winning over another guy

[shagnscoob]

imagine this:

youve been seeing a girl for awhile, about 3 or 4 months maybe. you havent had sex yet, but youve done pretty much everything else, you dont even care about having sex with her, whatever. but you start getting hints that maybe shes seeing another guy, and also that her feelings had slightly waned. for example you invite her out but instead she goes and calls another guy to take her to a party. and other stuff like that, even though you still see her and you still do stuff with eachother.

what would you do to get ahead of this other guy? how do you make it seem like your better than he is, or that the relationship you have with the girl is special and she wont be able to find anything like it with him? what other ways would you go about this?





OPTIONAL READING MATERIAL:
yes its happening to me. and keeping interest in a girl seems to be my sticking point. i think this is the best "pick-up" ive done yet, but its turning bad pretty fast :-(
-acting like you dont care (seems like she'll just think your okay with her seeing the guy and that its her free pass to just finish with you without any closure)
-getting mad (wont you lose points, i mean, if your not in any official relationship with this girl then what right do you have ot get angry? and if you do have a right to get angry, wont that show her how much it matters to you? as if youve got nothing/no one else to do...)
-???

 

[jprjrjr]

Originally posted by shagnscoob
imagine this:

youve been seeing a girl for awhile, about 3 or 4 months maybe. you havent had sex yet, but youve done pretty much everything else, you dont even care about having sex with her, whatever. but you start getting hints that maybe shes seeing another guy, and also that her feelings had slightly waned. for example you invite her out but instead she goes and calls another guy to take her to a party. and other stuff like that, even though you still see her and you still do stuff with eachother.

what would you do to get ahead of this other guy? how do you make it seem like your better than he is, or that the relationship you have with the girl is special and she wont be able to find anything like it with him? what other ways would you go about this?





OPTIONAL READING MATERIAL:
yes its happening to me. and keeping interest in a girl seems to be my sticking point. i think this is the best "pick-up" ive done yet, but its turning bad pretty fast :-(
-acting like you dont care (seems like she'll just think your okay with her seeing the guy and that its her free pass to just finish with you without any closure)
-getting mad (wont you lose points, i mean, if your not in any official relationship with this girl then what right do you have ot get angry? and if you do have a right to get angry, wont that show her how much it matters to you? as if youve got nothing/no one else to do...)
-???

I guess the solution to your problem is to really not care. A DJ always has another girl in the wings, so he couldn't give a fvck less if some bytch's interest wanes in him.

Women are fickle creatures. The less time you spend worrying about them, and the more time you spend fvcking them, the better of you'll be.

 

[jprjrjr]

Re: Re: winning over another guy

Originally posted by jprjrjr
I guess the solution to your problem is to really not care. A DJ always has another girl in the wings, so he couldn't give a fvck less if some bytch's interest wanes in him.

Women are fickle creatures. The less time you spend worrying about them, and the more time you spend fvcking them, the better of you'll be.

P.S. Women are masters at picking up when a guy's "acting" like he doesn't care. You have to really not care. Then the bytch will get the hint. It's really quite bizzare how the female brain works.

 

[shagnscoob]

Re: Re: winning over another guy

Originally posted by jprjrjr
I guess the solution to your problem is to really not care. A DJ always has another girl in the wings, so he couldn't give a fvck less if some bytch's interest wanes in him.

Women are fickle creatures. The less time you spend worrying about them, and the more time you spend fvcking them, the better of you'll be.

right. im so much better at this at the beginning of the pick up, but how does that 'not-care' attitude manifest itself when we are talking?

if shes bored or soemthing, instead of inviting her out would i say 'why dont you call that guy, he seems pretty fun' or stuff like that?

or would i invite her out like 'oh i guess you can come wiht me im just going to...'

 

[Sexual]

There's many posts on keeping interest levels up. Why dont you call that guy? Hah, how about make her suspect that you're seeing other women so her interest sparks back up and you gain some mystery. How do you do that? Fawkin start seeing other people.

 

[PRMoon]

Re: Re: Re: winning over another guy

Originally posted by jprjrjr
P.S. Women are masters at picking up when a guy's "acting" like he doesn't care. You have to really not care. Then the bytch will get the hint. It's really quite bizzare how the female brain works.

Agreed, truely not caring is the way to go. Just keep telling yourself there are plenty of other girls out there so why jump throgh hoops for this one? If a girl wants to play games, that's fine let her play by herself and with the other guy, a DJ doesn't waste time with games. Honestly if you're working on a few girls at the same time then you reallly dont' have time to care/worry about games anyway because your time will be divided so heavily and your mind will be in a few different places at once, which pretty much amounts to you not caring about a single one playing games anyway.

 

[GodsGiftToFatBirds]

Unless its for your religion or summat, I really don't agree with your attitude that you don't care about fvcking her.
There was a post or tip (cant remember which) on here a few weeks ago called 'Seduction first, romance second' about how a woman's IL goes through the roof after you've had her, which from my own experience is very true.
You should definately be shagging someone after 3 or 4 months anyway.
And like evryone said, start seeing other women too.

 

[shagnscoob]

first of all- all being a dj is is playing the right games with girls. to counter their games.

i would have done her but she didnt want to or something, i dunno, maybe if i patterned better or did something differently, i didnt have alot of experience getting at the 'we're both nakednow what' part... we are still young. i wouldve posted this in the h.s. forum but its full of 14/15 year olds that dont know what they are talking about, theyve just read alot.

and i am seeing women. id just rather keep this one around.

 

[aftershock]

"winning over another guy"

When I read the thread title I got a bit worried...

My suggestion is very simple - FVCK HER ASAP. If you've done other things it shouldn't be too difficult.