or she might call the police".

 

[Mr. Kalikoat]

When you ask a woman advice she will either project her dream guy or a total creep into the picture and give advice based on that.

• If dream guy her advice will be: "Just send her flowers and tell her how much you care about her innermost feelings".
• If total creep her advice will be: "Just move on and never call her again, ever, or she might call the police".

This is super true as well.

Another thing that baffles me about women is that despite them putting so much emphasis on how others might percieve them, they have a remarkable limited understanding of how others actually percieve them.

Funny story:

A girl told me she was fed up with her ex because he wouldn't accept that their relationship was over. He complained about her giving him mixed signals and she didn't understand why because she told him multiple times that she doesn't want a relationship anymore. Yet after I dug a little deeper she confessed that she still talked to him, still sought him out, still visited him and even still had sex with him on a regular basis!

I was like; "Are you serious? OF COURSE he can't let you go, OF COURSE he thinks you're giving him mixed signals, because YOU ARE!"

I mean holy sh*t, how can you lack so much self awareness? Or empathy for that matter. She clearly has ZERO empathy for her ex.

 

[El Payaso]

Women usually give advice on how they FEEL about the situation or how they would want to feel.

Their advice is rarely grounded in reality.