"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Women Don't Test You. You Test Yourself

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The way I see it, women don't test us. That is completely the wrong way to look at it. Are you telling me you are letting the WOMAN grade you? Why would you ever let the grader be anyone else other than yourself? I'll tell you why. Because you don't respect yourself enough.

You are your only grader. When you look at your reaction to a woman's childish behavior a day or a week from now, will YOU be able to say to YOURSELF, "I handled that well. I'm proud of the way I dealt with that."

THAT is the true test. What the woman thinks is secondary if not irrelevant. Stay strong my brothers.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I assumed that women don't actually test us consciously, they test subconsciously to know if you have what it takes to be with them. This is especially true for HBs as they get so much attention that it becomes impossible for them to spend time with every Tom, **** and Harry that gives them attention.
Yes you are your own grader, if you screw up in every exam you know before the official grades are out.
 

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Gimme more

I see tests as a sign that you have sparked attraction, they like what you are doing and they are asking you to give em more.

For example: This is last time I stuffed up a "test."

I'd gotten a date with this girl who blew my mind. She told me she was forgetful so I said I'd text her on the day of the date so she doesn't forget.

I wrote: Daily reminder. Coffee with really cool guy tonight.

She called me instantly, delighted with my message. "So who's this cool guy?" she asked.

I was a little off balance, I wasn't expecting her call, was at work and I gotta admit this woman was so amazing I was a little intimidated.

I stumbled for an answer, she said, "I was just ****ing with you." I could tell she was a little disappointed coz I didn't fire back. But I didn't take it has having "failed." It was more a missed opportunity.

She wasn't calling me and saying "So who is this cool guy?" coz she wanted to cut me down. She was asking coz it really tickled her and she wanted more of it.

And so what dynamicallyidle said I think is spot on. Its all in our heads. "Tests" are signs that they are interested. Its only us who turn their flirting into qualification.

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Just because you're the grader, dosen't stop you from getting a grade from others


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You're always graded by others, anywhere you go, anything you do. You need to ensure that YOUR grade matters most when it actually does, such as when it comes to girls. Hopefully, your grade isn't measured by whether the girl stayed with you or not.

Cod3r said:
Just because you're the grader, dosen't stop you from getting a grade from others


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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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A lot of women dont admit this, but they usually put a guy through a period of evaluation. Testing to see if he's LTR material.

Every case is different. Some might put you as friends first as a backburner for later, or keep a casual thing going without proclaiming exclusivity. And some...will just make you chase a lot until they finally give in.

But in any event, usually the chasee is the one who is in the position of power.

As I usually like to say, stay 2 steps ahead of women and see through their BS for what it truly is.
 
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