"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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What's up people,

I'm out in the NW burbs ~20mins from O'hare looking for like-minded individuals to hang with. I'm 29, ex-pua, I helped a friend with his coaching service for a while, but after I had internalized everything I got out of the game.

That was a long time ago! My game is rusty, i'm overweight and out of shape, putting all the bricks back in place after being in an LTR for a while.

Mostly interested in finding work out or fitness buddies, or to exchange ideas and lend motivation. If you want a wing, I'm pretty comfortable winging in any setting, I'm just not interested in closing for myself right now.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Welcome to our forums Sir. I'm a redneck hick a few hours SW of Chicagoland in the sticks of Illinois. But I can't deny that you are in a great area up there with lots of opportunity. I've hit some tale up there before both downtown and in the burbs.
 

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Thanks for the welcome, things are pretty great up here. Can't say I've spent much time in your neighborhood. The last time I was south of I-80, I was too busy fleeing the scene and thanking god for RU486 to take in the scenery.
 

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Damn dude... Sounds like one he|| of a story.. Life is pretty good in this part of the state. Job market is pretty decent relative to some areas. Weather is tolerable most days. We work hard and we party hard. The pickings of women are hit and miss. But there are single women here if you know where to look and don't have wuss tattooed to your forehead with a kick me sign taped to your back. lol. sometimes I do get a craving for a big city and I love coming to Chicago for that .
 

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Word to that, I'm usually in the city for events or attractions though - when I started learning pickup I decided trying to figure out logistics wouldn't be worth the effort and I've actually only been in the city looking for ***** once (came back empty handed.)

What do you do, make them take you home?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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chill84 said:
Word to that, I'm usually in the city for events or attractions though - when I started learning pickup I decided trying to figure out logistics wouldn't be worth the effort and I've actually only been in the city looking for ***** once (came back empty handed.)

What do you do, make them take you home?
Fortunately anytime I was up there I had a hotel room to take them to.
 

Cloudtopsun2100

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was in Chicago last fall, do you guys just mack at the loop? or are there other places to go? Might be back in a few months
 

macallik

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Bump

Where are the Chicago people at? Let's hear your fav. venues and advice
 

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Woah man, good timing. First time I log in for half a year, and you've posted 16 minutes ago.

I like the pretentious sloots in River North. Studio Paris, Underground, and its surroundings. It's crazy even just walking down the street in that area on a weekend night. So sad it's gonna be getting cold
 

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Woah man, good timing. First time I log in for half a year, and you've posted 16 minutes ago.

I like the pretentious sloots in River North. Studio Paris, Underground, and its surroundings. It's crazy even just walking down the street in that area on a weekend night. So sad it's gonna be getting cold
Yeah I'm not looking forward to the cold weather either. Really cuts down on the street opportunities. Haaaaate Underground lol. Pretentious is right. It is definitely the place to be seen because every time I've been there has been a celebrity there, but the entrance/admission scene is just too much for me. Waiting at the entrance waiting to be singled out by the bouncers is just too much for me.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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bumping for the good weather and endless opportunities on the horizon.
 

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If you're in the Chicago area feel free to message me on here.
 

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wow this thread is dead! surprised people like river north, everything charges cover and its not even good! whos into metal or techno?
 
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