WHY YOUR GIRLFRIEND/GIRL YOUR DATING TAKES YOU FOR GRANTED.

[Chi Town]

You see it all the time, the guy is a great boyfriend/partner, then all of a sudden the girl he's involved with stops showing affection, withdrawls her attention, ignores him, constantly moody/disrespectful behavior ect, Why? Because she's taking you for granted.

Now you may say "but women always say they want a guy who worships them, or how much they love when there man spoils them"

Well, of course they like it. That's a huge boost to there ego to have a guy soooo into them that he will literally do anything and everything she says, it's very soothing to the ego. BUT, it's not what she's attracted to! But she definitely enjoys the attention.

There's literally only a very very small portion of men who understand this about women and these are the men who have there women treating them with the most respect, fvcking/sucking them when they want, and spoiling them, not the other way around.

Ask yourself this, out of all the friends you have how many of them can you honestly say wear the pants in the relationship? I only know 2. That's a sad thing fellas.

97% of men spoil there girlfriends, do everything she says, give up all there power in the relationship to the point where she's the dominant one and your the submissive.
They worship the ground she walks on and constantly bend over backwards trying to please her, again, women do want this and they do like it but only because it's soothing to her ego to have a guy whipped over her but she's not attracted to the guy who's displaying this behavior.

If your always in "GOOD boyfriend" mode 24/7 trust me when I tell you, you will be taking for granted, this is also not just with women either this is in life in general.

So what is a boyfriend suppose to do?
Your suppose to do the bare minimum! Stop going above and beyond, sure you can buy her things and do nice things for her, but do not do it all the time, sure you can express your feelings for her sometimes but don't overdue it, you only need to do the bare minimum to keep her around, that's it!

Anything past the bare minimum and your headed into dangerous areas.

Stop sending her nice sweet text messages everyday(do it every once in awhile)
Stop telling her you love her 3/4 times a day Jesus Christ! If you just told her you loved her this afternoon why are you saying it again later that night? Then the next morning? As if you think you have to keep reminding her lol.

Stop trying to be on your best behavior and trying to do everything right all the time, stop being a ***** and rock the boat sometimes
Flake sometimes(if you genuinely have something else to do) don't cancel on your friends to do something with her.

Stop constantly reassuring her how your never going anywhere ECT

I can go on and on fellas but the main point is, STOP ACTING SO WHIPPED(be whipped but don't let it change your behavior)

I know it sucks for a lot of you soft guys who are use to behaving like this but hey, it is what it is.

 

[soulforge]

This is perfect!

The only time I send anything luvy duvy to my main plate is after she has initiated it.

I may send her the occasional nice text message, showing her I care, but its bare minimum.. I let her do most of the effectionate side of things.

On the odd occasion I will buy her a gift, but thats once maybe every 3 months.

One question I have? How do you deal with a chick who sends text saying I MISS YOU

I find it hard to say, I miss you back to them.

Or if she messages I love you.. Do you always respond back in Kind?

 

[Chi Town]

I almost always respond back to "I love you or I miss you" text with some type of playful response.

Her:I miss you
Me:No you don't/you gone have to show me
Her:noooo I do
Me:come fvck me then

Her:I love you
Me:right back at you
OR
Her:I love you
Me:No you don't lol or I don't believe you

I always try to rock the boat or be playful and challenging with them.

 

[Murk]

Ok I agree with the essence here, but what about when you genuinely care and love your partner? My girlfriends have doted on me, gone above and beyond and made me feel truly appreciated and loved and to be frank that's an amazing feel. I agree not to go overboard but to make someone you love feel good is also amazing, but only if reciprocated. Your post suggests this women is all take take take. But what about when they worship you, shouldn't you worship at least a large portion of that back? No saying 50/50 but enough you both feel content with?

I don't agree that women are tools for men, you need to both feed off of and enrich each other. This notion men need nobody and are 100% whole alone is false and I don't get down with that. Fire away at me.

 

[Chi Town]

Ok I agree with the essence here, but what about when you genuinely care and love your partner? My girlfriends have doted on me, gone above and beyond and made me feel truly appreciate and loved and to be frank that's an amazing feel. I agree not to go overboard but to make someone you love feel good is also amazing, but only if reciprocated. Your post suggests this women is all take take take. But what about when they worship you, shouldn't you worship at least a large portion of that back? No saying 50/50 but enough you both feel content with?

I don't agree that women are tools for men, you need to both feed off of and enrich each other. This notion men need nobody and are 100% whole alone is false and I don't get down with that. Fire away at me.

I agree, I'm not saying never show love, appreciation and affection with a girl that you truly care about, I'm just saying most guys go overboard with it to the point where she gets waaay too comfortable and start taking you for granted.

How many times have you heard the same ole sad tale, "she was chasing me, always trying to see me, buying me things" ect
"Then I started to reciprocate the same thing back to her then all of sudden she just went cold on me" well this is why.

You don't have to worship your girl just to show her you appreciate her or you love her. You don't have to spoil her or go above and beyond to show her you love her lol. Like I stated, you only have to do the bare minimum. If your girl worships the ground you walk on then you need to keep it that way, not start acting like a *****. This is where guys fvck up.

If I told my girl I loved her on Friday, why would I need to tell 6 more times by Sunday? That's overdoing it, if I buy my girl something special I don't need to do it again next week, that's overdoing it.

"Too much of anything is bad"

Famous qoute.

Hell, if you drink too much water you will die lol

 

[Chi Town]

But what about when they worship you, shouldn't you worship at least a large portion of that back? No saying 50/50 but enough you both feel content with?

This is how it should be, but unfortunately, attraction and women don't work this way. she wants to worship you and admire you and have the up most respect for a man.

With women, there is no 50/50. If she s worshipping you or she s whipped over you and you start reciprocating this back(as any normal logical being would) she starts to sense that your becoming whipped and she will pull back from you and well, you know the rest.

This is why I said only a small portion understand this concept, some have been burnt over and over and over and over again until they finally got it(learned the hard way) and some guys have natural personalities that predispose them to behave this way without even thinking about, like me.

This is why pick up coaches often speak on the 3% of men. These are the small portion of guys who truly understand how women work. Look at your own life and your friends dating life and tell me how many guys you know who treat there women like queens and then think about who wears the pants in that relationship and how much respect she treats them with.

Then I want you to think about that 1 maybe 2 guys you know who don't Chase behind there women like a lost puppy, the guy who doesn't shower her with love and admiration 24/7 and look at how his woman treats him, then and only then you will see how real sh!t like this is.