Women and their freaking ex's

[JimboH]

I have been dating this girl about a month. Everything has went well, she has had high interest in me until 4 days ago.

So today i go hangout with her and we have a talk. I get my answer. She mentions her ex is stalking her, telling her that he wants to marry her, won't cheat on her anymore...BS BS

She says she don't know what to do about it. He's finally saying all the things she wanted him to say years ago. She says she is numb to everything (whatever that means)

I play it cool, tell her to do what makes her happy. I even told her I was an adult and if she didnt wanna see me anymore i was cool with that too. I avoided the expected ,"your ex is an jerk, that cheated on you...yada yada yada."

I make it clear that i've never cheated on anyone, etc...let her know i consider myself a catch. I act completely un-fazed by this BS.

I'm sitting on the couch and she is laying on the floor while she is telling me this BS. Finally, She tells me she don't know whats gonna happen between her and I. After a little while, she looks up and tells me to come sit beside her, we look into each others eyes and she starts kissing me. Then she smiles and tells me i make her happy. Then she grabs me and hugs me and wont let go. Which is weird as hell to me after all this BS talk.

Her roommate comes home, so I tell her, "im giving you your space" and I leave. I give no sign of emotion or anything. I basically told her i wasn't getting in touch with her, if she figured it all out she could contact me.

What the hell else do you do in this situation? Women and there stupid ex's!

 

[godjwood]

i think shes using you as a rebound.. watch out.

 

[Giovanni Casanova]

I'm sitting on the couch and she is laying on the floor while she is telling me this BS. Finally, She tells me she don't know whats gonna happen between her and I. After a little while, she looks up and tells me to come sit beside her, we look into each others eyes and she starts kissing me. Then she smiles and tells me i make her happy. Then she grabs me and hugs me and wont let go.

TRANSLATION: I don't want to be alone, and my ex is trying to get me back. If I was with someone new I'd tell him to go piss up a tree, but I'm not sure where things with Jimbo are going to lead.

If I tell him to piss up a tree and then Jimbo flakes out on me, then I'll be all alone and I can't handle that. I'd better feel Jimbo out before I make my next move.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

...What the hell else do you do in this situation? Women and there stupid ex's!

:nono: Beware of becoming the "Rebound guy."

 

[JimboH]

So what is best way to procede?
I've decided im done contacting her till she figures it all out. I'm letting it lay

Although, I thought about writing her and telling her I don't wanna date her anymore...That she has become considerably less attractive to me because she has even considered going back with her ex that treated her bad. She is cool, but i dont have time for this BS.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

So what is best way to procede?
I've decided im done contacting her till she figures it all out. I'm letting it lay

Although, I thought about writing her and telling her I don't wanna date her anymore...That she has become considerably less attractive to me because she has even considered going back with her ex that treated her bad. She is cool, but i dont have time for this BS.

Do you really need to ask what's the best way to procede?

 

[ConantheLibertarian]

Yeah you answered your own question right after you asked it. Cut off contact, problem solved . There's not much else you can do friend, let her sort her own screwiness out.

 

[resilient]

Definately a rebound case with the ex lurking in the background. She's confused about her feelings because you moved in too soon when she wasn't over him. Now he's pulling all his tactics to get her back.

Even if she decides to leave you be comforted in knowing the fact that chicks who go back to past relationships to recapture the familiarity never work out because they always remember what broke them up in the first place and will never forget it. It never lasts the second time through.

As Doc Love would say, one chick, one chance, per lifetime.

The other guys pinned it right: she's affraid to be alone and that spells LSE and drama/high maintenance for later.

You're doing the right thing if you decide to walk away and find other single women who aren't still attached.

 

[Jariel]

If she's not sure about being with you, she's not worth your time and devotion.

My advice would be to sound like you're pushing her towards her ex- and say things like "You never know, it might work out better this time" or "Perhaps you'd be better suited to him" and things like that.

Don't ask me to explain the logic, but reverse psychology works miracles on women. The more you pander to her indecisiveness, her ego play, drama and bullsh!t, the more you'll push her away.

Act indifferent to the situation. Meanwhile, keep your options open!

 

[KarmaSutra]

Is that really where you want to explain to your friends where you're standing with this broad, on the back burner? Don't you believe you're better than that? Is this cvnt worth this much effort? I don't think so.

I'd rather donate plasma for the fvck of it rather than give a b!tch like this my attention.

 

[wayword]

So today i go hangout with her and we have a talk. I get my answer. She mentions her ex is stalking her, telling her that he wants to marry her, won't cheat on her anymore...BS BS

She says she don't know what to do about it. He's finally saying all the things she wanted him to say years ago. She says she is numb to everything (whatever that means)

Ha, I love how girls always say a guy they're interested in is "stalking" her to shift the guilt away from herself.

Stalking my azz. 99% of the time that accusation is 99% BS.

It's obviously a very 2-way communication and even she admits he is telling her everything she wants to hear...

 

[Jariel]

Ha, I love how girls always say a guy they're interested in is "stalking" her to shift the guilt away from herself.

Stalking my azz. 99% of the time that accusation is 99% BS.

I totally agree! When I hear a woman say that to me, it's an instant deal breaker...I'm out of there.

I've been accused of it too. Total crap!

 

[DJDamage]

So today i go hangout with her and we have a talk. I get my answer. She mentions her ex is stalking her, telling her that he wants to marry her, won't cheat on her anymore...BS BS

She says she don't know what to do about it. He's finally saying all the things she wanted him to say years ago. She says she is numb to everything (whatever that means)!

So her ex is "stalking her" which should sound the alarm bells in her head telling her that he is nuts. Yet its working?! why you ask ? because he is not really stalking her. She is allowing him to reach her in some capacity and not telling him to take a hike.

I play it cool, tell her to do what makes her happy. I even told her I was an adult and if she didnt wanna see me anymore i was cool with that too. I avoided the expected ,"your ex is an jerk, that cheated on you...yada yada yada."

I make it clear that i've never cheated on anyone, etc...let her know i consider myself a catch. I act completely un-fazed by this BS.

You dated her only one month!, this b.s shouldn't even enter into your world or conversation. This should not be your concern, your concern so far should be if she shows up on a date and makes you happy (nudge nudge).

I'm sitting on the couch and she is laying on the floor while she is telling me this BS. Finally, She tells me she don't know whats gonna happen between her and I. After a little while, she looks up and tells me to come sit beside her, we look into each others eyes and she starts kissing me. Then she smiles and tells me i make her happy. Then she grabs me and hugs me and wont let go. Which is weird as hell to me after all this BS talk.

Her roommate comes home, so I tell her, "im giving you your space" and I leave. I give no sign of emotion or anything. I basically told her i wasn't getting in touch with her, if she figured it all out she could contact me.

What the hell else do you do in this situation? Women and there stupid ex's!

The minute she told you that she doesn't know what to do in this situation, you should have put the moves on her and try to sex her up. Why you ask? because as I said before this is not your B.S to deal with and your main concern is your happiness on this date. If she refused your advances then you just walk away! WTF do you have to stay and listen to her whine about her ex, you don't owe her your attention especially when your physical needs are not met. No need to make a speech about giving her space, when you are not around that is the answer (because you are much better chasing chicks with no baggage still lying around). You control the situation and not let her dictate the moves (come sit beside me B.S and let me hug you like you are my girlfriend who understands me!).

If the ex is still in the picture then its not over, remember that.