Women at work

[Avsguy01]

Hey guys ive posted on here before that i thought my secretary was fairly nice looking, some days she can just be str8 banging. Heres my situation:
For some time ive sensed that she has had some kind attraction towards me. She always really nice, flirty, and has before asked me to come out with her to some bars from time to time. Well shes a nice women (28 years of age) and she has a good personality, looks, and level headed attitude that alot of guys would pounce on immediately. Unfortunately, i have never been out with her as i have always strayed away from her invitations to go out. This is all due to lack of confidence (true to my old AFC days), the fact of her being a co-worker, and her age. I am 21 but now since ive started adapting DJ ways my mindset has changed. She once again asked me to go out with her since "Default" is playing at a bar in Delaware next week. Ive decided to give it a shot and go out with her. I still am leary about the whole co-worker situation. I just wanna have some fun and quite possible use this as a DJ-practicing situation, since i havent had much practice since adapting and studying the Don Juan. One thing for sure though, im thinking she is in her prime and she just may want some ****. I sure wouldnt mind it anyways, so how do you guys think i should handle this situation? Its going to be a great practice and if i can pull off confidence, funny+****y attitude, and a bit of kino to get things flowing i just might get lucky. What do you guys think?

 

[Aztec]

Be careful. She is attracted to your "position".

 

[Oscar Wilde]

What happens if things fsck up and she refuses to speak to you ever again? Can you deal with that workwise? If so, go for it. If you have any doubts, don't.

Dodgy trying it on with coworkers, esp day-to-day ones.

 

[squirrels]

I'd do it, but I'd probably regret it. LOL

"Fishing off the company pier" is generally not a good idea.

 

[ProQD]

That is always a tough one, she can make your life a living hell if things don't go her way (sexual harassment suits, gossip, etc...) You really need to trust her. The attention this woman is giving you can do wonders for your confidence. Let her chase you but I wouldn't get involved. Let her stroke your ego and put it to use on women outside your company.

 

[Legend]

I got involved with a girl from work....man did she turn into a nut job making up all this shyt about me. Sure it passed over,but it was'nt cool when it was happening. I say go for it.....it really does'nt matter, the girl could still get you into trouble with things being true or false. She could make up shyt like you sexual harrassed her. If it was true...you are fired...if it was false you are fired. Just chill with her and see what happens

Man though she almost 30??

 

[Avsguy01]

I agree, in the back of my mind ive always said to myself not to get caught up with co-workers. Thats why for so long i have not gone out with her. Now i just see this as an opportunity to approve upon myself around women. I dont want anything serious just a little fun and practice. Im meeting up with one of my good friend's niece two weeks from now and she is a hottie (this one is 22, more of my liking!!). Just thought i would take advantage of going out and going through a step by step process of DJing in the field next week. I think it sounds like a plan Never can go wrong with dating multiple women.

 

[BobbDobbs]

I wouldn't worry about sexual harrassement issues. You are not her boss. She is older. She is asking you out. As far as risks, you are pretty safe in that regard. Just don't try to rape her.

At 28 you can be a little more direct with her. At that age, she knows about the birds and bees.

 

[Legend]

the older the girls are the easier they give up sex......

 

[Cremasta]

A lot of people will say 'don't date coworkers' and I agree with them for the most part.

You say that she is 'your' secretary? If you are her direct supervisor then this is dangerous territory.

Unless you absolutely can't live without her, this should be an automatic LJBF outside of work, except if one of you quits of course.

 

[Avsguy01]

She's a secretary at work (sorry i didnt mean to say she was "my" secretary). Not my direct secretary. Im a Cad Technician. Shes up front and answers phones. I hardly have any contact with her unless she comes in the back for something like printouts and such. Or if i go up front just to flirt or have her do something for me.

 

[bp1974]

I say go for it. I've dated or sexed three co-workers from different workplaces, and nothing bad ever came of it. In fact even after it's over, it's quite nice having a little secret between the two of you. You're not her boss and she's not yours, nor are you direct colleagues, so it's not likely to get awkward.

Life's too short to worry too much about this sort of thing. Just don't do anything obviously stupid or illegal to her - you don't want her to hate you.

bp1974

 

[dionysius_d]

Its not worth the hassle of getting a new secretary when-

a) you get bored
b) it stuffs up
c) both of you can't stand each other's face anymore.

 

[Aztec]

I'd say it's okay to date someone from your company as long as it is a big company. Big enough that you don't or hardly work with each other.

So far, I've had 8 of them in my hospital, from different departments of course. From young dietary aides, nurses from different units and from admin. I'm eyeing for this new resident on board.