"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Winter Bootcamp

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Alright, it's official. I'm going to make a run at a Bootcamp that will be starting Thanksgiving day. I've been here for a while and I have had alot of success, but this passed two years I got involved with a couple LTR's, went through some depression, and built alot of anxiety; Therefore, I'm ready to kick it back into gear. I want to go through with bootcamp because I feel like I need to start over at the beginning and work my way back up. It would be great if anybody else wants to join me. If not, I hope some off you follow along. This should be an awesome ride.

About me, My name is Broady. I'm 6'2 210. Working out has become an everyday part of my life. I'm a sports fan, car fanatic, artist, and a musician. I just moved to the city of Euless, Tx, so I'm looking forward to building some new social circles and meeting ALOT of new women.

I'll try and report every day if possible. Every week is a must. And if others would like to join in feel free to PM me or just start posting. Let's have some fun.

-JDB
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Day 1

Alright I know it's Thanksgiving and we mainly spend time with family today. But I want to go ahead and get out there. Besides, it's never a bad day to start smiling and making eye contact.

There's seven GREAT articles for this week. Pook's "Be A Man" is one of my all time favorites. The music sucks. Let's be honest. Who the hell wants to listen to madonna.


Exercises for this week:
Exercise 1
In two separate outings, each lasting one hour in length, you will go about establishing eye contact
with strangers.
A fun way to go about doing this is to walk around in a mall or in a park and look people directly in the
eyes as they are walking towards you. You will find that most people will not look at you in the eyes,
but for those who do look you in the eye, you will want to practice looking in their eyes at least one
second longer than they look into yours, this denotes confidence. To create the impression that you
are friendly and approachable, you will want to match the eye contact with a genuine smile.
You can practice eye contact on just about anyone you see, male or female, young or old. But since
the eventual goal of this Boot Camp is to acquire women, you will want to spend at least some of your
time establishing eye contact with attractive girls.
Exercise 2
A confident person has no problem saying Hi to a stranger, and since the first part of this Boot Camp is
geared toward building confidence, the goal of this exercise is to go around and say Hi or Hello to a
total of 50 strangers during this week. Again, you can say Hi to any person you see, but since
eventually your goal will be to get girls, you will want to practice saying Hi to attractive girls. Also,
when greeting strangers, practice doing so with a smile and have fun

And to save time, feel free to combine exercises 1 and 2 together, so that you can go about greeting
your 50 strangers during your eye contact outings (e.g. Establish eye contact, smile, and say Hi when
you are within speaking range).
After completing this exercise (no later than April 28 - one week from today), post your results on the
response thread (link at the top of the lesson). Share with the rest of us anything interesting that
happened, and what emotions you may have felt (excitement, nervousness, joy, etc.), as well as what
you thought of this first lesson.
 

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JLay87 said:
F*ck it, I'm in.
Welcome, bro.

Today has made me realize how truthfully set back I am. I went to an exhibition deal today where there were hundreds of people. And then I went to the grocery store where there were plenty of people. I keep staring. I can't help but feel like I'm doing it wrong. Straight akward. I feel like it's not natural and I'm forcing eye contact. My anxiety definitely takes over. I want to hold the EC to establish confidence and dominance but truthfully I can't help but feel like I'm giving them the death stare. Sometimes I notice other people's faces repulse. How can I beat this?

Other notes:
I made a total of 6 Hi's today.
I sparked up 2 conversations..


Tonight I will be going out with some old friend's and probably meeting some new people. Definite HB potential. I will report back later tonight or in the morn.

Happy Turkey day pimps
 

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jdbman11 said:
Today has made me realize how truthfully set back I am. I went to an exhibition deal today where there were hundreds of people. And then I went to the grocery store where there were plenty of people. I keep staring. I can't help but feel like I'm doing it wrong. Straight akward. I feel like it's not natural and I'm forcing eye contact. My anxiety definitely takes over. I want to hold the EC to establish confidence and dominance but truthfully I can't help but feel like I'm giving them the death stare. Sometimes I notice other people's faces repulse. How can I beat this?
The first week of this is going to be like nothing to me because I've already conquered the eye contact game, and both exercises are actually about eye contact. The point of these first two exercises is to get you used to doing it to the point where you do it without thinking about it.

You don't have to stare at people. Say you're walking down the hall and someone's passing you. Just look them in the eyes until they look away and have an open expression on your face (i.e. not frowning). If they don't look away then it is going to be awkward if you continue keeping eye contact without addressing them. So either smile at them or say hello.

I didn't even start today because all I did was family stuff and work, neither of which I will count towards this stuff. So I'll start tomorrow.
 

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JLay87 said:
The first week of this is going to be like nothing to me because I've already conquered the eye contact game, and both exercises are actually about eye contact. The point of these first two exercises is to get you used to doing it to the point where you do it without thinking about it.

