"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Will being good around dudes, make you better with women?

Poonani Maker

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I'm in my element, when in a room full of gun enthusiasts, fishermen, or similar men-only pursuits.

If a woman, sees/knows that you get along fine with Real men, does that improve your value to her, even though she doesn't necessarily want to be "in the mix" so to speak of manly discussions. I think it does.

I mean, they know their place, and when to go into the kitchen, when to leave, except for that RARE tomboy girl who goes out on motorcycles with no helmet, and claims to be able to do ANYthing a guy can do.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In the sense that you're all real men and being one among them is a good form of social proof.

They're also great roll models to have, their traits are bound to rub off on you all obviously that's not a bad thing providing they aren't a bunch of losers.
Which would both imply you are one and their attitudes will conflict with one which germinates success.

The quote "Show me who you walk with and I'll tell you who you are." comes to mind.

Good luck with your endeavors.
 

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I believe it helps. Social skills are important no matter what the gender. Plus women want you to have friends and other interests. Finally, I read somewhere that we get our masculinity from being around other men. Guys that have little male influence in their lives can end up a bit effeminate.
 

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Yeah from my experience. I'd say it's as simple as "being in the in-crowd" signals you're a cool dude. Hanging around with 'losers' tells people you're the same as them
 

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Well, if you are a cool guy, you get laid anyways. That is how it has always been. There can't be any harm from being around real men that do exciting things.

I find it interesting that there are lots of girls at 4x4 rock crawling events... now why in the hell would girls be there? Because only outdoorsy guys with money can afford a rock crawler... Girls who want the guys that do these things just show up at those type of events. Ever been to an MMA fight? There are so many tatted up girls in the audience its ridiculous!

It's interesting that you ask this sort of question, because most men who are out doing these manly things already have a stable of girls and wouldn't need to ask about it online.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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