Women are afraid to approach right?

[warrior1]

I remember i read a thread about a person saying that this woman was interested in a guy and wasn't sure if the guy ever noticed her but they do see each other around. The woman's girlfriend told her hey why don't you talk to him and introduce yourself. She then saids Oh my god, are you crazy... I can't do that.

So would most women give this similar response to their girlfriend who gave her advice to go and talk to the guy? Even though i heard most women are "chicken" no offense, this just made me conclude that if a guy doesn't make a move... NOTHING will happen.

Comments?

 

[Bonhomme]

Wrong.

I get approached by women often. Not necessarily ones who need to approach men, either. I've even had gals do things like put a piece of paper with their name and number in my pocket.

 

[backbreaker]

it's not that women aren't afraid to appraoch. it's not their job, so whenever one does approach, I take caution.

If a woman approaches you, what do you think she will do if you wren't there.. what do you think she will do when you leave?

A woman is not supposed to approach. A woman is supposed to make it known that she wants to be approached. It's your job to take the queue and approach

 

[warrior1]

it's not that women aren't afraid to appraoch. it's not their job, so whenever one does approach, I take caution.

If a woman approaches you, what do you think she will do if you wren't there.. what do you think she will do when you leave?

A woman is not supposed to approach. A woman is supposed to make it known that she wants to be approached. It's your job to take the queue and approach

Yea i know your last paragraph. Can you explain what you mean by your 2nd paragraph? Bit confused with what your trying to say there.

 

[Bonhomme]

There are exceptions. If she's a good bit younger than you she'll usually know you're expected not to approach, at least not with any sexual intentions, lest you be the "creepy old man."

But if you're dealing with women who are somewhere near your age or older, yeah, then you're usually expected to approach ... but not necessarily "cold."

 

[ValleyDJing]

If a woman gives you s.hit for not approaching/talking to her/introducing yourself tell her this.

chick: what took you so long?
me: well if you were so interested, why didn't you approach me?
chick: its not the girls job to do that!
me: oh really? let me ask you this.
chick: ok
me: in your opinionm, are men and women equal?
chick: yes of course
me: well...???

Although they won't start approaching dudes, they'll at least stop giving you crap for being shy, lazy, whatever your reason is for not approaching sooner.

 

[Last Man Standing]

It is not in a woman's nature to pursue men - we have complementary natures - this is The Natural Order Of Things!

If both sexes were pursuers then there will be a clash and chaos - if we were both made to be submissive/passive then we would never approach each other and never meet

 

[socalrunner]

In my recent case women are afraid to approach. Girl was waiting for me to get her info/start talking then immediatly asked me to movie/disneyland. just tonight she told me how much she likes me. i didnt say it back because i'm on my way to being a DJ and i dont reveal my cards too quickly

 

[L777]

Wrong.

I get approached by women often. Not necessarily ones who need to approach men, either. I've even had gals do things like put a piece of paper with their name and number in my pocket.

BS. Don't care what you look like, how rich you are, it don't happen.

I've been in the field long enough to know this....it don't happen. Men have the upper hand cos we have the power to approach, and thats the way it should be.

 

[L777]

Uhh, yeah, it does happen. I've seen it happen, and it's happened to me a couple of times. It doesn't occur very often, though.

OK maybe in weird USA or Canada where randoms come up to you and start talking to you and asking how much you earn and stuff....but not in the rest of the world.

I'd hardly say they're 'approaching' you either, ie trying to pick you up.....more like just being talkative for the sake of it.

Thats actually made me just realise something....considering its much stranger for ppl to randomly talk to each other in this country than is it in the states....I must have a more advanced game than the average American PUA....sweet.

 

[In2theGame]

I agree with the original poster that women are afraid to approach a guy, especially if he's good looking. It happenes but its very very rare. In my experiences, there have been times where i have hooked up with a girl and found out later on that she was "scared" to talk to me because she felt like i wouldnt like her and turn here down. You think men are afraid of rejection? :nono: Girls/Women are horrified because if she went up to a "hottie" guy and he turned her down,... just imagine how low her self esteem will get, Even if she's hot herself.. All women Hot/ugly are insecure about something, Usually looks wise. It can also depend on where you live,.. As for me.. i live in NYC, very different than a small town so girls might act differently. I remember going down to a small town in Louisiana and i came across really hot cuties and they stared at me like "i wanna suck you off!" coming back home (NYC) wow what a difference... These women here are STUCK UP! (gotta work for this Pvssy) type attitude but the bottm line is, Men are 90% of the time approachers. Sometimes girls get desperate to get asked out and wear something that will hopefully get them asked out but it usually backfires with old perverts making comments at them.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

They're terrified of approaching especially if you look better than them or they like you.

