"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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I do a bit of magic, for fun... Like 'pick a card, any card'.

When I was learning to fan a deck of cards http://www.magicworld.co.uk/magic-shop/image.php?productid=42 it got me thinking about relationships.

When you fan the deck, it's easier to get it right first go. If you hold the deck too lose, and mess it up, you can try to repair it by sliding cards back. It rarely ends up the same. If you mess up, it's easier to start a fresh.

You can play with cards, fan them perfect, then after a while they get old, things start messing up, cards clump up together. Yeah it can still work, but it's easy to just buy another deck.

Sometimes you buy a pack of cards, they look flash, they may have a nice picture on them, yet they don't feel right, their not fanning nice. Buy a new pack! You wont always get good cards.

I wouldn't take this too serious, or make it black and white. I'm just saying sometimes it's best to start a fresh.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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What's the best way to start fresh?
 

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Czar said:
What's the best way to start fresh?
If there's a girl who you like, but it's messy, always realize that you can just start up again with other women.

You don't have to accept a bad relationship.

You don't have to accept a bad date.

You don't have to accept a bad interaction.

With cards I'll just pop up the magic shop if I don't like the cards I've got. With women I'll either use the internet or go out clubbing.
 
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