Wierd problem with this girl, need advice

[Bestie]

Hey all

I've had a breakup recently so after it was with my second option. (She's having the same damn problem like the last one )

At first she was like hell talkative and lovely towards me, she's always been a friend of me. Since last 3 years we've been good friend's and shared a lot of things together.

She wasn't talking with me and most of the time ignoring. The time she talked was like giving me one word replies (Not dis respective, just disinterested)

So today I finally asked her the cause of this which she answered honestly (I believe)

She said she has always liked my company and always took me as her close friend but we used to talk a lot so there is no charm left. She feel bored while talking to me.

Along with this, she said that she really tried to regain the interest she had for me but it's just not working. She don't want to hurt me anymore so it's better she leave. That's what she said, so I stopped her and said we will make it work somehow. - She stopped.

Now I've figured out the problem, i was paying her ALOT more attention then that which I used to pay before.

Now there are two options going on in my mind.

Option number one:- Start ignoring her, act disinterested, and reply her HELL late so she may realize she could have lost me. Will it still make her think that I will always stick around her?

Option number two:- All of a sudden fight with her and say that she have lost interested so its better to end, then go No contact and wait that she may come back. I thought of going with this option but she may think I am double minded as I first stopped her and now after some time all of a sudden act this way.

What do you guys prefer the best? I know most of you may ask me to move on but it's a gut feeling that it's still not too late for the problem to be sorted out. I just want her to realize that she can lose me and that I have a life of my own. For which option should I go? And any advice will be good.

NOTE: Please do not say like move on etc. I want things to work out with this women. Give me the advice as what's the best thing I can do to gain her interest back. What's the thing I can do at my best to re-spark her interest and make her realize the worth.
P.S - Don't mind me asking advises

 

[TheGambino]

you have oneitis buddy, she put you on your place i know it takes time but try to spin more plates and move on, i went true something thats almost the same and moving on and nc'ing her like a DJ without arguing is the best. let her guess whats on your mind and have patience

 

[Bestie]

nc'ing her like a DJ without arguing is the best. let her guess whats on your mind and have patience

I don't get what you mean by this?

 

[like2jam]

She said that it's not working for her and it's better she leave.

Your best bet is to mirror that and say, yeah, this won't work for me like this either. Then go NC and stick with it.

Don't reply to her at all unless she's changed her mind. If you do reply, keep the replies very brief.

 

[TheGambino]

She said that it's not working for her and it's better she leave.

Your best bet is to mirror that and say, yeah, this won't work for me like this either. Then go NC and stick with it.

Don't reply to her at all unless she's changed her mind. If you do reply, keep the replies very brief.

i agree with like2jam's advice

and i mean dont get mad or so always keep your emotions under control when u deal with women

 

[Skyline]

Option number one:- Start ignoring her, act disinterested, and reply her HELL late so she may realize she could have lost me. Will it still make her think that I will always stick around her?

My advice would be to move on/Next her and find another girl who's willing to chase you around mountains and appreciate you for who you are and what you have to offer.
But you wont as you stated.

But option one is acceptable. Be indifferent/disinterested, because well you should after a rejection like that. This won't happen over night, she lost interest meaning distance and time apart MIGHT reignite that fire.

Remember to talk to other ladies so you don't develop oneitis again, and who knows you might find one that knocks your socks off. :rockon:

Option number two:- All of a sudden fight with her and say that she have lost interested so its better to end, then go No contact and wait that she may come back. I thought of going with this option but she may think I am double minded as I first stopped her and now after some time all of a sudden act this way.

She'll loose all respect for you.
That is AFC behavior. Men don't start fights. They stand their ground and suck it up and move onto better and bigger things.

Also, unless you fix your AFC behavior, the same thing is going to happen. Don't take the blue pill. :trouble:

 

[Bestie]

Be indifferent/disinterested, because well you should after a rejection like that. This won't happen over night, she lost interest meaning distance and time apart MIGHT reignite that fire.

Remember to talk to other ladies so you don't develop oneitis again, and who knows you might find one that knocks your socks off. :rockon:

Yes that's how I'm going to do. Option 1 is the best. However, if she contact me or simply drop me a text "Hey" or somehow tries to talk. How should i respond to it?

She'll loose all respect for you.
That is AFC behavior. Men don't start fights. They stand their ground and suck it up and move onto better and bigger things.

Also, unless you fix your AFC behavior, the same thing is going to happen. Don't take the blue pill. :trouble:

Yeah I'm not going to pull the plug myself, but if she did it again, i'll accept it.

But the question here is how should I act disinterested and indifferent with her? While at the same time not creating any anger in her mind. I don't want her to get heated up over me, i don't want to act in a way by which she will think that I am doing it on purpose. So what's the best way to respond her from now?