Women are usually boring how do we deal with that?

[inquisitor]

So most of you are saying it is true they are often just bimbos to be pursued and there isn't much I can do about it haha. I am not boring I have all kinds of interesting hobbies, I read, and have traveled a bit. I'd say maybe 1/5 of women are interesting but they are out of my league and the rest are just these people that need to be entertained until they open up...

I was hoping for some magic lines that get them to talk more.

your username asks for help as if you are also the solution. we are not doomed, and you're yet to know sh!t anyway.

you can brag about everything you know but if you're not pulling, then you're not pulling.

you call them out of your league for being interesting. i call you boring for not even approaching and going for the pursuit. you can't even have a story to tell because you're afraid of making mistakes while you sit on your golden toilet of accomplishments.

you don't see them as people, you see them as "just people". you're apathetic. you don't even care.

you don't want women, you want artificial feminine robots who'd follow every "magic line" you say.

come back here only when you've actually dated and have made some mistakes worthy for an actually interesting post.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I don’t find women boring.

 

[Mike32ct]

Guys want to discuss, debate, solve problems, seek/give advice, and perform activities. Nothing wrong with any of that. It’s all good.

But women usually just want to talk. They want to communicate and connect, often without a specific end goal. I find that relaxing because I can turn my brain off and give that shyte a rest lol.

 

[Solomon]

To be brutally honest once I’ve slept with a woman and the novelty wears off (usually after a few months) I just start to lose interest in them. Even if they genuinely care for me and satisfy me in the bedroom.

I just find the non-bedroom stuff associated with relationships (which can take up to 80% or more of relationship time) emotionally exhausting and boring a lot of the time.

I think there’s something about being settled in a relationship that takes away your drive.

I’m usually in the ‘adored’ category. All of my girlfriends have been the ‘adorer’ and devastated when I’ve broken up with them.

I feel the same way. It's not hard for a woman to stand out to me(however few exist) If she talks about things other than her ex and her boring life. I recently met a woman who is/was very sexual, and that's all we talked about outside of sex, there was nothing to her even in person after we hooked up it was just boring. I got exhausted trying to keep the conversation going and eventually, even though we hooked up. The communication died, even though I was the primary driver of it, but it just gets exhausting trying to keep a woman's interest when she is not interesting. In my younger years, I would have kept it going for the hopes of more sex, but now I can't be bothered. If she lived closer I probably would have kept her as FWB or booty call. Very pleasant and kind woman but she lives far away so it's not even worth it.

 

[DJ Novice]

The easiest way to overcome this problem I’ve found is to limit the amount of time you spend with women.

Don’t live with them and only see them no more than twice a week. Don’t spend the entire weekend with them unless you are going away somewhere.

Women are interested in different things outside the bedroom than men. They like to talk, socialise and do some sort of activity (usually something like shopping, markets, day trips or brunch that can be extremely uninteresting to most men).

Don’t expect women to entertain you or alleviate your boredom outside of the bedroom. Derive you own happiness from your own interests, children (if you have any) and male friends.

 

[BadBoy89]

All this advice in this thread about “letting women talk” is based on the fact the man wants to have sex with her. No way you guys a letting a single mother in her early 40s talk about her “life goals” for 1 hour.

Generally, men can’t stand women if there is no chance of making love,

 

[BaronOfHair]

...and perform activities...

A fella can take a gal along with him to axe throwing, bowling, skeet shooting, etc etc. Doing so translates into fodder for conversation later

 

[The Duke]

All this advice in this thread about “letting women talk” is based on the fact the man wants to have sex with her. No way you guys a letting a single mother in her early 40s talk about her “life goals” for 1 hour.

Generally, men can’t stand women if there is no chance of making love,

Exactly.

All this advice in this thread about “letting women talk” is based on the fact the man wants to have sex with her. No way you guys a letting a single mother in her early 40s talk about her “life goals” for 1 hour.

Generally, men can’t stand women if there is no chance of making love,

@Travel memoir21 is the exception!

 

[Divorced w 3]

Exactly.

@Travel memoir21 is the exception!

single TRANS mother

fixed that for you

 

[SW15]

No way you guys a letting a single mother in her early 40s talk about her “life goals” for 1 hour.