You don't have to stare at people. Say you're walking down the hall and someone's passing you. Just look them in the eyes until they look away and have an open expression on your face (i.e. not frowning). If they don't look away then it is going to be awkward if you continue keeping eye contact without addressing them. So either smile at them or say hello.

I didn't even start today because all I did was family stuff and work, neither of which I will count towards this stuff. So I'll start tomorrow.
How soon do you start making eye contact? And when you smile, do you look at their smile, or keep your focus on the eyes?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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How soon do you start making eye contact?
I don't know; it's hard to say because it's so natural. I guess not too early or it'll be weird that you're staring at them that whole time.

And when you smile, do you look at their smile, or keep your focus on the eyes?
Why would you look at their mouth?
 

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Man I dunno. My EC game is all kinds of discombobulated right now. I'm headin out to the gym then to a get together. I'll put some practice in and we'll see how it goes. Have a good night fellas
 

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I haven't really been counting but I think I"m up to saying hi to like 15 people.

Is this still going on?
 

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I'd like to hop on board too, think I'd get alot out of this. 50 'hi's will be no problem for me.
 

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C'mon now guys, this is the easy week. Just grab your balls and do it. Strangers are much friendlier than the average person believes they are.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Been an interesting weekend.

Highlights:
One kiss close
25 Hi's

I got a number close last weekend and made it over to her place last night. I went with a couple friends who I brought to hang with her friends, but when we got there her friends were passed out. Lame. So we just chilled and talked for a while. I wasn't able to isolate her or get too much kino in, but I went in for the kiss close as we were leaving. Bad mistake. The didn't build up near enough rapport or sexual tension throughout the night to go in for the kiss close. Effin A. But hey, live and learn.

As for week 1 experiments...
What I've noticed that helps me is realizing it's not about forcing eye contact or staring at someone, it's about vibing with them and catching their eye contact. When you try and feel out someone's vibe and adapt to it, it's much easier to build a connection with them, more genuine eye contact, etc..

As for attractive women, I have the thought..."I'll make your effing head spin" going through my head. Therefore I have a ****y but seductive vibe and I keep a light smile because it's all in good fun. girls who notice this vibe IMMEDIATELY respond. It's been 100% for me.

I was eating dinner in the work cafeteria the other day and dedided to get sit next to an HB6 wearing her ipod and eating lunch. So, I grabbed my plate and my drink, sat down right across from her, and asked her what she was listening too. sparked a 5 minute conversation. Had it been an HB8,9,10, etc.. I probably would have started with "It's my turn to listen" or "I can hear that nonsense from all the way over there", but this girl looked shy and I wanted to keep it light.

Other than that, I'm at 25 hi's, and I'm ready to knockout the next 25.
 

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All right jdbman, it's good that you started this because I've been planning to start bootcamp this weekend too. However, I'm going to start it tomorrow so I'll be a few days behind (just finished reading the material).

Background :
I was into this DJ stuff like 2 years ago but then for some reason forgot about it (prolly was focused on getting into college last year). Neway, I'm back to this forum with a new name because I know that I need to improve the social aspects of my life. Girls aren't throwing themselves at me (surprise huh?), and I don't think I'll be having very much drunk hookups considering I'm not planning to drink in college.

About me:
18 yo, freshman in College. Fairly easy on the eyes, athletic, fairly intelligent and motivated, blah blah. I wanna get this girl thing in order because it'll get me one step closer to my ideal self.

So as a pre-report, on Black Friday I went out to the mall:


  • EC and good smile with a cutie, saw her later and she kinda laughed but I walked by
  • Two HB 7 (who were dressed very cute) that I just could not gather up the balls to approach! followed them for a while lol. Finally went in to the bakery store they were in and asked their opinions about the goods they were eating and ejected after they gave their friendly opinions.
  • Saw a HB 6 redhead sitting down on a bench. I approached, said "Hi, I thought you looked cute so wanted to come and say hi." she smiled said "oh" and we talked about what she was writing in her planner. asked for number she said I was too young for her, but she asked for my email so she might contact me to be a hair model at the salon where she works(free haircut! prolly won't happen but cool to think about lol).

  • Used the same "think you're cute" line with an HB 7.5 walking through the mall. She seemed pleased, but heading to work. Beat around the bush of asking her number (what time will you get off?) but never did. She ended with "nice meeting you" and i ejected.

So yeah, that was my first time sarging in over a year. pvssied out a million times. I was aiming for 10 rejections, got basically zero, just friendly banter.

Will try out the eye contact/ Hi exercise at my large University this week and post results. Good luck jdbman11 and everyone else!

Neurosponge
 

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Neurosponge, welcome bro good to have you. Good sarge session. You're going to have alot of success these next eight weeks. After the 'think you're cute line' what do you follow up with?

Side Note:

Just number closed an hb9.5 at the tanning salon I go to(no homo). She already threw out two **** tests on me. I can tell it's going to alot of fun working with this one. Anyway, we're going to dinner saturday we'll see if she can pass my **** tests ;)
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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