"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Women as horny as men??

Do girls want sex as bad??

  • No! They want sex more than guys do!

    Votes: 16 29.6%
  • Well, they want sex about the same as we do!

    Votes: 18 33.3%
  • No, they don't want sex quite as bad!

    Votes: 11 20.4%
  • How should I know, I've never been a woman.

    Votes: 9 16.7%

  • Total voters
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martoslo

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Women are as horny as men, they just need a bit more security because they are weaker and more fragile. Once you have released their chains, they are wild for it. But to have sex without pattern is key, my last girlfriend told me she had wet dreams often when we did not have sex for about a week. And even I seldom have them!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Originally posted by Mortukai
Ok, I'll show the proof, but first you have to show the proof to support your claims. If you can't show me the proof which backs up your claims that men are more sexual and think about sex every ten minutes, then why the fvck should I show you proof to back up my substantially more thorough and detailed claims, which also just so happen to fit into reality a lot nicer?

So go on penkitten, I'll wait...
you have no proof .

i am a female, and i know tons of females. how many do you know and do they sleep with their boyfriends or husbands every single day? why is it that every comedian or tv or movie always has some man complaining that he only gets some like every three months?
 

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Originally posted by penkitten
why is it that every comedian or tv or movie always has some man complaining that he only gets some like every three months?
because withholding sex is an excellent tactic to get you way, even if you want sex too.
 

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All I know is that during my last LTR, whenever me and the gf would have a fight, she was able to go to bed with having an orgasm. I could NEVER sleep without having one. I believe that men are probably much hornier due to testosterone, but then again, I remember some of my girlfriends....:eek:
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Giovanni Casanova

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men reported having experienced a greater number of different sexual intrusive thoughts as well as a marginally greater total frequency of these thoughts than did the women. This may reflect a real gender difference, as it is consistent with previous research which has found that men report more unwanted intrusive sexual thoughts and more externally generated sexual thoughts than do women (Jones & Barlow, 1990; Purdon & Clark, 1993.)
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2372/is_4_35/ai_53390353


Also, I think it would probably be good to point out that there is a difference related to age, as well. I have read somewhere (don't have a source at the moment, sorry) that women have more sexual thoughts around their mid- to late-thirties while men are just swirls of such thoughts in their teenage years. If you compare a 17-year-old boy to a 38-year-old woman, you might find that they are similar. But if you compare a 20-year-old guy to a 20-year-old woman, they will probably be different, on average. And overall, research seems to indicate that men have more frequent sexual thoughts/fantasies than women.
 

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i think they want it more actually and are afraid of showing it as obviously as we may sometimes ...they're not bold with it, but hey, they're not supposed to be...that would be too easy
 

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Originally posted by lil ice 537
David D said that women are as 5x as horney as men but they dont show it
5x as horny as the average guy and able to contain it so well?....that sounds physically impossible
 

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totally agree. A guy can barly have a handle on the urges.

would that mean that gurls maturbate 5x as much (that would be like 5 times a day:D )
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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DJ_in_making

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Originally posted by Giovanni Casanova
http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m2372/is_4_35/ai_53390353


Also, I think it would probably be good to point out that there is a difference related to age, as well. I have read somewhere (don't have a source at the moment, sorry) that women have more sexual thoughts around their mid- to late-thirties while men are just swirls of such thoughts in their teenage years. If you compare a 17-year-old boy to a 38-year-old woman, you might find that they are similar. But if you compare a 20-year-old guy to a 20-year-old woman, they will probably be different, on average. And overall, research seems to indicate that men have more frequent sexual thoughts/fantasies than women.
so they aren't as horny?.... this makes sense: if you think about something more you obviously want it more. It takes a 38 year old woman to match the hornyness of a 17 year old boy. I'm starting to go back to my original thinking.
 

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Originally posted by DJ_in_making

I'm having trouble believing that though. I mean, Men think about it much more often and are always after it. Women seem not to care as much. And when a girl shows a hint of sexuality they're automatically 'as horny'
All the proof i need is how often my girl yells "do me!" at me.


a lot.
 

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Re: Re: Women as horny as men??

Originally posted by mrRuckus
All the proof i need is how often my girl yells "do me!" at me.


a lot.
which goes back to what I originally said, showing a hint of sexuality doesn't make them automatically hornier than guys. I mean, don't we say "do me!" too?
 

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Originally posted by Mortukai


The reason we all think men are more sexual is simple. We have more testosterone, and testosterone is a hormone that makes us ACT. It makes us actually DO something about our sex drive. Girls have very little testosterone, so they need to have a much higher sex drive before they are willing to act on it. Men, on the other hand, if they have high testosterone, then they will act on even a low sex drive.
I think thats the most accurate peice of information ive read from this thread.

i dont think sexual and horny mean the same thing.

so are women more horny than man? No, bc i think that when you feel horny is just purly out of sexual attraction and no feelings involved.

If you ask, is a women more sexual than men? if by sexual you mean they want sex more than man, through an emotional level, then yea women are more sexual.

So in short, testosterone drives sex through lust and estrogen drives sex through emotions.
 

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Originally posted by undesputable
So in short, testosterone drives sex through lust and estrogen drives sex through emotions.
There's the gem right there. It's all about the stimulus. Men are turned on by sensual stimuli wheras women are turned on by emotional stimuli. If you constantly tickle your woman's emotions, then you may have your work cut out keeping up with her sex drive. She won't be horny if she's bored/stressed/depressed.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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