"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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With how badly I struggle in dating, is it strange that I feel very confident on actual dates??

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I'm very very confident that if I was to go out with a few women, they would fall in love with me once they got to know what kind of a person I really am. My traits, in terms of me being extremely successful, hard working, loyal, family oriented, affectionate, honest, trustworthy, etc... is immensely appealing to people. I'm good with emotional intelligence in relation to interpersonal relationships also, I can read people very well and behave in a manner that keeps them feeling good and happy around me without sacrificing any of my self respect. I've had close friends for 12 years that I've never had a real argument with.


I'm like the bench player on a sports team that is probably way more talented than any of the starters but can't even get a few minutes a game to showcase his abilities. It's crazy to think about


On the positive side, when I'm 40 and have never had a girlfriend, I can just settle for a 36 year old single mom who will go crazy to date a 40 year old guy who has never had kids, still looks about 28 and is worth about 2 million at that age, lol. My family has insane aging genetics - my dad is 60 and could pass for 40
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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In short, no they wouldnt. I am having a hard time even opening and reading your childish threads and I dont even know you or have to be put through the punishment of seeing you in person.

I am confident of what your flaws are and you are too blind to see them. You will be the single 40 year old who is still single. Nobody is going to be chasing you unless you do a 180.

PS- not sure why you are so egotistical when you cant even get laid bro.
 

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In short, no they wouldnt. I am having a hard time even opening and reading your childish threads and I dont even know you or have to be put through the punishment of seeing you in person.

I am confident of what your flaws are and you are too blind to see them. You will be the single 40 year old who is still single. Nobody is going to be chasing you unless you do a 180.

PS- not sure why you are so egotistical when you cant even get laid bro.
I went out on a few dates with a beautiful 36 year old last year. She was totally head over heels for me - every date went perfectly smooth

but that's a 36 year old single mom though man. That's way way way below my league
 

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You're a classic Narcissist with delusions of grandeur, no one is surprised
500 threads over the "I am so cool and hot" yet "I am failing"...but " I am perfect"

I think he needs more reassuring than advice.

He needs to be flattered.

It's interesting to see when confronted (which I have done on every thread)... he just start a new.. Or avoid you... sign that he's hiding something.

Anyway.... If he writes like the talks, it's no wonder girls run away
 

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Yeah classic case of a guy who never managed to cut the titty string
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Unbelievably I heard Nick Kyrgios say something wise the other day... It's never as bad as you think or as good as you think. Seriously big Dave if I had to go on a road trip with you I would throw you out of the car. But fortunately I would never be stupid enough to come along. Generally guys that other guys want to beat up r not the guys who have harems
 

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Let's say that what you write is true. Girls would just fall for you if you're given a chance. You have to fix what you're lacking in the initial approach. Stop rejecting yourself when it comes to online dating and put yourself out there. Don't worry if girls reject your cold approach, keep approaching and post your results here for constructive feedback.
 

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You're a classic Narcissist with delusions of grandeur, no one is surprised
I agree, but PUA Theory says that women can't help themselves but be attracted to narcissists. This is a good example showing that it ain't necessarily so.
 

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I agree, but PUA Theory says that women can't help themselves but be attracted to narcissists. This is a good example showing that it ain't necessarily so.
Women are attracted to looks, MONEY and status.

A lot of guys who have those things also have narcissistic traits. No surprise.

The PUA industry won't tell you how simple and shallow women are, because it would be harder to sell their voodoo mind-game books to desperate men lol.
 

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I'm very very confident that if I was to go out with a few women, they would fall in love with me once they got to know what kind of a person I really am. My traits, in terms of me being extremely successful, hard working, loyal, family oriented, affectionate, honest, trustworthy, etc... is immensely appealing to people. I'm good with emotional intelligence in relation to interpersonal relationships also, I can read people very well and behave in a manner that keeps them feeling good and happy around me without sacrificing any of my self respect. I've had close friends for 12 years that I've never had a real argument with.


I'm like the bench player on a sports team that is probably way more talented than any of the starters but can't even get a few minutes a game to showcase his abilities. It's crazy to think about


On the positive side, when I'm 40 and have never had a girlfriend, I can just settle for a 36 year old single mom who will go crazy to date a 40 year old guy who has never had kids, still looks about 28 and is worth about 2 million at that age, lol. My family has insane aging genetics - my dad is 60 and could pass for 40
I have a lot of virgin friends who were like you (but little younger). They said most girls are ugly anyway so they dont need one.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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LOOOOOL

Why are people even replying to this guys threads? Long serving members of this forum too. Maybe everyone just likes the sound of their own voice.
 
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