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wise to show your "soft" side to a women?

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Hello,

Is it good to show your "soft " side to a women? i mean show her you love movies regarding love and so on... and calm music and so on? i am not a touchy guy but i also have this part in me . the question is , is it good to show it or i should keep it to myself.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

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Don't show her your soft side intentionally. It will happen on it's own and it's a big test for her. Chances are, one glimpse of it and she'll dump you forever.
 
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You can be masculine and refined at the same time. Be sentual and gentle, yet manly, thats exactly the kida combination that could give the chick a bonner. For example, I am seeing a nice girl who says she is gonna tie me up to the bed. It's an instant bonner for me. Or a hooker with a Phd - instant bonner.
 

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Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I think soft is never good, or maybe just a bad choice of word, but I do think it's ok to show a woman a romantic and warm side. In fact, in recent times (since dropping my defences) I've found it goes a long way with many women.

Women love a guy they can cuddle upto and feel safe with. But like Papichulo said, you have to be masculine too.
 
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Girls love romance... AFTER you make them come (and there is a 3-4 week shelf life per orgasm).
 
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Yeah show her your more humane side because if shes investing emotionally in you, she wants something in return...in other words, she wants to know you wont run away and you showing a soft side is return for her investment. Dont over do it but just do something selfless or share something every now and then.
 
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