"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Willingness to Leave

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I did a search on here and on the net and there is more mention of 'Willingness to Leave' as a tactic than specifics or substance. This thread is designed to share examples of how one demonstrated the 'Willingness to Leave'. I started this so there can be a focused discussion of this vs. it being laced throughout many threads with little detail.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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You let them know, subconsciously, that you can walk away/leave any time.


Think of the word respect.When women see a man who respects himself she'll know he won't tolerate being disrespected. He has a strong character. He'll mean what he says and won't say things he doesn't mean. This means less lies and less promises broken etc.


Guys who don't respect himself will usually tolerate bad behaviour from others. A woman will find out quickly the strength of a mans character. They are attracted to stronger characters. Maybe deep down they know that guys who respect themselves also respect others more.


Also do not put them on pedestals. You should never think/behave like any woman is better then you. When they see this they'll know that they're not immune to being dumped.
 

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if she steps outta line, by saying something silly.
You set a ground rule subconsciously that you wont tolerate it.
How?

Do not give her attention.
Attention is like kryptonite to women.
Especially hot women.
You pull that from them its like you've pulled the floor off from under her feet. She'll know not to do that again.

And if it doesnt work, leave her with no attention for much longer and focus on something else till she comes back with an apology.
 

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When you are willing to leave, as opposed to beg for her attention or to comply with your desired outcome, you prove that you respect yourself, and that you have other a "life" to tend to.

This is very attractive to women. It spells of independence.

Allurre
 

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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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