"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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In2theGame

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Hey Guys, How do you feel about women at work and gaming them? I work in a very professional scene (Investment Bank Trading Floor) and ive noticed i get smiles and glances my way sometimes. the women at my work place are sizzling hot with increadible bodies. about a week ago i was walkin around and i passed a desk where a bunch of women sit so the chick at the end keeps looking at me (about a 2 second stare) i saw her later in the lobby alone, i was tempted to say somthing but wasnt sure if i should. secondly, Where i sit theres this chick that literally everyone dislikes because shes a B*ch, she keeps giving me stares, im talkin 3 - 4 second looks. shes kinda hot but scared to approach because the last thing i need is HR calling my desk lol any suggestions guys?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Look at how this dumbass messed up his opportunities and now is stuck with some BS to deal with.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152575&highlight=shat

don't do it. its stupid.

imagine if you met a BDP type woman. Think of the hell that could bring you at work.

What if it goes bad? Or if she cheats. or if you get all AFC and oneitis and she files harassment charges. More drama.

What is your corporate culture? is it frowned apon?

Just think it all the way through to the end.

My personal experience....I got hit with a false harassment charge from one of my employees and almost lost my job for something I didn't do. It ruined my rep at work even though I did nothing wrong. There was no proof. But it placed a cloud over me and made things strained between me and my female employees. they all looked at me differently even though I had never done anything wrong. Now imagine if I would have been dating or sleeping with coworkers...i surely would have lost my job over some bullshyt.

The false claim was filed by a woman who wanted my job and was mad that I was promoted over her.

You are there to work. Don't be lazy, go out and hunt for your own women else where.
 

In2theGame

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Warrior74 said:
Look at how this dumbass messed up his opportunities and now is stuck with some BS to deal with.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=152575&highlight=shat

don't do it. its stupid.

imagine if you met a BDP type woman. Think of the hell that could bring you at work.

What if it goes bad? Or if she cheats. or if you get all AFC and oneitis and she files harassment charges. More drama.

What is your corporate culture? is it frowned apon?

Just think it all the way through to the end.

My personal experience....I got hit with a false harassment charge from one of my employees and almost lost my job for something I didn't do. It ruined my rep at work even though I did nothing wrong. There was no proof. But it placed a cloud over me and made things strained between me and my female employees. they all looked at me differently even though I had never done anything wrong. Now imagine if I would have been dating or sleeping with coworkers...i surely would have lost my job over some bullshyt.

The false claim was filed by a woman who wanted my job and was mad that I was promoted over her.

You are there to work. Don't be lazy, go out and hunt for your own women else where.
Hmmm thanks warrior, i think im going to take on your advice, I too feel like it might be to dangerous. Like a very narrow road with no rails, one slight turn can cause disaster. I have no problem with girls outside of work, im just sayin the women at my job are pretty hot but i know things can turn ugly quick if not careful. just not worth it i guess. Thanks W.
 

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In2theGame, i recently went out with a girl from work. Trust me when I say this STAY THE HELL AWAY FROM THEM! obviously we never plan for things not to work out (and it didn't) so i had to put up with seeing her everyday at work. I felt like ____ and it one of the worst mistakes i have ever made.

If you can't resist temptation (and she works in a different department where you won't see her everyday or so often) then hell you only got 1 life to live. If she works in the same dept as you, you see her almost everyday and she works not far from you, that would be one of the worst mistakes you could make. Take it from me i lived through it now finally i am getting over her. If I could go back in time i would trade the fun i had with her with not ever having gone out with her and not having to think of what happened and how it all ended.
 

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in a corporate environment such as yours, i would suggest not dating anyone from work. or your clients.

ive been there and i basically had to quite my job because my coworkers from IT where checking my emails because she would email me constantly with stuff we did the night before.

the worst email was when she said she wanted to wait till everyone left and then bang on the executive boardroom table...
she was from HR i was in Business Strategy, she was denied access to all my files within HR and my record and i was having my emails checked. noone said anything to either of us until she heard her boss and my boss talking about it in her bossess office.. within a week i had pressure from work and too much drama coming from my boss..i had to quite because i didnt want her to quite.

you want anotehr example? heres a worse one.
my friend, alex, lawyer at a very prestigious law firm for 4 years, made partner.
sees this arab chic at work. wants to do something.gets her number, they hangout for lunch etc.
do this a couple weeks, they go out to the clubs for a dance.
next day he emails her saying, he liked dancing with her and the whole evening. they should hang out again, but next time she should come over tto his place.
things kind of went sour when he found she had was proposed to some arab dude..he dumped her.
she sent the email to her friends saying look what we did! now he dumped.
that email found its way to other law firms. and became quite a big forward email amongst lawyers, i got a copy. unfortunately alot of the original email was editted by her/her friends to say something like "i enjoy hanging with you but im only looking for good s3x, im happy to look past your fiance and give you some pleasure before you get married"
and even worse is the email found its way back to his boss..
he got fired the next day. he's now a police officer because no law firm would take him and the only thing he could do with his law degree was police.

dont do it. especially because you're not flipping burgers..u got a good respectable job..
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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