"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Will juggling two girls that are best mates lead to disaster?

jt4aa

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Is this a bad idea?

I've got guarenteed sex from one girl that I've met, but her mate has totally caught my attention and I want to persue her.

Am I going to have to choose one or the other or will I be able to juggle them both?

Obviously there aren't going to be any secrets as both are going to talk to each about me. The last thing I want is to end up with neither.

What do we think?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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lebRambo

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i can't believe that you had to ask this question :crackup:

yes, you idiot, dating two girls who are best mates will f*ck you up!

what do you think girls talk about if they can? BOYS! The guys they have in their lives. If the two girls who both know you are best friends, what do you think will happen?
 

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dump them both lol whats the point in that!?

>>dating two girls who are best mates will f*ck you up!

Hows it gonna f*ck me up?

I'll choose if I have to but I'm looking at the options. How does that make me an idiot please?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DJDamage

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I am sure you can but it will be tricky. If the other girl is really into you, the honor code among girls fly out the window.

The only thing is that if you anger one girl (which you will) she will tell the other all the sh1t you two been doing and they will both plot something sinister against you. That is how women who have been hurt work (their love for you will seperate the two but their hatred of you will bind them together)

I would stay away from trying that because the chances of things going your way are almost slim to none. Sarge other women who are not part of your girl social group and you will be better off.

Remember what Ludacris sang about?
"I've got hoes, in different area codes"

DjDamage
 

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Thats more like it. Cheers for the info

Jeez theres some right unhelpful idiots on here. Too busy thinking your the **** and too little time learning. Grow up.
 

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fine.


First, how do you define "disaster?" are you afraid that they will both leave you, or that one of them will cut your c0ck off? Or commit suicide? In my eyes those last two are the only disasters that can occur in a dating situation.


I say dump them both because you've reached a point where some member of your triangle has to get hurt badly. If you are truly the DJ, both will be crazy about you, you could damage their friendship or damage the self-esteem of the loser. If you are not the DJ they will both dump you, instead of having one. They will also communicate w/ eachother, if you use any of the same lines they'll know. If you use any of the same tricks they'll know. You'll stop being original and start being a set of routines.

If you choose to go with one you will never be satisfied in your decision. You'll regret dumping the sweet girl and having missed out on a fulfilling relationship. You'll regret dumping the freak and missing out on all that nasty sex. They'll question you, create drama, do you like sally more than me? Is sally better in bed? I know sally is hotter than me, why aren't you with her? blah blah blah.

If you don't care AT ALL about either of these girls then fine. If you are a human being in any way then get out now.

edit: ps, anyone who would call the X an idiot is an idiot themselves.
 

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What superchristx said. You really, really don't need all that drama in your life.

-Bill
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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UGH! dude just so you know, a friend of mines tried to do this.. and he got jacked by three girls who were friends he was gaming. The girls KNEW exactly what was going on - I would dump one or both so you won't get played.
 

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ok just to clarify a few things:

1. I'm not dating either of them. The one i'm gettin it on with now keeps setting me up with girls - her mates mostly. To be honest she's not that great looking and definately not my type so i'm only really interested in her as a FB.

2. The girl that has caught my eye is definately a girl I would like to date. She's one of the other girls best mates.

3. This is a group of friends (all girls) that I have infiltrated. It doesn't really matter if I mess it up with any of them because all that will happen is that i'll loose out on sex.

Thing is that its obvious that the girl i'm getting it on with now has a stake over me in regards to the other girls and that she secretly wants me to go out with her. I wanna get away from this if possible but i still wanna be able to get it on with her once in a while - or whenever I need sex.

I'm basically thinking like everyone says i'm just gonna have to ditch .1 and concentrate on 2.
I have been completely open to the entire group that i have been chatting them all up. At the moment they seem to be lapping it up. I realise that this will become increasingly hard to hold up however.

>>>edit: ps, anyone who would call the X an idiot is an idiot themselves.

And what u say goes right? what rediculous logic. I'm only venting because some of the people on this site act like complete c0cks. I'm here to learn and maybe help others when I get that far. Thats what I plan to do with or without the help that i get. Having said that, I appreciate the honest replies. Thanks
 
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