"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Women as sex objects, Men as success objects

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A Brief Rundown of the Biological Perscpective of Mate Selection

Buss (1989) surveyed men and women in 37 countries. Men tend to favor "no experience in sexual intercourse" and "good looks", while women tend to favor "good financial prospect" and "ambitious". Biological perspective theorist predicted these results saying men would want to ensure paternity and attract a healthy and fertile mate, while women would seek a mate who has (or has the potential to possess) economic resources to support her limited number of offspring. However, other features such as funny, dependable, and kind were still rated as more important.

Gangestad (1993) followed up on Buss's study. He found that in each country Buss surveyed, the more economic power women had, the more important male physical attractiveness was to them. This might indicate that lack of direct access to economic power, not biological predispositon was the motivating factor.

Norman LI (2002) did a study where men and women designed an ideal mate. Men spent more on a physically attractive mate while women spent more on the mate's social status. Both were still concerned with kind, lively, creative, etc. However, when the subjects had limited resources to purchase with men spent even more to gain physically attractive partners and women spent even more to gain social status for their male partner.

Regan (1997) Found that women care as much about physical appearance of a mate as men do, when concerning a short-term casual sex partner.

Buss (1989) found men wanted a wife 2.7 years younger and women wanted a husband 3.4 years older. The younger/older effect was found in every culture he studied.

Other studies have revealed younger men (20s) are more oppostunistic about older women, while older men (30s) a more concerned with finding younger women. However, in all age groups studied women prefered older men.

83% of women say they would be more upset by emotional infedility than sexual by their partners. Biological theorists claim this is because the main threat to a woman is losing the support the man provides, whereas the main threat to the man is raising a child which is not truly his.

In another study women would be more watchful or try to improve their appearance if the man suspected of infedility was successful, while men would more likely take action if the wife was young and attractive (Buss & Shackelford, 1997).
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Ahhh, very good sh!t indeed. When starting off fresh with a new chick, ill try to remember projecting these about myself:

- ambitious and financially ambitious
- social status

I would just like to see if these 2 would really make a difference in their attraction levels as far as doing the usual stuff.
 

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I've followed some of Buss research. Awesome analyst. Thanks for putting this together -- It confirmed a lot of what I already know.

For more proof in the sexual selection process, check out The Red Queen, Selfish Gene, The Mating Mind and Responsible Manhood. The psychology of women will amaze you.

We DJs truly are developing success objects :up:
 
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