Women are NOT the center of a mans life.

[SmooveMooves]

Just a refreshing reminder to anybody who might be going through the same thing. I'm in a relationship of two months, things have been fine. But recently she's been being extra *****y and basically killing my vibe. I remember being aggravated an entire day just because she had worked had nerves. I started over analyzing things, thinking to myself "I'm a capable DJ, why the **** is she acting like this" I spent some of my days in a runt just because of her. That's when it finally hit me, she doesn't really matter that much

This realization corrected all my problems I stopped thinking like "What am I doing to make her act this way " to "If she keeps acting this way I'll next her". I stopped paying her as much attention and when I did she earned it. She can feel your mindset, women sense that ****, you can't care about how she feels because she has to be to busy caring about how she is of afraid of losing the greatest man to roam the galaxies. You couldnt even care if you wanted to, your alpha, your to busy conquering countries or being the emperor of you massive empire. Remember if you are in a relationship it is solely because a women makes you happy. Women are compliments to our lives and should be a source of pleasure, not migraines. Sure enough when I reminded myself these things the*****iness halted, but I was upset I had to remind myself of the abundance mentality. Just a testimate to the fact that as relationships progress males get more beta. **** that. Remain in control, Keep that Inner DJ strong.
-Smoove

 

[thatfeel]

I can understand the concept of nexting flings and c0ck slvts but feel like a more mature approach should be taken to situations where she does sh!t you don't like especially if you're calling the bond between you two a relationship, which, based on the context of your post seems to be more than just a sexual happening. Perhaps, explaining what it is you don't like that she's doing might be the more responsible approach? Then, if she doesn't care, you could "next"(or dump)her.

Same with the whole "she doesn't really matter that much". If she doesn't matter why are you with her? I understand the point you tried to make but I don't think you got it across in the right way. What you probably meant to say was don't let your life revolve around her. But doesn't mean that you should be totally negligent and inconsiderate.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I can understand the concept of nexting flings and c0ck slvts but feel like a more mature approach should be taken to situations where she does sh!t you don't like especially if you're calling the bond between you two a relationship, which, based on the context of your post seems to be more than just a sexual happening. Perhaps, explaining what it is you don't like that she's doing might be the more responsible approach? Then, if she doesn't care, you could "next"(or dump)her.

Same with the whole "she doesn't really matter that much". If she doesn't matter why are you with her? I understand the point you tried to make but I don't think you got it across in the right way. What you probably meant to say was don't let your life revolve around her. But doesn't mean that you should be totally negligent and inconsiderate.

Thanks for your response man, I think you clarified my point a bit better than I did. That's exactly what I meant, by saying "she doesn't matter that much" I was meaning to imply that your life shouldn't revolve around her. Negligence and inconsideration are definitely no-nos in a mature respectable relationship. The question is though, what exactly is the appropriate behavior for unfavorable behavior? Cause' I find withdrawing of attention and indifference to work 80 % of the time.

 

[JaegerPilot217]

basically a job, career, occupation, stability, goals, dreams, ambitions are pretty much what men's lives are defined and valued by

 

[VikingKing]

But they want to be. They will manipulate and do almost anything to be the center.

 

[SmooveMooves]

But they want to be. They will manipulate and do almost anything to be the center.

And that's where we men take advantage of that constant desire

 

[Checkmate12]

Thanks for your response man, I think you clarified my point a bit better than I did. That's exactly what I meant, by saying "she doesn't matter that much" I was meaning to imply that your life shouldn't revolve around her. Negligence and inconsideration are definitely no-nos in a mature respectable relationship. The question is though, what exactly is the appropriate behavior for unfavorable behavior? Cause' I find withdrawing of attention and indifference to work 80 % of the time.

I have come to the same conclusion, Smoove. When my girlfriend of four months isn't acting in a way that I find desirable (lacking affection, being selfish/naggy, etc.) then I withdraw attention considerably and make it a point not to dish out compliments of any kind. It's the classic punishment/reward system. She always comes around after about a solid day of that.

Also, being ambitious about your passions. Telling her no to hanging out occasionally because you were already planning on going to the gym or studying or whatever goal it is that you're pursuing.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I have come to the same conclusion, Smoove. When my girlfriend of four months isn't acting in a way that I find desirable (lacking affection, being selfish/naggy, etc.) then I withdraw attention considerably and make it a point not to dish out compliments of any kind. It's the classic punishment/reward system. She always comes around after about a solid day of that.

Also, being ambitious about your passions. Telling her no to hanging out occasionally because you were already planning on going to the gym or studying or whatever goal it is that you're pursuing.

That's the way to do it. Women crave attention. Good behavior = Attention
Annoying behavior = Withdrawal

 

[JaegerPilot217]

But they want to be. They will manipulate and do almost anything to be the center.

That's their way of testing us

 

[fuzzball]

Women are NOT the center of a mans life.

i wish i could tell my younger self as well as some guys in my social circle this and have it stick.