Winning Back self respect with girl

[DJ Brandon]

I've been flirting with a girl (lets call her Sue) for a good couple of weeks. She's a gorgeous 9 and her atraction level was going up, and I did a great job using challenges to make it go up ( Sue: I play, soccer, really good at it, brags some more, blah blah blah, Me: that's good, I love a girl who is athletic). She went on vacation with a couple of friends a week ago, and it all started going down hill. She called me practically every day (good sign), but whenever he called me I was wrapped around her finger, doing whatever she wanted me to do. For example, she called me asking her to send me this stupid clip from Youtube to her phone. she said she HAD to have it because she was in an arguement with her friend about it or whatever. I knew it was a mistake, but I consented to sending it to her if she gaveme 20 bucks when she got back. The next day she called and said she misses me, and asked me to send her a pic of my self to her phone, which I did. Fastforward a couple of days. Shes back, and me and one of her friends (who I don't know to well) are talking. Here is our conversation (Text messaging).

Me: Hey, I think I know you!

Her: =] yeah Sue's friend

and ur Sue's "*****" =]

Me: (thinking she's joking) Haha and I'm deffinately not her *****... she can talk all she wants but she knows I'm the alpha male in our relationship ; )

Her:hahaha ooohkay keep telling ur self that.
anything she told u to do u were right on it.
Sues got anyguy she wants rapped around her finger... so dont feel bad

Me: Well unfortunately I don't deal with girls that way.. so if she thinks like that she's got another thing coming.

Her:haha she didnt say u were her ***** it was just an agreement between her and the other girls there that ur pretty much her ***** =]
so how DO you ""deal"" with girls




So #1 Issue at hand, How do I get this relationship back in my hand and out of hers?

#2 How do I respond to that girls last message?

In desprate need of help guys, I appreciate it.

 

[DJ Brandon]

Just as an add on, when I say her inerest level is high, I really mean it. While she was on vacation she couldn't go a day without calling me, usually calling more than once. Whenever I didn't pick up the phone, she left me messages pleading with me to pick up. When I sent her the picture of me (in my bathing suit, I'm proud of my phyique (sp?)) She went on and on to me about how hot I was.

 

[ChapStick]

It sounds to me that the other girls are jealous of Sue's power over you, and are trying to give you reasons to feel betrayed by her. (Girls are just sneaky that way)


However, you know what you've been doing wrong! It's not too late to fix it up. Dont' let HER, or ANYONE walk over you like that my friend! You can still seize this situation by the balls and fix it!

Good luck!

 

[DJ Brandon]

It sounds to me that the other girls are jealous of Sue's power over you, and are trying to give you reasons to feel betrayed by her. (Girls are just sneaky that way)


However, you know what you've been doing wrong! It's not too late to fix it up. Dont' let HER, or ANYONE walk over you like that my friend! You can still seize this situation by the balls and fix it!

Good luck!

Thaks a lot man, I really appreciate it a lot. You betcha I know what I have screwed up. But how do I sieze this situation by the balls and fix it?

 

[DJ Brandon]

Going off Chapsticks advice, that shes just fvcking with me, I said this in response to her latest text.

Me:Yeah lol I don't really see her saying something like that. But for future reference, I'm not her *****, ok ; )

And as for the answer to your second question, that is privileged information haha.

 

[00Kevin]

My impression is that these girls are laughing at you for being such an AFC. There must be some reason they think you do what ever she tells you.

Sounds like you need to have your way with all of them and then move on. Start with her friend and then save your girl for last.

Stop doing **** for girls and start expecting **** from them.

You should of told her that you want her to be your *****.

 

[DJ Brandon]

My impression is that these girls are laughing at you for being such an AFC. There must be some reason they think you do what ever she tells you.

Sounds like you need to have your way with all of them and then move on. Start with her friend and then save your girl for last.

Stop doing **** for girls and start expecting **** from them.

You should of told her that you want her to be your *****.

Good advice. What's a specific example I could use though?

 

[00Kevin]

Honestly, these girls have no respect for you and yet you continue to be there for them.

That kind of **** isn't something you should take lightly. There is a thing called respect and you need it.

I would just call up your girl and say, "I'm sorry, but I need to break up with you because you have shown very little respect for me. A woman that speaks poorly of me around her friends is of no value" Then I would hang up and end it.

