“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Women are too attached to feelings

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Dont you hate it when a girl is so pretentious in sayign that women are emotional, illogical, chaotic, etc. and as if this is the way 'girls are supposed to be'?

Personally I think it's crap. They have all just been brainwashed to mix up the feelings of oxytocin ( the love hormone ) which comes from the posterior pituitary gland with the fight / flight mechanisms adrenaline hormones and the amygdala's cortisol vs dopamine.

Basically she talks a good one about how things need to feel right, and acts as if her feelings are so absolute and her 'intuition'. That's a bunch of BS, and that's why she can be manipulated so easy by the "bad boys" right? And then end up 'oh so heartbroken'.......
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Seriously. Feelings are not the end all be all. Ever did something you KNEW was wrong but yuou did it anyway? It might have even felt good in the short term but long term? It messed you up. The amygdala acts like that. THe information filters thru the amygdala first, and like cable internets feeds this into the rational brain. But the reverse feedback mechanism is like a dial up internet (ie from rational brain to amygdala).That's why it's hard to deal with the amygdala's responses. It's wired with the same as in our primitive days when we were living in jungles as monkeys. THe amygdala isn't always as useful as it was back in the day with our modern day stresses.

We aren't running from lions tigers and bears (oh my) that increase our adrenaline (aka FEAR), or hiding from releasing cortisol (PARANOIA). Simple dopamine isn't often enough to tell you that something is good for you. It leaves you edgy and in a chaotic emotional rollercoaster. Ie the happiness trap.

TBC...
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Very good post, thanks. Sources?
 

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TheZone said:
Dont you hate it when a girl is so pretentious in sayign that women are emotional, illogical, chaotic, etc. and as if this is the way 'girls are supposed to be'?

Personally I think it's crap. They have all just been brainwashed to mix up the feelings of oxytocin ( the love hormone ) which comes from the posterior pituitary gland with the fight / flight mechanisms adrenaline hormones and the amygdala's cortisol vs dopamine.

TBC...
Very insightful and extremely precise. This is also one of the main factors that women use to determine if she wants a "legitimate" LTR with a specific man. It's ALWAYS about HER feelings. The only time a mans feelings or well being matters to her is when external occurrences are going to affect her unfavorably, but in order for her to care she has to "feel it". This FEELING is what women base their relationships on. When oxytocin begins to wear off they suddenly begin to behave vastly different (in a bad way) from the time when they were "head over heels in love" with you. When it's no longer there they will go pursue this "high" elsewhere whether they are "with you" or not (keep in mind that your level of commitment doesn't mean ****).

This is around the time that a woman considers nuking the relationship and sends the fully committed male to such depths of despair (this is unfathomable for a woman) he would have never thought possible, all because to her "it no longer feels right". But then again (as mentioned earlier)..... IT REALLY DOESN'T MATTER. The only things that do matter are

a) HER
b) HER
c) HER GODDAMN FEELINGS.
End of story. I wish I could tell you guys that I'm way over exaggerating but the truth is I am not.

Thanks for bringing this to attention OP. It's very important that more men start picking up on this.
 

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"Women are attracted to guys that make them feel. That doesn't always mean happy."

I saw this posted somewhere on here, I think on the Mature section. Point is use the emotional side of women to your advantage. Such as push/pull the amount of attention and compliments you give. Be an ass sometimes. Be chivalrous sometimes. Give her that roller coaster feeling they oh-so crave.

You can't just tell a woman to control her emotions with all this logical mumbo-jumbo. That is not how it works.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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very good post I actually learned something


and can someone tell me what oxytocin is? i see it used on here sometimes and I got a feeling you guys aren't talking about the pill
 

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Lust is not love.

Too often in this strange culture do we mix desire and lust, both natural, very pleasurable emotions, with "love".

Lust is a driving force, it is required, and needed! But when we have our world masking lust for love, then we have an issue.

The quicker you realize that what you are feeling is not love, but lust, is the moment you are powerful once more!

You lust, right? Show that, show that in your eyes when you speak to her, show that in your touch, show that in your voice!

Do not fall victim to cupids poisoned arrow.
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Edit: I seem to have misunderstood this post.

You're complaining that women speak a language of feelings?! Ha! That's like complaining that a black widow bit your hand when you prodded it!
"Women speak in a language of feelings, men speak in a language of abstract concepts"
My friend, either abandon your strange hate, or become gay. Those are your two options!

Also, if I misunderstood your post again, it's because you talk like a teenage girl on her myspace! Please learn to type in an understandable way.
 

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No I dont hate women for claiming to be in touch with their feelings.

They're not.. the fact that they can't be objective of their feelings means they're not.

Mixing up lust and love is what they do. THAT's what I'm talking about.

And the fact that women think they all have to be illogical and purely emotional, which is just irresponsible. Why? Because guys do everything for her, including eat **** and breathe? Oh yea and ****?
 
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