Will any of you ever settle down?

[PeasantPlayer]

I want to be honest I was never BIG on relationships. I found them annoying and the girls acting to needy and I don't need to be told what to do or her breathing down my neck asking who I am with.

I had a few relationships.....2 hahahaha and they never lasted long. The longest was 6 months and man was it boring! Some people who just meet me and still don't know much about me and say the most annoying things ever.

I know people might think I am strange because of this and might assume things which is human nature.

After reading some replies to threads from this site from a few years ago it seems most men don't want to settle down and pretend to live in some disney movie fantasy....cool...fine, but what to do then?

 

[mr. kennedy]

It works when you're in your 20s and 30s. At some point you won't be able to attract young ladies anymore unless you have a ton going for you. So you either settle with someone or be that 55 year old weirdo hanging at the bar hoping to get something.

 

[evan12]

I like to settle down , because real men should have offspring , also it is not crime for a man to have a family , it only make you less man if you dont act as a head of the family .
what if she is slut ? well if you are really that player and PUA you should have now enough experience to hunt the good girls .

 

[Desdinova]

Been there, done that.

I could settle down with a woman who puts 5-10 years of effort into the relationship beforehand. If she's loyal and sticks by me through all the bull5hit, then she's a dedicated woman and a keeper.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

But that's my whole point. How do you know if she is a "keeper" Any woman can cheat and they are just as bad as men are at cheating, they just hide it better. Will you just keep on pretending she doesn't cheat? Or do you really believe she won't cheat? Or you just don't give a damn and have a family and say to heck with it

 

[Gunner26]

Not yet, and not for a while, but eventually yes.

I want to settle down sometime after I turn 30/35 once I've got my **** together with a good women (once I find her) and give my parents some grandkids.

Saying that I have never been in a relationship so I may change my mind if I have some bad experiences down the line haha.

Gunner

 

[PlayHer Man]

I want to be honest I was never BIG on relationships. I found them annoying and the girls acting to needy and I don't need to be told what to do or her breathing down my neck asking who I am with.

I had a few relationships.....2 hahahaha and they never lasted long. The longest was 6 months and man was it boring! Some people who just meet me and still don't know much about me and say the most annoying things ever.

I know people might think I am strange because of this and might assume things which is human nature.

After reading some replies to threads from this site from a few years ago it seems most men don't want to settle down and pretend to live in some disney movie fantasy....cool...fine, but what to do then?

I can relate to most of this post.. particularly the part about not finding relationships very appealing. I've always been a lone wolf who didn't always feel the need to "include" others in my activities, decisions and hobbies.

The idea of a woman bossing me around is laughable. Even my own mother can't tell me what to do. So with women primarily wanting power and control in relationships.. my relationships always failed once the woman learned she could never control me and I refused to follow any "rules" I didn't agree with.

Believe it or not, I've dumped or emotionally abused the majority of women I've been involved with. I just have no patience for their drama, over-sensitivity and obsession with control. I find it repulsive and it brings out my inner jerk.

So what do we do then? Well.. I just spin plates and spend the rest of my time on my personal life goals.

If your biggest goals in life are marriage, family and children, you need to re-think your priorities. Those goals will have you enslaved fast. Marriage should be totally off the table and kids should be something you do after achieving the worldly success you desire. Whatever that is.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

I feel you PLAYherman. It was just something I could not adjust to and quite simply its not just me. I think people subconsciously make the mistake of believing that being in a relationship is natural and innate. And if not you are some weird outcast. I like to "spin plates" also and ALWAYS have the opportunity to meet new women around my city, state and the world. Why stop with one have kids and get slowed down. I have some big GOALS DREAMS and aspirations I want to fulfill in one once chance here and I am sure as hell not going to give them up to be married or tied down. To me people who do that are waving the white flag of content and living their average life as human beings.I do want children, but the plan for this mystery women will be laid out no marriage and no telling me what to do....we are together but not in a relationship we are friends lovers whatever. Marriage is made up