Woman is COMPLETELY irrational or she's bad at testing?!!?

[Leopold]

Ok folks... Im gonna put this as short as possible. Its definitively worth it.

Im 20... turning 21 soon.

Meet an average looking chick (24 years) on a concert on the on the VIPs last weekend. She was alone (in contrast of the rest of the majority who were couples). I came by her and started a great conversation and gave a REALLY COOL suave impression. She told me she bough her expensive ticket as a Christmas present to herself. We spent the whole night together, had AMAZING KINO (no she wasn't drunk) and had a good time making her giggle.

We left the night with plans to go out and have fun on my upcoming birthday this week when i turn 21. She suggested we would have drinks fun together, and I agreed to call her later withing the week. I Said bye to her and all with more great Kino and we parted our ways.

I call her today (3 days after we meet) as i was getting off from work. I asked about her day and all the rest... (i made some very confident comments which made her giggle more). I suggested to go over the afternoon to a restaurant I really liked and visit their bar.

... But then she dropped the BOMB at me... "is it ok if my BOYFRIEND comes?... something blah blah because he'll be leaving soon since his break from college is coming to and end".

... and then i go in my head.... WTF!!!!?!? I had to reply in a fast and confident way to her question. I though to myself... "..is she for real??? or is she TESTING ME? "

Of course... as a DON JUAN JR. I REALLY didn't wanted to give her the satisfaction that having her boyfriend would impact me on whatsoever... so i swiftly replied " SUUUREE!!!! The more the merrier HONEY!!! RIGHT?!" and she replied with a yes and a giggle.

WHICH I TOTALLY REGRET saying that because i just pretty much CASTRATED MYSELF!!!!! I JUST PLACED MYSELF on the effing FRIEND ZONE!! >.<

but then again... as I was trying to keep composure on the conversation i was hearing like blah blah blah but my mind was racing... Then i heard some comments she made about she wouldn't be able to "go ALL out" because she had exams and such other thing the following day.

I though to myself... "Is she now finding a new excuse to bail out after i said it wouldn't mind her guy"... "well I guess its game over for me here... so i better call it the end"

I said to her... "Listen... You sound like you have plans already made that are very important to your life... and I dont want to be a distraction. Its better that you try to focus on what is important in your life and besides.. i wouldn't like if you were left out from the fun"

But then I got this strong reply from her like insisting that she still wanted to meet out. She mentioned something about like... her making a little dinner or whatever and go easy.. and later on once her plans are done we would go "all out"....



SOO... WTF is going on here?!!? Why would she insists on meeting IF she has a guy already?!? Her, her guy and ME on the same room.... HOW AWFULLY AWKWARD can that be???

If she wanted me as a friend in the beginning when we meet... why did we hugged so much and responded so positively to my KINO in the first place (specially if she already had a bf)? Why did she gave me such a strong impression she was interested on me?

Btw... i did saw on her phone background a picture of a guy and her dog on a sofa (probably the boyfriend) I asked her that night about the dog but never wanted to show any concern or jealousy by asking who the guy was.

So... what is this??? Is she a SL*T?? Irrational?? She's given me a very BAD test??
I personally think i should not meet and just move on... what would you do? Also... if you were her BF... how would you react if i were to show up?

AND of course... How and what are the best way to deal with these "I have a boyfriend" BOMBS that i keep getting over and over.

Thx guys.. you are all the best!!

 

[window]

I think chicks do it for validation outside of their relationship, then they'll drop the bomb. Trust me when they drop it they'll be looking you straight in the eye...just say sorry thought you were single.

 

[Leopold]

I think chicks do it for validation outside of their relationship, then they'll drop the bomb. Trust me when they drop it they'll be looking you straight in the eye...just say sorry thought you were single.

So you are saying that girls do this... for fun? to make themselves feel better? THAT'S MONSTROUS!!! ITS LIKE... PSYCHOLOGICALLY being raped.

Also.. sorry if im dense.. but what you mean drop the bomb while looking me in the eye? She said it over the phone...

Also I dont think I should apologize for being interested on her.. I think she should apologize to me instead and also to her bf.

Thanks for the reply

 

[PapiChulo]

You were placed in the friendzone proactively, but don't be discouraged because that is exactly where you started out- she ain't single. Ha ha. And this behavior according to women themselves is completely normal! She may be attracted a bit to you, thus liking your attention, you make her feel good and you are fun (she ia having fun), she may even be thinking to branch swing considering you as a potential candidate. Or she may be an AW. I would say that you should show your complete indifference and not do any AFC stuff. The boyfriend is obviously being disrespected by her....And you on the other hand, have a spark with her, now make it turn into a blaze if it is worth the effort.

 

[Leopold]

You were placed in the friendzone proactively, but don't be discouraged because that is exactly where you started out- she ain't single. Ha ha. And this behavior according to women themselves is completely normal! She may be attracted a bit to you, thus liking your attention, you make her feel good and you are fun (she ia having fun), she may even be thinking to branch swing considering you as a potential candidate. Or she may be an AW. I would say that you should show your complete indifference and not do any AFC stuff. The boyfriend is obviously being disrespected by her....And you on the other hand, have a spark with her, now make it turn into a blaze if it is worth the effort.

LOL have a blaze with her bf on the very same room? Lol you are asking me to walk while my whole body is on casts (I dont think a JR DJ like me can pull that off ...YET )

I dont think she's that worth it...
I should just mention to her that she got the wrong impression of me. I'll just quickly explain to her that I dont mind her bf at all but that it would disrespectful to him knowing i might attempt some moves and physical contact on her. I have PLENTY of options and i would rather change for other plans on such a special day to me. Also tell her that we should stay in contact if she wishes to and HOPE that I WOULD STILL BE INTERESTED once her spark ignites. ;P

That sounds very SUAVE to me.... what do you guys think?

