"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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will she care to forgive an forget?

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I thought I would try telling a girl I was sorry for something I said to her through email to see how she would react. I'm not going to say what it was that I said to her, but I will say that after some thought I thought it was the right thing to do.

The reason I've done this is to prove to myself that

a) If you are wrong, it is right to say sorry for something regardless of what the other person will think or say.

b) It is highly unlikely that a woman will forgive you.

In order to prove this I thought I would say exactly what is on my mind in a kind and honest way. I will also not use any moves or games on her. If she comes back to me then fine I'll be impressed with her. If she doesn't then I'll consider this a case study and forget about it.


here is the conversation. I wonder how she will respond.


ME (two weeks after the situation)
Hey,
I just wanted to tell you that I'm sorry for X. That was
wrong of me. I feel bad about the way I've acted. I'm
sorry.
Anyway, I hope you have a great christmas.

chick (a few days later)
Hi

Didn't recognize your email. I too hope you have a good Christmas. Thanks
for the email.


me (the next day)

I am happy that you replied.
As long as you're not really mad at me, I would like to talk to you again
sometime.

Maybe I can make it up to you. :)

Anyway I've said exactly what I wanted to say. If it works and I end up taking her out again I will be shocked.

If it doesn't then I will just go back to my old generalizations about women and piss on them with the lot of you.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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me and r-kelly have something in common

listen to the dave chappel versions of i wanna piss on you song, funny as hell
 

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How did you act?

C&F and she called you out on it, and you bombed? - Never say you're sorry for being yourself.

Drunk and rowdy, disrespected her? Being the REAL ******* isn't C&F. If it was something like this, you pull her aside, get your **** together "Hey listen ____ I'm sorry for the way I acted, we're still cool right?" If she says yes, give her a little hug and get back to wherever. If she says no, don't apologize again. Just go about your own business.

But waiting 2 weeks to acknowledge is bad. She either forgot about it, and you brought it back up (she now associates you with a bad situation), or if it was the first choice you now look weak.

If you have a blast with a girl, she will remember you as the fun guy. If you're the ass, she will remember what she DOESNT want, and you get left in the cold.

If anything, a phone call saying sorry, or a meeting to say you're sorry would've been ideal.

Chances are she will flake now.
 
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