Women Don't Trust Good Looking Men

[mangotot]

So I read the opening post. This is what you call a first world problem. Honestly dude gtfoh.

 

[RangerMIke]

Women who are turned away because of your good looks are not worth having. THEY ARE Helping you screen them out and it's not costing you anything except a small amount of time. Be grateful.

 

[Suspens]

Describe to me what a 'bad boy shirt' is please...

You shouldn't live by titles...

http://picture-cdn.wheretoget.it/r8gv1i-l.jpg

Something like that, without the ADIDAS symbol of course.

Good point though. I meant try to not appear as a jerky boy by wearing bad boy fashion.

 

[new_hotness]

It seems odd to me that if you go by most of the advice around here, guys don't want girls to trust them. They want to convince them that they might be seeing other girls on the side (whether they are or not), they never want them to be too sure. This is supposedly seen as some sort of ideal situation. So it's strange to see someone complain about it.

There are certain quality girls I am into (beautiful, intelligent, good personality), who have this "suspicion" issue. I'm hoping to overcome. Maybe cI can, maybe I can't.

 

[new_hotness]

It seems odd to me that if you go by most of the advice around here, guys don't want girls to trust them. They want to convince them that they might be seeing other girls on the side (whether they are or not), they never want them to be too sure. This is supposedly seen as some sort of ideal situation. So it's strange to see someone complain about it.

I don't see it as a bad or as an ideal situation. It's just something I deal with from time to time.

 

[MAYALL]

Women don't trust a lot of men in general since the majority of men are not good looking.

Only extremely attractive women will act naturally around you.They are used to drooling beta losers worshiping them regardless of their lack of personality and lack of game.

Not true at all. Any woman regardless of looks can act unatural around a good looking man. Good looking men have also gotten divorced, dumped, and screwed over by women. Good looking men have made poor decisions on women. Good looking men have also put women on a pedestal. Lots of black and white thinking here.

 

[_sideways_]

dress down homie

I'm 3 months out of long term relationship. For the first month or so, I was just taking it easy, not looking to date, and just went out just to grab a drink and chill.

After that, I was ready to date again. One issue I am repeatedly running into is that many women don't trust me. They expect me to be unfaithful, sleep around, etc. and I am not like that at all.

One of the main issues I encounter is when girls "lock up" when I try talking to them. Any sort of "daygame" approach has this potential, as girls sometimes freeze and can't really act normally around me.

This can sometimes happen even when I've seen the girl a second or third time, and they still can't quite relax.

I have gotten slightly discouraged by this.

One woman in particular was a) angry with me at first, b) then very nervous then c) ignored me completely the third time I spoke to her.

Any tips or pointers appreciated.

U dress down. Give mt best way way into the friendship.

 

[Poon King]

Not true at all. Any woman regardless of looks can act unatural around a good looking man. Good looking men have also gotten divorced, dumped, and screwed over by women. Good looking men have made poor decisions on women. Good looking men have also put women on a pedestal. Lots of black and white thinking here.

Which part is "not true at all"?

Women act different around attractive men. Its a fact.

And since VERY good looking men are rare to begin with... it makes it all the more true.

 

[MAYALL]

Which part is "not true at all"?

Women act different around attractive men. Its a fact.

And since VERY good looking men are rare to begin with... it makes it all the more true.

Women don't trust a lot of men regardless of looks. Good looking men have gotten screwed over, divorced, dumped by women. Good looking men put women on a pedestal. Women don't always act natural around good looking men. What you're saying is not true talking in absolute terms.

 

[Poon King]

Women don't trust a lot of men regardless of looks. Good looking men have gotten screwed over, divorced, dumped by women. Good looking men put women on a pedestal. Women don't always act natural around good looking men. What you're saying is not true talking in absolute terms.

AGAIN.

Which part is "not true at all"?

 

[MAYALL]

AGAIN.

Which part is "not true at all"?

Can't you read?

