Women actually 'like' me now - feels weird.

[styleman]

Have been vaguely with girls in the past, i.e. made out when drunk, had sex when drunk, but as things go, girls have never 'liked' me. Now it would be foolish to say I have not altered 'my game' but what exactly I've done, I don't know, but recently it seems girls actually 'like me'.
Examples of which, was on a date with a girl I've known for a long time, and actually had wanted to get with her in the past, but that had fizzled out over time. Throughout the date she was making plans for what 'we'd' do tomorrow, and day after, and the day after. The next day, I didn't call her to 'do anything' because I was pretty busy, and she is phoning me away asking why I didn't... and silly inane phone calls, which just seemed like an excuse to talk to me even though I did tell her that I would be busy during the date.
This other girl, had been flirting with her a bit I asked her to introduce me to her friends (my intention was of course to see if any of them were attractive, but I asked in a harmless way and there wasn't really any way she could know this) and she starts shouting "what's wrong with me", "don't you like me" etc. so I console her a little and then I probe her a little asking whether she likes me, and she comes out with 'I like you a lot' and 'You're amazing'.

Now this is all very weird, and too much too fast, when in the past women wouldn't give me the time of day and never 'liked' me...
I don't know how to maintain all this, please advice...

 

[Allurre]

Hey bro,

You should be glad with the reality you're facing now.

To be able to pace with what's happening, TRY not to give in easily.

This will help you. Play hard to get with the ladies and this
will eventually raise your personal value in their eyes.

Now... you must also know WHAT to do when you're around
women so you keep their interest level high, not plummeting.

Stop thinking about what's happening. Focus on other
areas of life. This panic will cool down.

 

[WhtRbt]

Accept it fully that girls like you. Really do that.

 

[sodbuster]

You've spent time here and realized there is more to life than women. That[and increased self esteem] means you aren't running around desperately trying to find a girl. When you aren't desperate and have things to so, women want you[don't ask me how, but they can tell][may be that kid looking at candy look you have if you are desperate]. As long as you have this attitude,you are in.

When you asked about her friends[she knew you wanted to meet THEM to date],she wonders what is wrong with me[if you would have asked her out first,you may not have gotten the date,women love a challenge]. When you had things to do, she wants to see if she is more important than they are[how easily can she change your mind?are you a man with options?]

Seearch for Kill the desperation thread[something like that anyway]

 

[sodbuster]

double post,nuts

 

[AAAgent]

seems like your doing fine. Just learn the correct words to say at what times. I have the same problems you do, and was close to being raped twice. But i let these girls know in a way that hurts them the LEAST while still maintaining a beneficial relationship with them.

Basically don't make them hate you so u can use them for getting their friends or hook you up with other things in the future.

 

[tarotale]

how did u do it that quickly? tell me your secret bro. these days, i am just focusing on "not needing women" and playing around with ****y funny, but idk, i hope i see results like you do. i kinda automatically feel tensed when i talk to girls, and that feeling really sucks... help!

 

[slaog]

how did u do it that quickly? tell me your secret bro. these days, i am just focusing on "not needing women" and playing around with ****y funny, but idk, i hope i see results like you do. i kinda automatically feel tensed when i talk to girls, and that feeling really sucks... help!

The OP has been a member here since 2005. I'll tell you what I think happened the OP and whats happened me.


As you read story after story and read all the good replys to how to solve that story, eventually it starts to sink into your subconscious. You might know a few tactics consciously but the subconscious is the powerful force that pushes you in a certain direction according to your beliefs.


As my eyes have been opened to the matrix we live in I can see where I went wrong. At first this didn't help too much (although it is a benefit) but after a year and a bit of reading and absorbing material I have noticed that it has changed my beliefs (in the subconscious) and that means I am more of a DJ and less AFC then before i.e. I don't need to consciously think as much about what I'm doing. I do what feels right.

 

[haishashourisha]

There is always at least one girl that's into you. Just not the one you want.

Also, I doubt these girls are THAT into you, your just not used to any attention.

 

[Aragon034]

I remember this... it was VERY strange at the time.

Only intellectual girls would ever talk to me, mostly between HB4-7s, but as soon as i started internalizing alot of the stuff here (too much to write out, y'all know what i mean) instantly that threshold of 4-7 went from 4-8, then 5-8, and now?

The other day, i had an HB9 i hardly know from my old job walk up and starts a conversation while i'm there buying stuff. Hell i didn't even want to talk to her as i was talking business with a buddy of mine! i remember it clearly as i had to ask her her name. Was she offended? Nope.

Yeah. It's weird at first, but you get used to it with time. Just don't lose objectivity and the world is yours as Tony Montana would say.