"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Women don't give SIGNALS, or do they??

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When I was starting out on the road of a pade-juan, I found that a lot of people were saying that no bloke is gonna find a girl if they wait around for hidden signals.

Now the other day I was out and on 2 occasions I could almost swear I saw something in the girls eyes, something awesome, something I had never seen before.

And since then it has raised the question in me as to whether women give signals...

What are your thoughts???
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The Monolith

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I think women do give signals, or indicators of interest as they are known here. The question that drives me mad is whether or not the girl acts like this normally or is genuinely interested. Also, interest manifests differently in different girls which can be very confusing.
 

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gut feeling, go for it...what do you have to lose?
 

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If they are shy, they rarely give signals. Everyone's shy at some time. If she's more outgoing, she may give you eye contact. Don't expect too much, though. If you keep looking for a woman to give signals, you'll go crazy. Don't depend on what she's doing. Just act without embarassment. If she talks with you, assume interest. If she shuts you down, then you know. But, like the saying.. "make the ho say no..." as if we are supposed to date ho's.. anyhow..
 

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Thomas94305 said:
If they are shy, they rarely give signals. Everyone's shy at some time. If she's more outgoing, she may give you eye contact. Don't expect too much, though. If you keep looking for a woman to give signals, you'll go crazy. Don't depend on what she's doing. Just act without embarassment. If she talks with you, assume interest. If she shuts you down, then you know. But, like the saying.. "make the ho say no..." as if we are supposed to date ho's.. anyhow..
Yup I agree, my girlfriend is a little shy and I had absolutely no idea that she liked me even after I got her number! She gave me zero signs of interest initially and the first time I called her she didn't pick up and didn't even call me back. I thought oh well guess she wasn't into me, a few days later she texted me because she was nervous. Now we've been together for 6 months go figure. With the shy ones you have to play it real low key and not come on too strong or you'll scare her away. Make yourself available, be calm, and if she likes you she'll come around.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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The Monolith said:
I think women do give signals, or indicators of interest as they are known here. The question that drives me mad is whether or not the girl acts like this normally or is genuinely interested. Also, interest manifests differently in different girls which can be very confusing.
Yeah it really is difficult to separate genuine interest or whether they're just a kind person. I recently had this issue, and this stuff is a lot harder to differentiate in specific contexts that are not of the ordinary (ordinary as in just meeting the person at a bar or restaurant, bookstore etc.).
 

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Women absolutely give signals.

The thing is... don't limit your actions to here signals.
You never know...
did you miss one?
did you misinterpret something?
etc etc etc.

Keep your eye out for them, accept them, enjoy them... but pave your own path with suave bold grace, and find out for yourself.

P.S. You should have definetly acted on the "eyes" you got. Something thats "awesome and I've never seen before." What more signal do you need!? It almost pains me to think you missed any further interaction with these girls, when such a beautiful new experience occured. But... I find peace in, this is the way of DonJuan... and infinite more eyes of seductive beauty will be coming your way. Enjoy. And... now you know. ;)

Peace'
 

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Women are funny.. I've heard them complain that they give hints that are so "obvious". When asked "what signals?", they evade the question... Then, they gripe about guys "hitting on them". Just do what you want, don't apologize, but respect her rights and bounds.
 

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I don't know if women give signals or just act that way in general. Of course they give "signals" but I don't know if they mean anything. There's a grocery store right next to the college here, and I couldn't go there without getting at least one smile from a college girl there, does it mean anything? I don't know, there's only one way to find out... however it seems like I go through dry spellls where nothing like this will happen to me for a long time. And of course there's the attention ***** I had to get over recently, she gave me plenty of signals.

Right now I'm going to a dermatologist, a female, pretty to me, and a little older, not married (i'm sure by this time, she's still young enough but should be past the attention ***** stage). The first time I went there, just a common doctor visit, now, 2 months later, on my second trip, she smiles big time when she first walks in and says hi like she's been wondering where I was, she calls me "dear" two times, all we were talking about was my acne problem, nothing personal, I didn't say anything, I wish I could have at least said something back, but then, she's a doctor and it could get kind of embarrasing, I have to see here again in six months... I guess I could do something then, I wouldn't know what to do. Do you think it means anything? I'm used to the waitresses calling me hun but this is kinda different, it's a doctor.
 

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Of course they do, its just us that don't understand them


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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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They might out wardly gripe about guys hitting on them, but the vast majority love it. I have lots of girl friends who talk constantly about random guys hitting on them...Want me to tell you the (very broad) flow of conversation?

Girl 1: "Girl 2, guess what??

Girl 2: "What?"

Girl 1: "Today some boy at school was hitting on me, <insert personal feelings about it here>

Girl 2: "Is he cute?"


They totally love guys hitting on them. As long as you don't come off as a creep, it actually makes their day. Even if they reject you or don't like you(there's a difference), their respect for you skyrockets. From then on you're seen as a genuine honest guy who they can trust, which is way way WAY up on the list of attractive qualities in a guy. And that's IF they say no.
 

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PEOPLE give signals universally. It's if you pick up on them, how you intepret them and how you act accordingly that makes the difference. Think of it as a big poker game or something like that. If you spend enough time at the table you pick up on common tells and individual ones for the people sitting across from you. I learned this as a salesman and I continue to practice it now in daily life.
 

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avoid girls who flip thier hair. hair flipping is just an attention ***** thing. dont feel special when a girl flips hair. its what she done to many guys. personally i dont approach women who flipp thier hair. except i have a gut feeling they really like me like maintain eye -contact before playing with the hair. but hair flipping is crap im my opinion.
 

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holy sh1t you discovered body language!!! call the scientific journals!!!


ok sorry but OF COURSE they give signals
 
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