Also... any tips for BF BOMBs in general? Im having too much of these recently and i want to deal with them as effectively as possible.

 

[SgtSplacker]

Girls loooooove to do this. Girls love to introduce you to the guy they are going to cheat on you with. Girls love to invite more than one guy that likes them to a gathering. Girls love to talk about other guys they like.

I HATE this...

It drives me nuts.

I normally dont handle this in a suave way, i'll be aggressive and probably ditch them all at some point and this is only if I just find myself in this situation. I usually aggressively avoid this.

But if a girl drops the boyfriend bomb on me like that i'll just be straight up and tell her what my intentions were and that why would I want to waste an evening hanging with a girl I barely know and her boyfriend?

 

[Iceberg]

LOL have a blaze with her bf on the very same room? Lol you are asking me to walk while my whole body is on casts (I dont think a JR DJ like me can pull that off ...YET )

I dont think she's that worth it...
I should just mention to her that she got the wrong impression of me. I'll just quickly explain to her that I dont mind her bf at all but that it would disrespectful to him knowing i might attempt some moves and physical contact on her. I have PLENTY of options and i would rather change for other plans on such a special day to me. Also tell her that we should stay in contact if she wishes to and HOPE that I WOULD STILL BE INTERESTED once her spark ignites. ;P

That sounds very SUAVE to me.... what do you guys think?

Also... any tips for BF BOMBs in general? Im having too much of these recently and i want to deal with them as effectively as possible.

Ugh.

Or you could just say "F**k it." and move on.

Obviously this girl is a psycho or an idiot. Why bother trying to break through her "tests" when you could find 10 other girls who wouldn't pull this move in the first place?

One thing that annoys me sometimes on this site is, guys giving females too much credit with the "sh1t test" thing. Guys come on here asking, "How do I pass this girl's test?" F**k that. These girls aren't your boss. You're not on their payroll. They don't get to test you.

Here's how I would have handled that.

Girl: Can my boyfriend come along?
Me: Yeah sure. I'll call you later to set it up.
(Never speak to her again)

I've had too many girls in my life who have dated me without tests....without drama....without hurdles. So now that I know I can get girls without "passing tests", I'm not going to waste time with a girl who thinks she can test me.

Are you the prize? Yes? Then why are you allowing some average broad to test YOU?

 

[Htienvu]

Ugh.

Or you could just say "F**k it." and move on.

Obviously this girl is a psycho or an idiot. Why bother trying to break through her "tests" when you could find 10 other girls who wouldn't pull this move in the first place?

One thing that annoys me sometimes on this site is, guys giving females too much credit with the "sh1t test" thing. Guys come on here asking, "How do I pass this girl's test?" F**k that. These girls aren't your boss. You're not on their payroll. They don't get to test you.

Here's how I would have handled that.

Girl: Can my boyfriend come along?
Me: Yeah sure. I'll call you later to set it up.
(Never speak to her again)

I've had too many girls in my life who have dated me without tests....without drama....without hurdles. So now that I know I can get girls without "passing tests", I'm not going to waste time with a girl who thinks she can test me.

Are you the prize? Yes? Then why are you allowing some average broad to test YOU?

Exactly! Guys should stop thinking everything, every problem they come upon is a shiet test, if she's interested she's less likely to "test" you. If she is testing you then show her that you won't stand for it.

 

[Leopold]

HA!!! I texted something like what i had on my reply and she text to me... "I dont get it..."

Clearly there's something wrong with her because she didn't understood. Sounds like i'll have to chew it up for her It sounds like fun and it will be a learning experience.

What do you guys suggest?

 

[Mantis Toboggan]

I dont think she's that worth it...
I should just mention to her that she got the wrong impression of me. I'll just quickly explain to her that I dont mind her bf at all but that it would disrespectful to him knowing i might attempt some moves and physical contact on her. I have PLENTY of options and i would rather change for other plans on such a special day to me. Also tell her that we should stay in contact if she wishes to and HOPE that I WOULD STILL BE INTERESTED once her spark ignites. ;P

That sounds very SUAVE to me.... what do you guys think?

You have PLENTY of options, but you're getting all worked up about some average-looking girl with a boyfriend?

Doesn't sound like you have plenty of options, bro.

What do you guys suggest?

I suggest finding your balls.

Why are you wasting your time on this broad? Is she seriously worth all work you're putting into writing about her on this site?

 

[AAAgent]

chicks are stupid sometimes and like validation and drama. If you try to think too hard into the situation and analyze things that don't make sense your head will explode. Mine almost has in the past and i would go crazy. Don't stress about it.

My advice would be 2 things

1.) If he comes, don't let it bother you. If you are the better man, you will know it when you see him. Don't be jealous, etc. I also would lump her into a totally different category from that point on. Any b1tch that thinks its okay to bring a bf after leading me on will be classified as a b1tch. I don't treat them like crap i would just love them and leave them.

2.) tell her no boyfriend. If she sounds uncomfortable tell her,she can hang with her bf and we can hang (separately) another time.

The amount of drama i've been involved with in the past has gotten me to the point where i don't tolerate it or let it get to me. "Bring your man, i can have a good time without you as my focus!"

 

[Leopold]

You have PLENTY of options, but you're getting all worked up about some average-looking girl with a boyfriend?

Doesn't sound like you have plenty of options, bro.



I suggest finding your balls.

Why are you wasting your time on this broad? Is she seriously worth all work you're putting into writing about her on this site?

TRUE!! I DONT; but if i want to be a DJ i must think I do. Im the prize after all... right?

Naw man... its just that im trying to make it a learning experience.. thats all.. there's lots of good and experienced people here.