"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Woman Admits Sex IS JUST A TRAP | Briffault’s Law
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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You've been on the board for a while. What is the point of this video in terms of new information?
1. This time it comes from a women who deals professionally with that stuff and she had experienced this in her own life
2. The 'fact' that it happens subconsciouly. So the woman wants the relationship to work. Her body singnals that sexx is great but after securing the relationship there is a switch. Her body betrays her and him.
3. We have still a lot of members it seems that think women are not much less horny than men. This might be a small argument against that opinion.
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This is the clip that was used. It’s actually quite good:
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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She listed 5 reasons and the last one (Number 5) is the one she cited as most important.
5. We Have Weakened Our Husbands to the Point of Not Being Attracted to Them
This is related to a lot of concepts that we discuss and a post I made earlier (see below). This is most related to Iron Rule of Tomassi #1, which is about men maintaining a frame in the relationship in which men control the terms of the interaction. Loss of frame is common in relationships as they progress. I believe both men and women contribute to this problem. I also think there's an issue with the personality types that enter relationships. Women with more dominant type traits are entering relationships with men with more beta traits. It can be estimated that 60% of Western women have more dominant type traits and 80% of men are some level of beta male. Dominants and betas are going to pair bond. Over time, a man's initial beta frame will weaken and become more beta and a woman will lean in to her dominant frame. This will cause problems.
There are also Alpha/Sigma males that can lose their way in a relationship too. This is problematic if they lose their way and end up in a beta frame. I've seen this happen.
While all longer term relationships do erode in quality over time (I've long believed in a common shelf life of goodness of about 5 years), sometimes what remains after the quality erosion is good enough to warrant continuing on and it has a reasonable degree of quality. These are the Alpha/Sigmas/Greater Betas that have least retain enough frame.
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