Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Agreed. Building up every aspectof our lives takes time. If we want success in anything we have to invest in ourselves. Hopefully the OP is willing to do that.
No, how women see you depends largely upon attributes that can be changed/improved. Like personality, attitude and form of expression (how you walk and talk). Looks is to some degree naturally changeable, like losing weight or gaining weight in the form of muscles. It is however a lesser success factor than your attitudes and behaviors.
The Book of Pook is written especially to address your type of problems. He was once like you, even I was once like you. He dragged himself out of it with a tremendous determination to achieve attractiveness, so he did. Then he shared his experiences to help out guys with similar issues that he once had, but no longer has. You must understand that it's not merely an inspirational text, it's the solutions to your problems. He didn't have anyone to tell him the solutions, he figured it out the hard way. You have the advantage of using his work, it will save you a lot of time and pain.