Keep it honest and simple.

You have come here asking for advice and saying that you feel disrespected. What you need to do is rebuke her. If you don't start showing yourself some respect then girls will walk all over you.

This girl should be speaking highly of you to her friends. They should be saying things like, "oh he is an amazing man. He is always helping me" . Calling you a ***** for being a good man to her is a slap in the face. It is even more of an insult to you since she did it behind your back infront of her friends.

A good women will always speak highly of you just as you would speak highly of her. If it isn't true then your girl will end up hating her stupid friend and you will be done with her.



Trust me if she cares at all she will come running back. If she doesn't then she is of no value to you.

 

[tmpgstx]

Her:hahaha ooohkay keep telling ur self that.
anything she told u to do u were right on it.
Sues got anyguy she wants rapped around her finger... so dont feel bad

LOL - yeah, this Sue chic is using you. You are her little puppet. Cut the strings! Take her power away and watch her come running for approval. These AW types are always the same. Go after who and what they can't
control.

Just tell her you did those things because you are a nice guy and would expect the same of someone doing those same things for you. In other words, treating people how you would like to be treated. Not rocket science,
just a good nature and way to be.

 

[Ratisson]

how do u get her respect back?

Answer: Stop answering the phone

 

[DJ Brandon]

Thanks guys. This helped alot. WE had a little talk. Thisis basically what I said.

Hey Sue, it’s Brandon. I was just talking to one of your friends and she said you were badmouthing me behind my back and I just want to let you know that I can’t be with a girl who shows that little respect for me. Calling me a ***** for being a good man to you is a slap in the face and It’s even more of an insult since you did it behind my back and in front of your friends. I did those things for you while you were away because I’m a nice guy and I would expect you to do the same for me, but obviously I was wrong. You really disappoint me.

Forgive me for some of the plagarism. Some of you guys were harsh, but I think I really needed it. It feels good to have this be over with.

 

[DJ Brandon]

Bit of an aftermath

Girl txts me:sheeeesh chill out. she didnt realy call u her *****
that was just us saying it to piss her off. dont be angry with her plz. thank u

to which I say

Me: I told you before I don't deal with girls who don't respect me. There not worth my time.

 

[00Kevin]

Bit of an aftermath

Girl txts me:sheeeesh chill out. she didnt realy call u her *****
that was just us saying it to piss her off. dont be angry with her plz. thank u

to which I say

Me: I told you before I don't deal with girls who don't respect me. There not worth my time.

you do realize that she just admited that it is true. sadly this hoe gives you no respect and continues to make you seem stupid.

don't reply anymore. she is going to put you on a guilt trip. just go out with the next girl on your list. Be a man . you don't have to explain your actions. Whatever happens stay focused on the issue of respect and her/their atonement for it.

This is good for you because it will help you realize that you are good man and you command respect.

 

[tmpgstx]

Lol, way to go. Her girlfriends are covering for her. Now you won't get them to leave you alone! Always keep your self respect. It's the only dam thing that matters in this world (thanks Rock).

 

[00Kevin]

Lol, way to go. Her girlfriends are covering for her. Now you won't get them to leave you alone! Always keep your self respect. It's the only dam thing that matters in this world (thanks Rock).

yep soon he can start hiting on them.

 

[DJ Brandon]

I'm gonna miss her. She was by far the hottest girl I've been with (I know it's only a week) and to my face she was a pretty good girl. If she leaves a message on my phone i'll listen to it, but theres probably nothing right now that could mend this bridge. Sianara chica, es magna *******.

 

[00Kevin]

I'm gonna miss her. She was by far the hottest girl I've been with (I know it's only a week) and to my face she was a pretty good girl. If she leaves a message on my phone i'll listen to it, but theres probably nothing right now that could mend this bridge. Sianara chica, es magna *******.

girls really don't ever leave you. They hang around and always come back for more.

Just be mature about this issue of respect. If you get it back then cool. If you don't then no big deal.

You have other girls and each one is already fighting for your time. You don't have time for this crap. you are a busy man. you don't even have time to answer the phone. you are always out. etc.

don't worry you will see her ***** again.

 

[MacDiddy]

This is a pure example of the power of NEXT..

get it... go.... else move on...