"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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image.jpeg Went out on a date last night with one of my plates and had a few things on the snap. My bat**** insane BPD ex decides to watch and then sends me this at 7:30am. Gave her the boot And haven't talked to her in MONTHS btw...

Hamster still be a spinnin. How dare I be happy while she remains the victim of such a cruel cruel world :rofl:
 
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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How did she see? Snapchat?
 

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Wow. She definitely belongs in the nut house.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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She reminds me of my old bpd girl. Notice she told you she cared about you .... as she called you the world's worst person at the same time.

Word of the day..."vitriol"
Vitriol is harsh, nasty criticism... Back in the day, vitriol was the name for sulfuric acid, which burns through just about anything. So think of vitriol as language so mean-spirited and bitter that it could eat through metal. https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/vitriol
 

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She reminds me of my old bpd girl. Notice she told you she cared about you .... as she called you the world's worst person at the same time.

Word of the day..."vitriol"
Vitriol is harsh, nasty criticism... Back in the day, vitriol was the name for sulfuric acid, which burns through just about anything. So think of vitriol as language so mean-spirited and bitter that it could eat through metal. https://www.vocabulary.com/dictionary/vitriol
Ah! It's new word day!

Here's mine for those of you who still think women were better in the old days : Succubus

"A succubus is a female demon or supernatural entity in folklore (traced back to medieval legend) that appears in dreams and takes the form of a woman in order to seduce men, usually through sexual activity. [...] Religious traditions hold that repeated sexual activity with a succubus may result in the deterioration of health or even death"

Legends were built from people's experiences. But they were a lot more superstitious.
From what do you think that comes from?

Please also note there is a male counterpart.

Checkout Harpies and Sirens as well if you want.
 

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Ah! It's new word day!

Here's mine for those of you who still think women were better in the old days : Succubus

"A succubus is a female demon or supernatural entity in folklore (traced back to medieval legend) that appears in dreams and takes the form of a woman in order to seduce men, usually through sexual activity. [...] Religious traditions hold that repeated sexual activity with a succubus may result in the deterioration of health or even death"

Legends were built from people's experiences. But they were a lot more superstitious.
From what do you think that comes from?

Please also note there is a male counterpart.

Checkout Harpies and Sirens as well if you want.
Well they do inject powerful streams of stress into you, so if you are making them the center of your world, they certainly will lead to deteriorating health!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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The old "i care about you" is always funny.

and wanting you when they can't have you.

Guarentee if you asked for her back she'd be off faster than you can blink
She's mine whenever I want it. Always has been. I've never let her get the best of me as I've been aware how to keep this type of crazy coming back for more (thanks to the red pill.) which is most likely why she can't get enough.

But I'm good - For a while I started to question my own sanity. Highs are not worth the nuclear melt down unprovoked lows. Wondering how she's going to manage to fvck the night up this time. That pvssy is truly not worth the miserable redundant unaccountable irresponsible unstable explosive irrational emotionally-stunted childish bullish!t insanity that is BPD. And as much as I kept myself detached - I realized it was time to hop off the crazy train before disaster happens.

My only regret I have is that I didn't cut the cord sooner blinded by trying to chase that high. A weird time in my life. I've felt better now than I have in a while. Live and learn.
 
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Set the over/under at 3 days before she's making an attempt to get you back.

they can't STAND to see their victims with someone else

Not even going to bother posting the paragraphs of degrading texts that followed after I screenshotted her yesterday...

Now today she is apologizing for it all as i blocked her on everything. :rofl:
 
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She's mine whenever I want it. Always has been. I've never let her get the best of me as I've been aware how to keep this type of crazy coming back for more (thanks to the red pill.) which is most likely why she can't get enough.

But I'm good - For a while I started to question my own sanity. Highs are not worth the nuclear melt down unprovoked lows. Wondering how she's going to manage to fvck the night up this time. That pvssy is truly not worth the miserable redundant unaccountable irresponsible unstable explosive irrational emotionally-stunted childish bullish!t insanity that is BPD. And as much as I kept myself detached - I realized it was time to hop off the crazy train before disaster happens.

My only regret I have is that I didn't cut the cord sooner blinded by trying to chase that high. A weird time in my life. I've felt better now than I have in a while. Live and learn.
Yeah that **** wears on you over time, even if your frame is bullet proof, their misery is insidious and will start seeping into your system.

I've been there chasing the dragon man, something about them IS another level on normal chicks but it's nowhere near worth it, there's plenty of "normal" chicks who are almost as good in the sack, and plenty of daddy issues girls who are less damaged than full blown bpd's

clear your head for a while, any interaction with these girls does alter your thought process somewhat.
 

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Not even going to bother posting the paragraphs of degrading texts that followed after I screenshotted her yesterday...
Actually, especially for those of us who have experienced these banshees, could you - erm - post just a couple? The mirth we get from reading a couple of these is gold.
 

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Actually, especially for those of us who have experienced these banshees, could you - erm - post just a couple? The mirth we get from reading a couple of these is gold.
If i can remember my last interaction with mine

Last message she went after i called her out for being a hopeless waste of time, this was after literally MONTHS of games by her, admittedly i had been a bit AFC but even so....



"I hate you for the pain you've done to me, i never want to talk to you again, ever"

2 hours later

"aren't you even going to reply"

15 minutes later

"you don't even care about me"

5 minutes later, about 7 missed calls

next day

"I don't understand why you hate me, all i ever did was try to do the best for you" (this was probably the funniest one)

Then she snapchats herself looking sad with fake tears, which i screenshotted

"see, you are opening my snaps, why won't you just talk to me like a man"

then

"Why can't you just talk to me like a man, i can't handle this, you need to talk to me"

at this point i got completley over it and blocked her on everything, she's probably still messaging me fairly often, let her bark at the moon.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Can someone please stop talking about BPD and actually post up the forum post that talks about how to identify them
 

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Can someone please stop talking about BPD and actually post up the forum post that talks about how to identify them
1. Their words do not match their actions.

2. Your gut / instincts tell you something is not right.

3. They seem too good to be true.

4. They make villains of past significant others.

5. They do not have many friends.

6. The friendships they do have seem shallow.

7. They have an abusive and/or controlling parent.

8. They do not accept responsibility and are blameless for their actions.

9. Chances are they abuse alcohol and/or drugs.

10. They are secretive and hide things from you.

11. They try to keep you to from your friends or family.

12. They are physically attractive.

13. They lie.

14. They are impulsive.

15. They fall in love with you way too quickly.

16. They say what you want to hear.

17. They push you away and quickly pull you back.

18. You never feel completely secure about where you stand with
them.

19. They have evidence of self-injury.

20. The s*x is amazing beyond belief.

21. They quickly cycle through varying emotions.

22. They have friends of the opposite s*x that make you uncomfortable.

23. They are always texting or chatting online.

24. They have distant, empty eyes.

25. They have acute, unwarranted emotional reactions.
 

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They love bomb the sh*t out of you when you first start seeing them. That's the big one. But when things go south they will treat you like you are dirt under their shoe. Beware the love bomb.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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