"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women don't trust women

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Don Juan
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Read something someone said about how women don't even trust women because they know better. Putting any women hating theories aside I think that has some interesting insight for interactions with women. In my past I've shown trust and given women outward signs of benevolence before I really knew or vetted them well. Now for the most part I didn't blindly trust them and learned at a pretty young age how ruthless women can be, but that doesn't mean I didn't get a bit nervous and outwardly act like a "nice guy". But when I did give the whole nice guy act you can see women lose respect, that's nothing new, but I think a big part of that could be that they know women, they understand and see how cut-throat and ruthless they can be, so when they see you buying whatever they are selling or going out of your way to treat them like saints they lose respect. It comes off as weakness and you look like a sucker in their eyes, because if you were experienced/successfull with women you'd know that they aren't saints. And if they view you as a gullible, placating sucker they will obviously lose respect for you, and they can't get the tingles without respect. I feel the same way often, when girls are praising me and pedastalizing me it instinctively sets off alarm bells for me that they are trying to use me to up their status, lock me into marriage, use me for money (think that's good and bad but that's another issue) etc. and women experience this much, much more then men do I'm sure.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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