"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Will being good around dudes, make you better with women?

Poonani Maker

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I'm in my element, when in a room full of gun enthusiasts, fishermen, or similar men-only pursuits.

If a woman, sees/knows that you get along fine with Real men, does that improve your value to her, even though she doesn't necessarily want to be "in the mix" so to speak of manly discussions. I think it does.

I mean, they know their place, and when to go into the kitchen, when to leave, except for that RARE tomboy girl who goes out on motorcycles with no helmet, and claims to be able to do ANYthing a guy can do.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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In the sense that you're all real men and being one among them is a good form of social proof.

They're also great roll models to have, their traits are bound to rub off on you all obviously that's not a bad thing providing they aren't a bunch of losers.
Which would both imply you are one and their attitudes will conflict with one which germinates success.

The quote "Show me who you walk with and I'll tell you who you are." comes to mind.

Good luck with your endeavors.
 

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I believe it helps. Social skills are important no matter what the gender. Plus women want you to have friends and other interests. Finally, I read somewhere that we get our masculinity from being around other men. Guys that have little male influence in their lives can end up a bit effeminate.
 

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Yeah from my experience. I'd say it's as simple as "being in the in-crowd" signals you're a cool dude. Hanging around with 'losers' tells people you're the same as them
 

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Well, if you are a cool guy, you get laid anyways. That is how it has always been. There can't be any harm from being around real men that do exciting things.

I find it interesting that there are lots of girls at 4x4 rock crawling events... now why in the hell would girls be there? Because only outdoorsy guys with money can afford a rock crawler... Girls who want the guys that do these things just show up at those type of events. Ever been to an MMA fight? There are so many tatted up girls in the audience its ridiculous!

It's interesting that you ask this sort of question, because most men who are out doing these manly things already have a stable of girls and wouldn't need to ask about it online.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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