 

[FCB]

This goes on with both sexes, when we don't feel worthy we clam up and get nervous. Poon's post goes for men as well, I've experienced the same feelings in the past when I was self doubting and with a girl I subconsciously thought I wasn't worthy of. She'd be attracted, I'd get a date or multiple dates and because I wasn't comfortable I'd **** it up, I wouldn't make moves on them, I couldn't joke as I normally do and I'd become an agreeable chump. With girls I wasn't super into or didn't have much going on besides looks it would go the opposite way and so on, and texting and interactions would follow suit. These particular problems are all self made from both sides, you can overcome it yourself and you can bring someone you like out of that state but it more than likely takes time and for them to feel relaxed.

 

[new_hotness]

Yeah, I just went through this again.

Met a very cool chick, she is very pretty, and really fun to talk to. She tried very hard, but was still very nervous the entire time.

She talked to another guy. Dude was extremely fat. Think "comic book shop guy" from the simpsons. Now, she was laughing, totally relaxed, totally at ease.

Sigh.

I'm trying to be at peace with this.

 

[SamTheHobit]

My IQ just went up by like 50 points reading Poon King's post.

I know that feel man.

 

[GotED?]

Yeah, I am a HB10.5 (says New_Hotness)

This is just a quick VIP visit for you beta-fucckers.

I have to more incline agree with this theory we are creating here that women BELOW your level will react weirdly, but not necessarily because you are 'HOT'.

This is same as a man is beta (yes, that is you right at this moment reading the post!), being in the first 15 second conversation with a woman who is above your level (or you THINK she is because of your low self-image/esteem). You lock up, you sputter, you shake, you may even pee and sh!t in your shorts.

I do remember one of my recent LTR in the past 5 years, who was probably the least attractive woman I have had (a simple HB 6 and no more) but who was very feminine and down to earth. I remember when I was getting to know her on the first date or two, she was shaking literally uncontrollably 2-3am in the morning when we were talking and I went to give her a hug (aweee... fook u all for making fun of my DJ hug!). She even tried to DUMP me after the 2nd date saying she had no interest in me!! LOL.... I told her in her face that was a lie and dumped her in reverse, she ended up crying for a couple of days and contact me after that. We were together for over 1 year afterwards. So this proves that WOMEN who are gamed by men ABOVE her level, will have HIGHER mistrust due to the player-like image issue (in a woman's head, why would a hotter guy go after her if not ONLY for sex?? This is talking about NON-HO's). She later told me, she did that because she was afraid she COULD NOT HOLD ON TO ME long-term. Women are fooked up.

So yes, theory holds for me that other LTR's with other women in the past 5 years who were a HB 7 or 8+, those women were definitely more at ease and the game playing field was leveled.

Hope this helps.

Be well,

Exodus

 

[bigneil]

GotED makes a good point. It's not "good looking" men, it's RELATIVELY good looking men that they are afraid of. Namely men who are better looking that SHE is.

Nobody wants to date anyone 2 or more points above than them. They won't feel stable. Meanwhile, nobody wants to date anyone 2 or more points below them either, because you can do better.

It might be adjusted to 1/3 seeing as women trade up. That is, a man who is a 7 can date 5-8 range. A woman who is a 7 can date 6-9 range.

 

[raider87]

So we're all too good looking to get laid then haha

 

[PeasantPlayer]

If you are average looking maybe slighty below and have decent confidence you are good. I am seeing hot chicks with average looking dudes and below average daily.

Doesn't stop them from checking out other better looking guys though.

I remember this one chick when I was young around 18. She was showing interest in all my friend she was a hb6 hb6 1/2 not to bad. We hung around alot cause we had the same group of friends/associates. She was always mean towards me and would ignore me for no reason and made it visible to other people she disliked me. One day randomly she told me I was to good looking/pretty for her. At that young age it I never felt such a mixed bag of emotions in my life.

She continued on with her life dating the most hideous looking men I ever seen lol. The Irony is fat chicks show more self esteem these days.