"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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women can lie with their eyes

00Kevin

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I took a girl out on a date the other day and thought I would give the girl a good look into her eyes just before she got out of my car.

I knew that it wasn't going to work out with her so I thought I would see what her eyes said.

I looked into her eyes in a manner that questioned her interest level.

This HB8 did a very good job faking interest level. she gave me a very peacefull and pleasent look back. If I was a nice guy I actually would of thought there was something there.

I have come to the conclusion that a girl who is interested in you can't look you in the eyes.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What do experienced guys think about this? I had a woman who couldn't look me in the eye the other day either, although she talked to me for about 2 hours and gave me her phone, email, and home address.

I wasn't sure why she'd be so open if she had the aversive body language she did, so it confused me.
 

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Hmm...I was on a date once with this chick and I gave her a hard, long stare. Then we started making out with each other. She was definitely interested into me!
 

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I have come to the conclusion that a girl who is interested in you can't look you in the eyes.
Really...That's interesting, my ex did the exact opposite when she was about to dump me. I picked up on it, but didn't act.
 

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The reality is, if someone can't look you in the eye, all it means is that they're anxious. Even "lie detector" tests only can indicate stress levels in response to certain questions and answers.

the woman I was talking to may have been anxious because she liked me, while the woman spoken about in the prior post was anxious because she was planning to do something. Do you see how you can't make a 1-to-1 connection? You have to consider the context and decide what you're giong to do.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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A girl that is NOT interested in you may avert her eyes, and a girl that IS interested in you may avert her eyes.

You would need to know her better to know which it is.
 

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In my experience the more of a girly girl she is the more she can lie with her eyes.

In the context of a first date with a girly girl I would say yes. Don't be shocked if she can give you a sweet look that makes you feel good. And when it comes from a hot girl that almost breaks you down with her looks... it isn't hard for her.

You see girls are all about appearances. They won't say that they don't like you and they won't let you know out right. Most of the time they will try to make you feel good and then just run home.

Turning you down would make her feel bad. So she just puts on an act instead..

The reason I tried this was because I was looking for an alternative to asking a girl if she was interested. As we all know doing that is AFC.

I thought that giving a girl a hard looking into her eyes at the end of a date would show her that you are not fu-cking around and that you are not a coward..

The problem is that she is totally capable of giving you a pleasent look back even if she doesn't mean it.
 

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Originally posted by nishbuk
Really...That's interesting, my ex did the exact opposite when she was about to dump me. I picked up on it, but didn't act.
when a girl knows you it is a different story.

but when she only knows you from one date .... don't be shocked if she can lie with her eyes with ease
 

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Sense when do you have to be attracted to someone to be able to look them in the eye? If they have any self confidence that won't tell you anything.

Say something ballsy while maintaining eye contact and see how they react.
 

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Originally posted by 00Kevin


I have come to the conclusion that a girl who is interested in you can't look you in the eyes.

some people that don't make eye contact are just insecure, it doesn't mean they want you

some people are confident enought to make and hold eye contact with everybody

everybody is different
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Originally posted by 00Kevin
I took a girl out on a date the other day and thought I would give the girl a good look into her eyes just before she got out of my car.

I knew that it wasn't going to work out with her so I thought I would see what her eyes said.

I looked into her eyes in a manner that questioned her interest level.

This HB8 did a very good job faking interest level. she gave me a very peacefull and pleasent look back. If I was a nice guy I actually would of thought there was something there.

I have come to the conclusion that a girl who is interested in you can't look you in the eyes.

No man....the eyes never lie...I don't know what exactly happened bc I wasn't there-but from my experiences the eyes is the one thing that doesn't let you down..that is if you know how to read them...Forget how she's acts-how she sounds etc..evaluate them eyes and her body language-if the eyes didn't give it away then the body language will-who knows maybe the girl does dig you and she's just a twisted bi*tch..who knows..
 

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if she is into you....she will always stare into your eyes when you talk.

unless she is really insecure....

Ive been with my women for 3 months..when we talk..unless we are driving.90 percent of the time we are looking at each others eyes...

do u look at the eyes of ur friends and family? yes!
 

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Originally posted by frivolousz21
if she is into you....she will always stare into your eyes when you talk.

unless she is really insecure....

Ive been with my women for 3 months..when we talk..unless we are driving.90 percent of the time we are looking at each others eyes...

do u look at the eyes of ur friends and family? yes!
ok then.

place your bets! place your bets!

The date was sunday.

I called her on tuesday and left a short message asking her to call me back.

Any guess on when sheis going to call? (not that I care though I have other dates this week and I'm busy with my projects)

I'll call her once more on the weekend.

I'll bet I was right. I'll bet this girl is full of s-hit.
 

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wait Kevin so your saying she looked in your eyes because she didnt like you?

or she didnt look in ur eyes?

im confused
 

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Sorry, I am saying that I looked into her eyes at the end of the date. She did the same and the look she gave me suggested that she was interested. At the same time I thought it was just a front she was putting on.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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so any girl that makes any eye contact with me I should cross them off the list of potential hook ups:rolleyes:
 
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