"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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wingmaning how to?

Bryce556

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I guess I could probably post this in the wigman forum but i figured id get more responses on here.

So basically my question is how do I be a good wingman to someone? I have this best friend who ive known for quite a while and ive tried helping him out with material and stuff and hes improved. Hes not as good looking as I am but when we are out and meet the ladys or I try going sargeing with him he gets frustrated because yes we do meet chicks, but im usually the one that they end up showing all the IOI's for and completly ignoreing him, and of course me being me once I get to this point I just kinda go with it and im the one who ends up with the numbers and stuff.

What can I do to wingman him better so he meets girls aswell?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A wing's purpose is to either aid his buddy by talking him up to his target, keeping her friend busy while he makes his move, act as social proof or as a conversation entity when approaching big groups.

That is, if your wing is equally as skilled as you are. If not, then you need to be nowhere in sight when he makes his approaches. If you're right next to him when he's talking to women, your higher confidence will show through your dominating posture and body language, and the women will naturally be more interested in you than him.
 

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ah think u misread me a bit there, what i ment is that I am more skilled then my friend. I want to help him out, but I allways seem to be the one that the girls are attracted to instead of him when i introduce him to people or do approches with him and such.
 

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No I understood what you meant. What I'm saying is that you can only help him from the sidelines, because he's still stumbling and lacking in confidence. The women won't pay him any attention if you're up there with him. It would be like a cute girl hanging out with a fat one. Once your friend becomes a little more confident in his game, then you can do approaches with him.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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