Ever since I joined this site some 5 years ago, I noticed a common misperception by many, especially the newbies, that somehow women are totally alien beings apart from us that require a PHD to understand or some kind of an advanced deciphering machine to decode their behavior.
Even the great Pook has a post that deals with "womanize" that attempts to decipher a woman's true thoughts and feelings by what she says.
I may be in a distinct minority here, but after podering for quite a while and reminiscing on all the relationships, hook ups, ONS, etc with women and even through my first marriage, I believe that when it comes to love romance and sex, women and men are by and large the same. I would say 95% the same.
So, what am I trying to get at here?
Instead of trying to complicate things when judging a womans motives and actions, just try to place yourself in her position and ask yourself "what would I do?"
There are a myriad of posts here by many (and I am one of them), trying to figure out why a certain girl did this or that or why she canceled a date, not return their calls, etc.
If you really want to know with a high degree of accuracy (95%) why a woman cancelled a date, never returned your call, or did anything in general, just ask yourself what would you have done in her position.
If Angelina Jolie or some other girl that I was very attracted to called me to go on a date, do you think I would cancel and pass up on the chance to see her again? Hell no. Would I ignore her calls. No. Likewise, do you think a girl would flake if she truly liked you. Probably not. I say probably because there is always that small chance (5%) that she may like you but for whatever reason, i,e phsychological or emotional, she is not responding normally.
Let me break it down:
Men and women are very much the same. I simply dont buy the men are from mars and women are from venus crap. Especially when it comes to IL.
1. If a girl does not appear responsive to your advances, i,e can't seem to pin her down to go out with you, doesn't return your calls, etc. she is most likely (95%) not interested and you should move on. Forget about justifying her actions with she is "PLAYING HARD TO GET" or some other reason that attempts to justify her behavior just because she is a woman. If a girl truly likes you, she bends the rules just like a real man would never say no to going out with a woman he is attracted to.
I hope this post is helpful to those who have become mystified by a womans behavior when they really should not and to learn how to move on instead of wasting precious time on women with low IL.
Even the great Pook has a post that deals with "womanize" that attempts to decipher a woman's true thoughts and feelings by what she says.
I may be in a distinct minority here, but after podering for quite a while and reminiscing on all the relationships, hook ups, ONS, etc with women and even through my first marriage, I believe that when it comes to love romance and sex, women and men are by and large the same. I would say 95% the same.
So, what am I trying to get at here?
Instead of trying to complicate things when judging a womans motives and actions, just try to place yourself in her position and ask yourself "what would I do?"
There are a myriad of posts here by many (and I am one of them), trying to figure out why a certain girl did this or that or why she canceled a date, not return their calls, etc.
If you really want to know with a high degree of accuracy (95%) why a woman cancelled a date, never returned your call, or did anything in general, just ask yourself what would you have done in her position.
If Angelina Jolie or some other girl that I was very attracted to called me to go on a date, do you think I would cancel and pass up on the chance to see her again? Hell no. Would I ignore her calls. No. Likewise, do you think a girl would flake if she truly liked you. Probably not. I say probably because there is always that small chance (5%) that she may like you but for whatever reason, i,e phsychological or emotional, she is not responding normally.
Let me break it down:
Men and women are very much the same. I simply dont buy the men are from mars and women are from venus crap. Especially when it comes to IL.
1. If a girl does not appear responsive to your advances, i,e can't seem to pin her down to go out with you, doesn't return your calls, etc. she is most likely (95%) not interested and you should move on. Forget about justifying her actions with she is "PLAYING HARD TO GET" or some other reason that attempts to justify her behavior just because she is a woman. If a girl truly likes you, she bends the rules just like a real man would never say no to going out with a woman he is attracted to.
I hope this post is helpful to those who have become mystified by a womans behavior when they really should not and to learn how to move on instead of wasting precious time on women with low IL.
I swear I grew out of this mindset at about 17.
