That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I had a chance too six years ago or so to have a girlfriend, but I didn't take her for the same reasons you mentioned.JaegerPilot217 said:I'm almost 26 and I haven't had a girlfriend yet either but I have been on dates before, I believe I could have had one a long time ago if I wasn't so picky about looks, lowered my standards, etc., and I still live with my parents and working a minimum wage job, sometimes as of lately I feel I'm too old to be living like this and that I set myself back years with getting a girlfriend, I only have a high school diploma, have completed some community college coursework, I make like $12,000 to $13,000 a year but of course I do want to get a job that pays more money I just need to get more qualifications, trying to figure out how to make it happen
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Ya my parents and other people have mentioned to me before they think I'm a smart person, well okay not like a mathematical genius, etc., yeah i'm hoping I can get some more dating and sexual experience before I turn 30 and hopefully there are some girls out there that will overlook the fact that I still live at home and don't have my **** together yet, at least appreciate the fact I do have a job and a car at least, because I wouldn't want to put my dating life or sex life on hold for a while, you are only in your 20's onceteddy said:I had a chance too six years ago or so to have a girlfriend, but I didn't take her for the same reasons you mentioned.
Other than that though, haven't really had a girl interested in me.
I really hope this works out for you. I still live with my parents, too, but I'm moving out in July.
You seem like a smart guy (at least from the way you write) so I think you'll figure it out.
Honestly, I don't think any of that **** matters in your 20s. I have a nice car and great potential in the future in terms of my career, educated....and it's gotten me jack. Like I said, I'm being passed over just like that for people that have far less than me right now.JaegerPilot217 said:Ya my parents and other people have mentioned to me before they think I'm a smart person, well okay not like a mathematical genius, etc., yeah i'm hoping I can get some more dating and sexual experience before I turn 30 and hopefully there are some girls out there that will overlook the fact that I still live at home and don't have my **** together yet, at least appreciate the fact I do have a job and a car at least, because I wouldn't want to put my dating life or sex life on hold for a while, you are only in your 20's once
Ya its because I consider my 20's to be my prime years and I don't want to have anxiety or feel insecure about still being attracted to women in their 20's once I'm way older, I understand it's hard to have privacy for sex when you live with your parents but the way I see it is people can always get a hotel for some privacy if you know what I meanteddy said:Honestly, I don't think any of that **** matters in your 20s. I have a nice car and great potential in the future in terms of my career, educated....and it's gotten me jack. Like I said, I'm being passed over just like that for people that have far less than me right now.
I agree with you about the 20s part. It's only recently that I realized that being in your 20s won't last forever.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yeah, the issue is when there's loads of people doing better than you and you can't understand it. I feel like I'm way improved in my afcness to at least get some ass, but AFCs are still doing better than me.JaegerPilot217 said:but I've heard that it is best to believe that there is always going to be someone better than you or worse than you
Ya and it also makes you feel like you are a disgrace to the male gender for not having any dating/relationship experience yet by a certain age, it makes me feel like I haven't grown up yet or have been growing up slow, makes you sometimes want to think where you went wrong with women in the pastteddy said:Yeah, the issue is when there's loads of people doing better than you and you can't understand it. I feel like I'm way improved in my afcness to at least get some ass, but AFCs are still doing better than me.
There are plenty of twelve year Olds with more experience than me. Doesn't get any lower than that.JaegerPilot217 said:Ya and it also makes you feel like you are a disgrace to the male gender for not having any dating/relationship experience yet by a certain age, it makes me feel like I haven't grown up yet or have been growing up slow, makes you sometimes want to think where you went wrong with women in the past
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Ya if I could change the past I would but unfortunately none of us can't, it gets annoying and frustrating when people say better late than never or you have plenty of time, that it is never too lateteddy said:There are plenty of twelve year Olds with more experience than me. Doesn't get any lower than that.
Now that I'm ready for women, they're all take or used. My naivete was ridiculous. I'm only now seeing how things really are and what I missed. Its like I just woke up. I'm 25 but I missed out on all the young ***** now the women my age have been used already....i didn't realize a woman could be really sweet to you and make you think you had a chance, meanwhile she's taking a **** in the back room. I just realized how true this **** was. A year ago, I had no idea.
The good news is it does make me value myself more because I'm like...well, I haven't been in any ****ty relationships yet, and I'm doing well so I must be doing something right. helps me with the prize mindset.
I hope you are right because I want to make getting better with women my number one priority in life at the moment because I am NOT getting any younger and you are only in your 20's once, for me getting my life together is secondary but unfortunately I have a feeling that type of mindset will backfire on mePairPlusRoyalFlush said:women are like anything else in life. the more time you put into attracting women the more women you will attract. Yes, working on career and other things(except for careers that make you famous) will have the secondary benefit of making you more desirable to women but you will never be like a PUA.
Me too.JaegerPilot217 said:when I see couples out there i get jealous and bitter, well only when I see young couples who are in their teens and twenties
yeah but when I see couples in their 30's and beyond that does not really bother me, if I knew where I went wrong with swimming in the past I wish I knew what it was that way if I have kids someday, a son for example, I can teach him that way he doesn't become a late bloomer like I wasteddy said:Me too.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I'm strongly considering attending a David Wygant boot-camp, he gives superb advicePoop1337 said:You need better priorities. You do have time. I feel you pedastilize women and glorify LTR's though. You need experience.
I agree with you man…I'm very well educated and have a good career…yet I'm seeing women pick douchebags with no money over me. At the end of the day, the dating game only comes down to one thing: looks. You could be a millionaire and still not be getting laid because you're not good looking. Most guys are on SOS because they aren't good looking and don't know what to do with themselves. If I were a broke high school dropout who had muscles and tattoos, I would be scoring left and right.teddy said:Honestly, I don't think any of that **** matters in your 20s. I have a nice car and great potential in the future in terms of my career, educated....and it's gotten me jack. Like I said, I'm being passed over just like that for people that have far less than me right now.
I agree with you about the 20s part. It's only recently that I realized that being in your 20s won't last forever.
Well, I do that stuff, most of the people I know perceive me as a social/friendly guy. Problem is when I want a girl and fail, I dwell on it.YAboi said:teddy you don't realise how far ahead of ur peers you are. Getting women is not hard. It can be done at any time. You just need to befriend more people , attend more events , focus on being normal and natural AND make a little effort to initiate conversations with strangers (women mostly). It could all change in a day - Always remember that.
All you need to have is the mindset of not caring of outcomes of interactions, plus have a degined objective in mind . Do not throw your future away because of coochie. All that holds most guys back is feelings of inadequacy. Those feelings don't help so why entertain them?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.