"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Will the real oakraiderz please stand up??...

oakraiderz2

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WHAT I WAS:

Ive always been a really quite person. Ever since i can remember i never really was that outgoing. I always had friends but never really hooked up with any chicks. In midddle school people knew who i was but i never talked to anyone. I had my fair share of crushes like everyone else; however, i was always too shy to even think about doing something. This continued all through MS into HS. Around my jr yr is when things started to changed.

I had been visitin this site for about a year when i got my first kiss. Yup, 17 yrs after being put on this earth it finally happen. From that point on life was greeeeeeeeeeeat. In a 3 month period i hooked up with 3-4 girls, but never "sealed the deal" with any of them. Until i got with one girl who i dated for 8 months. Yes yes, 4 months after my first kiss, i had gotten laid. At the end of that summer i made out with one of the most praised girls i had ever met. Success and myself were having a good time together.Some time passed while i was dating that one girl. I had 2 targets, but gave up on both...blah blah blah

At some point my friend and i managed to meet about 10 girls from another school. After it was all said and done, i had gone to prom with one...then gave up and i made out and sh!t with another.

WHAT I AM:

I am climbing my way back up. I had a minor relapse but thats all said and done. Only place to go is up. Right now im working on improving my attitude and becoming myself. Its hard to stay focused but im doint good. Although im still rather quite, that has to change. Out with the old, in with the new. Sports teams dont keep the same jerseys forever, must embrace the change. I have all the right tools, its time to start building.

WHAT I WILL BE:

I WILL fufill my potential- i know what i have to work with. No one knows theyre real potential. Get out and see just how far you can go

I WILL life my life differently from my friends. No hiding anything, if i see a girl i want, im going to get her. No excuses, no giving up.

I WILL find a passion-Guitar, basketball, lifting, cars....anything that i love to do

I WILL get that hot girl...just like i did in the past...all it takes is a little bit of talking and some balls

I WILL live for today, for tomorrow may never come. So much is possible to accomplish each day

I have PLENTY more to say, but since i dont wanna bore you ill leave it at this.

"Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow"
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Cloud-uk

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Go for it, just as long as you know how to accomplish all the things you set out to do.

The wold belongs to the man who uses his natual masculine assets, the determination and stubborn energy, with his natural human assets of learning and application. Go for it.
 

oakraiderz2

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Sometimes i picture the way i want things to be or what i should do but they never happen. I try talkin more but i merely do. To top that off i think my friends think im gay for some reason. I try to talk to girls but my feet just wont move. Last night i worked on just talking to guys for practice which might make my friends believe even more sh!t. I guess im not trying hard enough.
 

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You have to want it, then act it. How bad do you want to achieve this?
 
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