"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Winter First Dates

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I'm a firm believer that you should spend very little money on the first date/several dates.
Here are some of my go to ideas:

Walk in the park/downtown
Tacos
Ice Cream
Coffee
Drinks


As the weather gets colder outside, it seems to limit some of my creativity.
Thus far, I've thought of sledding.
Anybody have any good low investment cold weather date ideas?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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A lot of urban areas offer FREE adult workshops that include classes on all sorts of things, from learning how to juggle, boxing fitness, how to search your own genealogy, retro board games, film making, public speaking, jewelery making, etc., etc.

It's literally a goldmine of free dates.

I like the sledding idea, by the way.
What is the best resource to find all of these free adult workshops? Is there an app or just a simple google search? I never seem to be able to find stuff...
 

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I'm a firm believer that you should spend very little money on the first date/several dates.
Here are some of my go to ideas:

Walk in the park/downtown
Tacos
Ice Cream
Coffee
Drinks


As the weather gets colder outside, it seems to limit some of my creativity.
Thus far, I've thought of sledding.
Anybody have any good low investment cold weather date ideas?

ice skating ??
 

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I don't see why your first date system would change with the weather. Meet her somewhere have your drinks or whatever, walk her to the next place and repeat with more seduction then play as appropriate. I always think if you're wondering too much what to do on a first date, you're missing the point, you're just getting to know her, there's no need for a fancy plan. Just think about all the girl's you may have had previously and whether you needed to do anything complicated to seduce them, they probably opened their legs because they like you...the date activity is irrelevant.
 

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Thanks for the ideas guys!


I don't see why your first date system would change with the weather. Meet her somewhere have your drinks or whatever, walk her to the next place and repeat with more seduction then play as appropriate. I always think if you're wondering too much what to do on a first date, you're missing the point, you're just getting to know her, there's no need for a fancy plan. Just think about all the girl's you may have had previously and whether you needed to do anything complicated to seduce them, they probably opened their legs because they like you...the date activity is irrelevant.
Never said I was trying to come up with a fancy plan. Sure the date idea may have to be relevant, but you actually have to have something to do. Can't just say "let's meet up", you need to say "let's meet and do x activity"

And things like ice cream and walking around the park aren't too fun when it's cold out
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Here is one that I do sometimes. It is usually in the context of 1] going on a first date and 2] getting coffee. But i usually try to grab coffee/tea with a girl at a book store, and then I play little games within the book store like "lets each find a book that would best characterize/describe our first impression of each other" (then i go grab a book in the sexuality section that has the title of "hot stuff" or some other ridiculous type of book) - its pretty creative and fun. It also allows me to pick up a book or two that I am interested in (killing two birds with one stone) and it can easily bring up topics that I am interested in (philosophy, neuroscience etc) - but only if I can tell she'd be into it. It also allows me to subtly throw in the "I'm currently getting a PhD" without looking too try hard, because its contextual. Plus its just more wide ranging than a simply coffee shop.

Also if she is really cool, you can play hide and seek in the book store and say that the winner gets a kiss.

Its a nice little date idea, with not too much pressure and there are book stores everywhere.

So, find a book store that has a little cafe in it. Girls fvcking get wet over book stores.
 

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Spending very little could still be a waste.
Always aim to have fun and do things that you enjoy, when you do not know your date well.
In winter I would do indoor dates such as - Squash, bowling, pool, rock climbing etc
Squash has yielded the highest success rate.
 

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ice skating ??
I've used this many times, definitely not as a first date tho. I suppose you could. Usually it's with a plate that wants me to teach them how to skate. Athletic chicks love it because it's definitely a good leg workout. That's the only downfall as she'll probably be tired and sore after.
 
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