women at work...again

[aguynamedwill]

I don't believe in mixing business with pleasure. I do however, believe in practicing what this site teaches on the women at work. Sort of like controlled experiments. I also believe in being myself, especially since I love the transformations I've made.

Unfortunately, I'm constantly being touched and stared at and even asked out. Its been a gradual increase, but now its to the point where I don't want to be sociable in case they want me. But I do want to be sociable, because that's part of who I am now.

So what do I do? I want to be who I've become all the time, but I don't want to deal with what I consider to be almost harrassment. Am I crazy? Two years ago, I would've dreamed about having this kind of attention. Now I just want them to leave me alone.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Socializing is good but when it comes to romantic pursuits avoid emloyment situations.

 

[aguynamedwill]

that wasn't my question

my question isn't "should i hook up with this chick from work"

my question is "how do i get the women at work to stop touching/staring at/asking me out/, without having to sacrifice any part of who I am?"

I'm not going to revert to the shy geek that stares at the floor and blushes around pretty women. I'm not going to let myself look/smell like a bum. I'm not going to suddenly become infatuated with all of them. I've tried "leave me alone, I'm busy". Doesn't work! At least not for long.

What would you guys do?

p.s. I'll admit that at first when women were just starting to respond to who I was becoming, it felt awesome. But it seems to have snowballed into something I cant stand. Anyone else even know what I'm talking about?

 

[MackJr]

Are any of them worth an LTR?

In general, it's not good to date people at work, but if you thought it was serious, then maybe work is a good source of them. I know a guy who married a co-worker. they were both 37+ though, so they were probably in the marrying mood.

 

[aguynamedwill]

uhh, yeah

Hey thanks for not answering my question at all.

Idiot.

 

[Big Pappy]

I know exactly what you're talking about. You've made this change in your life. Now, you're having to fend these women off. Worse, the more you brush them off, the more insistent they become.

Disdain what you cannot have. You are treating them with disdain, as you are completely detached. Thus, they want you all the more.

What you might try is having a girlfriend come over and visit with you. This way, some of the girls will leave you alone. USe this imaginary girlfriend as the heavy.

I would prefer to just be honest with them and tell them you don't date your co-workers but I'm not sure what your work climate is.

 

[MackJr]

Re: uhh, yeah

Originally posted by aguynamedwill
Hey thanks for not answering my question at all.

Idiot.

It's easier to tell you to think about dating one than to tell you to be a man and say no, dumbshyt. But just do the latter.