80 percent of them won't approach no matter what,they'll just give you the puppy dog eyes and show off their bodies and we'll come running like dogs..

 

[L777]

I'm not saying it isn't possible or anything, but I'm just curious how you've come to that conclusion.

Well it was mostly a joke, but if you think about it, it definitely does take more balls to cold approach over here....cos its just not the norm. When I visited the US, ppl just 'opened' me anywhere, the train, the mall, KFC etc. here, it just doesn't happen really....one guy started randomly talking to me on a bus once, and thats it....and he was WEIRD.

 

[L777]

yes it hapins but only if ur relly relly relly gud-lookin

Troll. Like I said not where I'm from.

Thought looks didn't matter anyway lol?

Even your trolling sucks.

 

[L777]

You're a fool. You can't even detect BLATANT sarcasm? That's sad, man.

Lol sorry then. It IS hard to detect over the internet .

Plus I thouht Americans didn't do sarcasm or irony??

 

[tobby]

From experience and having sisters, 99% of women will never approach a guy no matter how hot he is. They just can't take that kind of rejection. Also, some really good-looking guys will only get women if they approach because they "intimidate" the women. For the guy that said he got a number from a woman, I'll be honest and say that maybe once in a blue moon you'll get a girl to do that, but don't count on it.

There are quite a few women that'll outright go up and flirt with a guy and make it known that they like him, but again, all the cards are in your hand. Women are so strange that you can never truly read their body language. Sometimes they do stuff just to feel attractive; othertimes they flirt/come up to guys for attention or to "reaffirm that they can get most men".

It's been said so many times before, go out approach and try your luck, that's the only way you'll know what these girls want. It sucks, because sometimes you and all of us want some of this stuff gift-wrapped for you, but life's not like it most of the time. Go out and take what you want!

 

[L777]

OOOH, low blow! Sorry we can't all come up with gems like "Are you being served?"

yea, I mean look at the American "Office" as opposed to the British one....like comparing a Ferrari to a moped!

 

[In2theGame]

From experience and having sisters, 99% of women will never approach a guy no matter how hot he is. They just can't take that kind of rejection. Also, some really good-looking guys will only get women if they approach because they "intimidate" the women. For the guy that said he got a number from a woman, I'll be honest and say that maybe once in a blue moon you'll get a girl to do that, but don't count on it.

There are quite a few women that'll outright go up and flirt with a guy and make it known that they like him, but again, all the cards are in your hand. Women are so strange that you can never truly read their body language. Sometimes they do stuff just to feel attractive; othertimes they flirt/come up to guys for attention or to "reaffirm that they can get most men".

It's been said so many times before, go out approach and try your luck, that's the only way you'll know what these girls want. It sucks, because sometimes you and all of us want some of this stuff gift-wrapped for you, but life's not like it most of the time. Go out and take what you want!

Tobby, This was an excellet post and i agree with everything you have said here. Good stuff. I feel the exact same way from my experiences also. If you look at my post before this one, Women cant take a rejection from a guy, especially a good looking guy. Their self esteem will hit Rock bottom. Its women, "Omg He Rejected me..."<~~~ Its the End of the world for them

 

[L777]

^^^I agree. It actually sounds like someone with REAL LIFE (shock horror) experience to back up what he says. That bloke Darwin Sympathiser from London on the other thread is a moron

 

[Master Bates]

Plus I thouht Americans didn't do sarcasm or irony??

This is something british people like to tell themselves when they find americans who don't laugh at sh*tty british humor. To say Americans don't "do" (get?) sarcasm and irony is yet another perfect (and ironic) example of european ignorance of american culture.

yea, I mean look at the American "Office" as opposed to the British one....like comparing a Ferrari to a moped!

The UK Office is some of the best British tv comedy ever, where as The US Office isn't even in the top 20. What else do you expect when you try to copy something Rickey Gervais does?