There are enough men who are lacking sex who will listen to a single mom in her early 40s with the hope of having sex with her.

Generally, the type of man who will listen to single moms in their early 40s are similarly aged single dads.

However, a woman in her early 40s now is an earlier Millennials. The sexlessness epidemic started to become more common with Millennials so there are some sexless, childless early Millennial men who will pursue sex/relationships with similarly aged early Millennial single moms.

 

[Vanderdonck]

Women will reflect back the energy you radiate. So if she is being boring, you are likely boring her.

Solution: See my earlier post for that. Or you can just date men.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

I read somewhere that bored people are boring people themselves. I find that to be true. So if you find women boring? Get more excitement & fun or meaning (whatever) in your own life.

I have never been called boring when I'm interested in a man. I have lots going on in my own life and have a fun/dynamic/magnetic personality.

But along the way I have run into men who asked for a date but then were so poor at relating to someone else that the interaction was terrible and I couldn't wait to get out of there.

In those instances I'd clam up and let the awkward silences lead the way.

So if this is the sort of thing that is happening, then you are not engaging with women well in the first place. If, on the other hand, you don't like hearing her blab on about social media or reality tv or her nails or whatever?

Why is that what y'all are discussing in the first place?????

Lead the conversation, ask interesting questions, change the subject for God's sake. The OP seems rather passive to me.

Women are boring.....OK. Be more interesting and suddenly the women are much less boring my dear.

 

[DJ Novice]

@BeExcellent I reject your hypothesis. The issue is not whether men need to be more interesting to attract women. It is that women are inherently boring to men (outside of the bedroom and child rearing responsibilities) regardless of what the man does or says.

 

[Solomon]

Women will reflect back the energy you radiate. So if she is being boring, you are likely boring her.

Solution: See my earlier post for that. Or you can just date men.

That's not always the case, hot take but there are some women who are just boring and not that bright, it doesn't mean they are bad people. However, it's hard to "Dumb" yourself down constantly if you're dealing with someone whose intelligence is far below yours.

 

[Vanderdonck]

That's not always the case, hot take but there are some women who are just boring and not that bright, it doesn't mean they are bad people. However, it's hard to "Dumb" yourself down constantly if you're dealing with someone whose intelligence is far below yours.

True...control what we can control. If she's a snooze and bringing nothing then next her. Some people are just socially inept.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

If nothing ticks inside of you and you get bored for having a socially aware fine ass chick in front of you.. you're finished as a man.

You are not gaming right, you should always lead the interactions and be able to dictate the flow and vibe. You have all the power to make it a fun date, you meet people dumb as rock (with all due respect to rocks) all the time but with you and your actions this can change instantly and they come out of this shell that modern life creates in most people.

Alot of girls are ahead of most guys socially, every attractive woman no matter how dense she behaves has some degree of social intelligence.

You want Intel or to be entertained, but that's not her job. Your goal is to take that seed of attraction and make it bloom. You are already have your built-in guide: your alphaness.
To take it a bit further, chicks open up to you in different ways after you have already banged her.
That's the part you don't get. If she was pulled in deeper, the real girl might reveal herself.

Honestly, I feel alive and masculine in the presence of a feminine chick. All my problems vanish.

 

[BeExcellent]

@BeExcellent I reject your hypothesis. The issue is not whether men need to be more interesting to attract women. It is that women are inherently boring to men (outside of the bedroom and child rearing responsibilities) regardless of what the man does or says.

Lol. Listen. We are about the same age. I'm not running around here complaining about being bored and I am not a boring person either....now. At your age pushing 60 you are not going to be banging the 18-25 girls unless you are terribly rich, terribly handsome & perhaps somewhat famous. So, let's assume you are doing well to be dating a divorcee in her 40s or early 50s.

Chances are she has children from another man and is wrapped up in kid stuff or perhaps she has a new grandbaby or several. Those children/grandchildren have nothing to do with you and if that is all she talks about? Maybe she was previously married 20+ years and has a bad habit of talking about her ex. Annoying to be sure. Nobody digs that. So what? Change the subject.

