"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Women and texting

babsan

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Why do women prefer texting to calling? I can't understand.

They're texting all the time, but don't answer or respond to a call with a call back. Even if they made out with you or you've known them for some time and are still seeing them. Any insights? How should you handle it? Play their text games? Keep trying to reach them by calling seems needy I think.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Nexus Polaris

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Text them back, but don't rely solely on that. I've lost a couple of good girls that I liked a lot because I didn't ever call them. If you just text, eventually they seem to just stop responding even if they were the ones who initially texted you.

I met a girl back in the spring who by the end of the night had grabbed my phone away from me to put her number in it. She sent me a good night text and a good morning text the next day. All of our conversations were text. Eventually, she just stopped responding.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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babsan said:
Why do women prefer texting to calling? I can't understand.

They're texting all the time, but don't answer or respond to a call with a call back. Even if they made out with you or you've known them for some time and are still seeing them. Any insights? How should you handle it? Play their text games? Keep trying to reach them by calling seems needy I think.
Do what works for you. It's only a game if you decide to play with them. Besides, how is it needy if you're returning their text? Just don't make a nuisance of yourself my keep calling if they don't answer.
 

Sandow

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texting is less threatning. you dont have to deal with akward silences, things to talk about, and you can respond when ever you want. basically a dream come true for girls. its not that bad really, i also think its easier and you dont have to deal with the normal boring conversations.

i text all the girls i talk to, its straight to the point and simple. I save all the talking for when i see them in person. Plus i'm not a big talker on the phone...its difficult to flirt on the phone since they can't see you. there's no kino, c/f doesnt come out right, no body language. Just not a fan of it. Just remember when you do text, dont respond immediately, and never be the last one to text. always end on her text.
 

Someone Much cooler

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I don't have texting on my phone for this exact reason,! I feel if you got something to say, call my ass up, or else it ain't all that important and it can wait till you got time to call me. I tell girls all the time(yold this chick today), "naw baby, don't text me, don't be chicken call me- up if ya wanna get to know me!"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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