Woman knowing when your single versus taken

[warrior1]

All humans are curious. Whehter your a male or female, sometimes we get very curious. As a male, if i see a woman attractive, the first thing that would go into my mind is, "Is she single or taken?" Of course i want her to be single for obvious reasons. If i know she is single, i do get happy because i know i can get with her. But if she is taken, i go damn she is taken. But either way, i see her the same way. If i find her hot and attractive, she would still be that way whether i find out she is single or taken.

Women are the other hand is different from what people tell me. Even though women when finding out a guy is hot and find out he is single, she will be happy. When she finds out he is taken, she will either completely forget about him since he is taken or still be infatuated with him. Though guys get more infatuated. However, someone said that when they know that a guy who is hot to them is single, the first question she asks to herself is. "Why is he single?"

1. My question is why do women think like this? Us males when we find out an attractive woman is single... we never ask ourselves why is she single? Is there a reason for this? Also, are you woman excited like us guys when we try to find out if the person we like are single or not whether its through a friend or just asking?

2. Also, do woman like it more when they dont know the guy's status whether he is single or taken because it adds a bit of more mystery to it? As a guy, i want to know ASAP Razz so i know what i can work with. Do women value guys higher if they are taken vs being single? Like if they see 2 males, one that is very attractive to her but single and another male who is average looking but taken.... would the woman see more value in the average looking guy than the hotter guy? Does a woman ever put a guy's value lower when she finds out he is single? It's sort of weird because i know whether your a male or female, if you find a person attractive and find out they are single, you get happy. Yet, a woman may see lesser value in him because this is so?

Can anyone give me some comments and insight into to this?

 

[warrior1]

bump

 

[ducaro]

any woman is only interested in something she CANNOT have! she would only show interest in a single man if there is nothing 'challenging' lying around...

 

[Omen]

I flirt with women (2 at the moment) and both are taken. Doesn't mean a darn thing. Personally I think if they knew they could have better they would. I have one getting me a b-day present and the girl has a boyfriend. So what I say. Some guys go... Oh well, she's taken. You can tell though how happy they are too. If they rant and rave about the guy all the time and he is around, I might not waste my time, but if I never hear her talk about him, never been told his name or seen him.... To me he doesn't exist. This shows me they really dont care too much, or aren't happy.

I just reverse it really. Kind of like how you talk to one girl, and another that is interested is not going to let the other one have you. They compete against one another and they know it. You get seen talking to one all night at work for instance, the other will pop in and say something and not just let the other one have you. She's going to prove to you why she's better than the other woman.

Its like Ducaro said above but in my scenario. If you talk to woman X and Y and end up with Y, X will still try to get you away from Y. Its a challenge.

May not answer your ?, but I reverse things. If a woman has the guts to win me over and can prove she's better than what I have, i'd go for it. Now I try to find the best I can, but sometimes crap goes sour, and i'd love for a woman to show me WHY I should dump the current one for her. Let them compete for you.

 

[warrior1]

do women find an attractive guy even more attractive if he was single or taken? I am confused b/c it can work both ways. Like if he was single, the woman would get happy but would wonder why he is single. If he was taken, the woman would lose interest in him because she is wasting his time OR she gets infatuated with him b/c he is a challenge since he's in a relationship.

Thoughts?

 

[mintxx]

i find more women want me when i'm already getting laid regularly, and also when i've been to the gym regularly for a few months
-edit: as in, some girl will ask me straight up 'do you have a girlfriend' and i'll say 'yeah i am seeing someone as it happens' and then suddenly they're all over me. pretty frustrating if you're the faithful type but there's always that interlude between drinks

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Its natural for humans to want what they cant have.

It depends on the girls personality as to whether she will give up hope if you have a gf, or put the work in to prove she's a better catch. Either way, if you have room for extra friends, befriend her, and keep her as a potential back-up.

Makes sense if you think about it - I already have a nice car, but I always want the next one up. The minute you get the best car you would ever want, your still not happy and you buy other expensive brands and get the full mix.

Unfortunately we cant do the same with women and get married to more than one, not legally anyway....

 

[girl_in_a_boy_forum]

I think you're looking into this too much.

Personally, if I like a guy, I don't like any "mystery" about his status. I just want to know if he's single or taken, and then move on from there.

If a guy is taken, I usually assume that there must be something very good about him for a girl to settle with him. However, I can think of a number of taken guys and wonder why the heck a girl would choose them.

If I like a guy and he's taken, I forget about him almost instantly. It's like an instant Friend Zone thing.

If I like a guy and he's single, I don't automatically think, "Why is he single?" In many cases, it quickly becomes apparent why he's single.

Being single or taken doesn't change a guy's "value" in my eyes. The content of his character changes his "value", regardless of his relationship status.