There are interesting women out there who have more going on than just that. Your job is to screen them out. Next!

Now if you are so desperate to get laid that you are tolerating inane women (they exist to be sure).....

That's on you. I never wasted my valuable time on a person I couldn't enjoy spending time with & talking with. Neither should you unless you just want sex & are otherwise not interested in her as a human. That will be apparent (and antiseductive) to women & will drive the good ones away before you get off the starting line.

Make sense?

 

[SpartanWarrior77]

Most younger women can be boring to guys with lots of experience. Also if you're dealing with women in the 18-22 range, remember, they spent their teenage days during COVID so that increased their screentime and social isolation even more during a key developmental phase. A lot of the younger chicks are going to be from a socially awkward generation these days which is why my new task is to learn how to break them out of it. It's not easy but it's probably doable with proper game.

 

[Randall Stephens]

Most people are pretty boring they like bread and circuses and that is often it. Basic women like various forms of consumption (food, wine, chocolate, restaurants, amusement, etc.), complaining, and attention seeking. How do you mentally connect with such people? Eventually you could probably find something interesting about them but usually there isn't enough time so the conversations end and they move on. How do you get them to talk?

How do very feminine women (oftentimes hot women) mentally connect with very masculine men? What do they have in common? If you can't connect with someone you cannot have a relationship.

Here's how it works, @Arewedoomed ! 90% of people ARE boring. Why? They haven't setup a purpose in life they focus all their efforts on. But 10% do. The trick is to find people who have THAT purpose. They ARE the interesting ones, and they ARE out there. And THEY are the ones worth inviting into our lives, because, especially if we have a purpose too, we're going to not only get mutual fulfillment but push and grow each other.

But how do we separate the wheat from the chaff as we're introduced or meet people? How do we determine quickly which category a person falls into, and whether they are worth our efforts?

Wanna know, just ask.

 

[Solomon]

If nothing ticks inside of you and you get bored for having a socially aware fine ass chick in front of you.. you're finished as a man.

You are not gaming right, you should always lead the interactions and be able to dictate the flow and vibe. You have all the power to make it a fun date, you meet people dumb as rock (with all due respect to rocks) all the time but with you and your actions this can change instantly and they come out of this shell that modern life creates in most people.

Alot of girls are ahead of most guys socially, every attractive woman no matter how dense she behaves has some degree of social intelligence.

You want Intel or to be entertained, but that's not her job. Your goal is to take that seed of attraction and make it bloom. You are already have your built-in guide: your alphaness.
To take it a bit further, chicks open up to you in different ways after you have already banged her.
That's the part you don't get. If she was pulled in deeper, the real girl might reveal herself.

Honestly, I feel alive and masculine in the presence of a feminine chick. All my problems vanish.

You are spot on, brother but guess what it's not her job to entertain but women expect us to entertain them. The boring women aren't the ones you're talking about, of course most fine women are going to be social savvy that's a given although with the young chicks that's not always the case. I don't expect a woman to do jumping jacks. I had a chick over earlier this month who was cute and a freak but outside of sex the chick was boring to talk to she is introverted needless to say I got bored and stopped putting in effort texting after we hooked up, cause talking/trying to set up plans with her again was like pulling teeth and I don't chase I attract or replace!

I'm at that stage and age where a woman throwing it back isn't enough for me, I like to banter, I like chicks that got wit. Beautifu,l socially aware chicks have it but you also have a lot of chicks now who don't espeically younger. The older I get the more I'm focused on what a woman brings to the interaction, it's not always about what men do, not every woman is qualified gentlemen we must remember that!

Most younger women can be boring to guys with lots of experience. Also if you're dealing with women in the 18-22 range, remember, they spent their teenage days during COVID so that increased their screentime and social isolation even more during a key developmental phase. A lot of the younger chicks are going to be from a socially awkward generation these days which is why my new task is to learn how to break them out of it. It's not easy but it's probably doable with proper game.

Totally agree but IMO younger women are also the most fun, they are not bitter or jaded due to life experince as much as older women. I found that talking to younger chicks can be easier once you get them out of their shell.