"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Women aint **** but hoes and tricks!
- Thread starter frivolousz21
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
DonJuanForever
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Hey, I just turned the big 23 too man, lol, I'm telling ya, I'm getting to senior citizen status, lol, no.
But friv, you've gotten married, got a family, and I believe you fell in "the trap."
Remember Pook made a post about NOT following the "way" and I think you just followed it.
I don't think you like being married, I don't think you're happy, I think you are quite miserable.
If you are married to the girl you want, WHY ARE YOU STILL TALKING ABOUT DON JUAN PRINCIPLES? Lol, when you marry, there's no more don juan principles, your life is hers, her life is yours, what the hell?
I don't think you should have gotten married yet, I think you are still growing into your true self. Trust me, I am too buddy.
Sit down and really think about your present life, do you really and honestly like it? I mean, lol, you call cursing out your family "don juan" or "being a man", lol....hey friv I am in martial arts. The real tough guys don't go around cursing folks out to be "don juan."
A don juan, which is a man, is a guy WHO HAS SEARCHED HIS SOUL AND FOUND HIMSELF. He has peace (which you don't have), he has joy (that's not a result of anything from this world but his soul), and he is living the life he wanted, not the life he settled for (which I think you have).
Friv, go back and finish growing buddy. Then for the rest of your life, LIVE IT, and stop living for somebody else.
DJF
basically i cared about my AW when it happened but that was for a small window only natural human behavior. look at yourself dude.
don juan forever is right, why are you still on here? you have no relevant knowledge. youre 23 probably could hardly wipe your own a$$. could never get another girl and thats why youre already settling down cause youre scared about finding someone else cause you have no confidence. you probably felt like you were the sh!t when you yelled at your aunt and felt all good about people giving you props.hahaha at 23 thats how you get your jollys pretty funny.
everyone knows 23 is an age where you should have options opened. unless you know you cant have any other options like yourself. wtf you have a lot of problems 2600 posts has a family and still on this website.
dude sorry your not happy with your life, it will get better.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
are you in Highschool?MattS said:wtf is so hard to understand. i forgot you got an art degree you cant analyze sh!t. you claim youre the sh!t and im just letting you know that you aint nothing definatley nothing in my eyes and probably other people. who said anything about getting on one another i know you have secrets and sh!t but fvck you dont have to let everyone on here know what you want. i am good looking but i dont swing your way sorry.
basically i cared about my AW when it happened but that was for a small window only natural human behavior. look at yourself dude.
don juan forever is right, why are you still on here? you have no relevant knowledge. youre 23 probably could hardly wipe your own a$$. could never get another girl and thats why youre already settling down cause youre scared about finding someone else cause you have no confidence. you probably felt like you were the sh!t when you yelled at your aunt and felt all good about people giving you props.hahaha at 23 thats how you get your jollys pretty funny.
everyone knows 23 is an age where you should have options opened. unless you know you cant have any other options like yourself. wtf you have a lot of problems 2600 posts has a family and still on this website.
dude sorry your not happy with your life, it will get better.
I have a son you stupid fyck? i have to take care of him..
as donjuanforever said "But friv, you've gotten married, got a family, and I believe you fell in "the trap."
Remember Pook made a post about NOT following the "way" and I think you just followed it."
why is it so hard for you to comprehend things. you settled down early cause of the reasons i stated above
go back and read duanjuanforever post
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.